I don’t smoke, but I’ve been given the stink eye by mothers for any number of innocent non-child-having activities before, such as: wanting to pass by in a crowded aisle at the grocery store, holding hands with my fiance in public, and standing in aforementioned hidden smoking area in Animal Kingdom. Og forbid you actually don’t try to drag your sumo stroller down the stairs into the smoking cesspit and lecture smokers about their bad habits while your fat eight year old breathes in smelly sneakers and cigarette smoke! There are good parents out there who can function perfectly normally until someone who’s visibly untethered to children or a spouse or that smoke, and then somehow they have to freak out.
Lobstermobster, I can understand your frustration, as that’s quite a distance to be overhearing a kid of any age making verbal commentary on your habits. I am quite often known to give dirty looks to people who have kids who are destroying displays in stores while giving them the “oh, they’re so precious!” stargazing looks.
Well, we all know out here in Cali, it’s a skankwich.
LM, your artwork made my day. Bonus points for the cute little bow in your hair, although you should really quit smoking because you look waaayyyy underweight in that drawing…you’re actually skinnier than the cig! :eek:
Actually, the really funny thing I’m noticing here is that some posters here are expecting that the self-control of a seven year old child should be automatic while the 23 year old feels that self-control is “exhausting”. Can anybody give me a :rolleyes:?
The thing is, I’m always pretty concious about where I’m smoking. If I’m around children I won’t light up. I don’t smoke in the smoking areas at work because I don’t want my co-workers to know. I just didn’t think anything of it when I was smoking that particular time (see drawing) because they were across the street and they had nothing to do with me. Apparantly all my efforts to be considerate ever have not paid off. I smoke. I like to smoke. But I made that decision for myself and I don’t like making other people espeically children breathe it in. This is what is going through my mind when the child ahole scolded me.
And yeah I probably deserve an eyeroll for the dozens of times I’ve chosen to not put the brakes on my reaction. For every time my verbal diarrhea almost got me punched in the face but we are who we are. A lot of people don’t like me. Its always been like that. However the people that do usually appreciate that I’ll say what they are thinking. take it or leave it.
FWIW, I do empathize. I never faced that stuff when I was a smoker, but I can see how I would’ve gotten tired of it real fast if I did. The only time I was ever close to harassed about it was when a cop told me to put out my cigarette because I was in a non-smoking area on campus. I ignored him; he had a bunch of unruly Police Academy trainees to corral (who wouldn’t have lasted five minutes in the Air Force, judging from their complete lack of discipline when he went into a criminal justice office for a few minutes and left them outside in formation). Nothing happened.
Look, I proofread text all day long some days and I really enjoy writing on this message board stream of consciousness style. The spelling will always be bad the grammar will always be bad so what WILL be exhausting is you being anal annie on me everytime i fuck up. I think we all have made enough typos to know that just because we write poorly on a recreational message board doesn’t mean we dont know how to speak the english good.
Whatever gets you off. That Anal Annie stuff sounds pretty hot.
To be fair, I was standing right next to a classroom door, with a class in it, and the area was somewhat enclosed by a walkway. I think the construction people put it there so debris wouldn’t fly at the students, or something. But it was still pretty open, even if it wasn’t open directly upwards and directly forwards from where I was standing.
So, would you be willing to accept this as a response?
LM, would you be cool with her if she responded to you thusly?
Look, just to be clear…this has nothing to do with smoking, just everything to do with self-control. That is why I cut out the first half of your quote…that is immaterial.
Well, after the drawing I am torn - very funny. But what you did was still wrong - yes the kid was outta line (I would’ve severely disciplined mine - and have had to sigh), and the mom was worse, but two wrongs and all…
lobster, have you ever considered that if you stopped thinking of everyone else as an asshole or potential asshole, and acting accordingly, you might not be in a perpetual state of rage?
