confessorknight, we’re not giving up on the police, my mother’s just a bit sceptical about a successful prosecution.
This is my argument exactly as to wondering why the fuck they didn’t expel him straight away.
I don’t know what the school’s going to do. If needs be, I can tutor him, seeing as he’s doing physics, maths, and further maths, and wants to do particle physics at university
Thanks. He appears to be improving, but I can’t tell over the phone.
Angua… I just read this now. I definitely hope your brother’s feeling better soon.
Tell your parents NOT to back down, no matter what pressure may be brought to bear from the parents of this fucking shitty assholish boob. (there’s stronger language, but I care not to waste it on this… thing… that’s disrupted your brother and your family)
Getting this sort of things hushed up and under cover is NOT going to help… if he’s done it once, he’s probably likely to do it again. Get this story out in the open, and splashed all over the media… “special treatemt,” my foot! :mad:
Maybe if he’s had this exact thing done to him in the past, he was thinking: “I can inflict the same type of pain on someone else.” Not admirable thinking at all.
Continued best wishes for you, your brother, and your family as you deal with this. You’re all in my thoughts.
Another set of good thoughts floating acrossed the pond to you and your brother. It’s fucking sick what some people will do to another human being without any provocation whatsoever. Very glad to hear that your parents won’t back down.
Further more I second the thought of calling the Gaurdian. If you could get the right reporter charges would stick alot better. Good luck, and good wishes.
Thank you all again! He’s got to go back to the hospital this afternoon to assess the extent of the damage, so we’ll know more soon. His eye isn’t as swollen anymore, but he’s still in a lot of pain. It also seems that there are cuts around his eye socket. :eek:
I guess, because I’m not there, I can’t see what’s going on, so I’m probably even more worried.
Take it from me, nothing in hospitals ever happens exactly when it’s supposed to. Except those Godawful 5 a.m. blood draws.
I don’t know your brother at all, obviously, but I know when I was stuck in the hospital for almost 2 weeks having some hardcore leg repairs done, the food bored me to tears. I used to beg Mom to bring me Szechuan eggplant from the little takeout place near her house.
How long will he be stuck there? Can you send him a care package? I know he might have a hard time reading, what with the eye, but is there other stuff you could send him? The worst part of being in the hospital was the endless boredom, punctuated by people doing invasive prodding-type things. Plus at least it’s something concrete you can do for him besides sitting by the phone, waiting for updates.
We don’t know - its what today’s appointment is for. I will be sending him AnguaCookies next week, but I don’t know what else to send him - he can’t play computer games cause of his eye.
Quite. I may try compiling some CDs for him - maybe some Eddie Izzard stuff that I’ve got on CD, which I’m not sure he has, stuff like that.
Speaking from experience, music CDs are good, and so are books on cassette or CD. (With painkillers I know I had a hard time concentrating on actual books, but somehow listening was easier.) Also, I know I would have killed for some prepaid phone cards to call friends and family from the hospital. I don’t know how it works there, but here the phones in hospital rooms don’t work for long-distance. Also, at least your brother won’t have the mobility issues that I did, but the darn hospital staff would perpetually leave the doors open and the lights on when they left the room, so it was almost impossible to sleep. Maybe an eye mask to block out the light, or earplugs?
He’s got a huge collection of music CDs - it would be silly for me to send him any more! I know what he would love though - Monty Python sketches! I have many of them on mp3, so I shall compile a CD of those, complete with songs, and send him that as well.
Well, he’s definitely going for surgery. It seems that my brother’s double vision only manifests itself when he’s moving. This has convinced the doctors that the thin bone that holds the eye in place is either broken or shattered. If its broken, it’ll be a (relatively) simple matter to fix it. If its shattered, he’s either going to need a metal replacement. He’s going to then have surgery to correct his eye.
He’s got to go for a CAT scan tomorrow, so they can assess if there’s going to be any long term damage to any part of his brain. :eek:
My mum, naturally, is devastated, she couldn’t bring herself to tell me, so it came down to my brother to let me know. He’s keeping a real brave face about it, which is helping mum. He’s forbidden me to come over - I think he knows I’d raise merry hell at school, or at least fuss over him like nobody’s business.
The doctors have told him that he’s going to be off school until at least February or March, so mum and dad are going into school tomorrow to make arrangements.
Holy Cow! Why so long off school? 3-4 months? That must be some pretty hardcore surgery!
Especially if it’s a matter of a small broken bone rather than having to insert some kind of prosthetic, that seems awfully long to be stuck at home. From sad, sad personal experience, I’d say it couldn’t hurt to pull a medical journal article or two, to see what the issues are in situations like this. I know in my own situation, it helped me formulate halfway intelligent questions for the doctors, and made them examine the feasibility of some treatment options that they hadn’t mentioned of their own accord, some of which ended up being much more effective than some of the ones they did mention. More details than you could ever want upon request.
In the UK, does the school provide any sort of home tutoring in situations like this? It seems tragic to have him get this far behind because of something that wasn’t his fault. I think it should come out of the schmuck-face assailant’s future earnings (and/or those of his mother, who sounds like she is enabling him).
I don’t htink its the surgery per say, I think its more the other effects - such as the double vision, and I think, they’re going for a “worst case scenario” with regards to the results of the CAT scan.
That sounds like a good idea. Any chance you could email me hints/places to start?
I think they do, but I’m not au fait with the procedure. Mum and dad are going to sort this out tomorrow.
This just gets worse and worse. That kid really clocked your brother. He definitely needs to feel some consequences ( and I agree this won’t “ruin his life” unless he lets it - it’ll just make it more difficult for awhile and appropriately so ). That level of violence can’t be allowed to go unpunished by society.
I’d be happy to. First, what kinds of specialists are attending to him? A neurologist, I presume? Any others? I don’t know what the applicable UK medical specialty professional organizations are, but I can do some poking around on the U.S. side. (For me, it was the American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons, but I don’t know to what extent orthopedists deal with the bones of the head and face.)
Thank Eva. I think it’ll be an orthopedic surgeon, a neurologist, and an eye surgeon. Fucking hell. That’s an awful lot of specialists.
Quite. My brother, seeing as he’s not a minor, is the one pressing charges, and boy is he going for it. He is absolutely adamant that fuckwit will not get away with it. Don’t worry, we are not going to let this drop.
Angua, I’ve been following this, too. My sympathies and good wishes to your brother. As for the twit who attacked him, I wish it would penetrate his parents head that if pressing charges will ruin their little darling’s life, they should think about the effect his actions have had on your brother’s life. Your family aren’t the ones “ruining his life”; his family are by failing to teach him one of the most basic lessons: actions have consequences.
Strength, healing, and a certain amount of sheer, raw stubbornness in the face of bullies to your brother, and to you. Thank you for being such a good sister.
Just read this. I’m shocked. Please convey my very best wishes for his speedy recovery to your brother.
Rather than writing to the local paper, I suggest you talk to a reporter as you do not want to prejudice the case. You must stand up to bullies, even if this means a short-term disadvantage to yourself.
Do log every contact from the thug’s parents and if it gets too much, get a restraining order or somesuch.
Given your brother’s injury, I’m surprised that the charge isn’t Grievous Bodily Harm.
Angua, I’ve been following this thread and wishing well for your brother.
When Mr. Cameron was in his twenties, he was working on a piece of equipment that snapped and shot a hunk of metal into his face, right under his eye. (Safety goggles? He was twenty four, he was invincible!) He was in pretty bad shape. There was an eye doctor, and a neurologist and he definitely needed surgery. They told him there was going to be a lot of scarring, not just from the metal but from the way they were going to cut in to do the surgery. Then a plastic surgeon got into the deal. I don’t know how, because I didn’t know Mr. Cameron then–thank Og, I’d have been beside myself.
Anyway, the plastic surgeon got involved with planning the whole surgery, and today there’s only the faintest scar under Mr. Cameron’s eye, and the only other remnant of the accident is that when he’s tired, that eyelid droops.
My point is, someone went through something similar and is fine today–it was a long haul, like it will be with your brother, but barring the discovery of new, unsuspected damage it seems to me there’ll be a good chance he’ll be okay. My other point is, maybe you want to suggest consulting with a plastic surgeon, depending on how they’re doing the surgery.
I really, really hope this fuckhead gets what’s coming to him, and I’m looking forward to hearing about it. Dear god, I couldn’t believe it when I read your OP, and the subsequent posts.
