In other words, the answer to rickjay’s question is Pittsburgh.
The first princess to marry in white was Mary Queen of Scots - she married in white because she liked the way she looked in it.
Of course, the white dress is attributed to Queen Victoria, but everyone seems to forget Queen Mary of Scotland.
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I’ve never been married, but I have a kiddo. Does that mean white would be absolutely tacky?
I’m not getting hitched anytime too soon, but it’s sometime in the future. I should probably wear gray or something. haha.
Maybe I just made this up in my head, but when I was married, even though I wasn’t virgin, I wore white and a full veil.
My thinking was the veil was the symbol of the marriage, more so than the gown. You have it covering you before you are married, and your husband lifts it at the cermony.
When my husband died, at the funeral, I wore a black dress and a short veil. Although the veil was pulled back when I came into the service, and I pulled it over my face when the service was finished, symbolizing going into mourning.
Like I said, maybe I just made this up in my head, I don’t know where I got the idea that was the right thing to do, it just felt right.
Have you considered she may be doing this because his parents and family do not know she was married before?
Only, to be absolutely correct, if you’re wearing a blusher (the part of the veil that comes down in front of your face), your father or whoever “gives you away” is supposed to lift it.
Oh, get over it, Guin.
With eleventy-thousand posts or whatever it is, you, of all people, should know enough by now to recognize a comment that’s half joke and half trenchant comment on the silliness of pretending white dresses are only for virgins. Especially when I’d already dismissed it as controversial. It’s absurd to pretend the white dress/virgin connection means a damn thing anymore.
I agree with you on the white dress=virgin theory. I’m sorry I didn’t realize you were joking. I’m just in a really foul mood today.
This thread has been quite interesting on the social history and changing meaning of white wedding dresses & veils. Apparently white can be worn more than once–although an older bride might not look her best in the archetypal flounces, ruffles & bows. Something sleeker might work–ivory satin rather than blinding organdy & lace?
The main problem may be that discussions of the upcoming nuptials will apparently dominate the OP’s workplace for the next few months. Will the unblushing bride manage to wangle a shower or two–& perhaps a reception back in the USA? Opportunities for giftgiving will, no doubt, abound. Wonder where she’s registered? Forget that she’s recently divorced & currently living with her next groom–surely, she’ll follow those customs set up for young things feathering their first nests…
I can see the invitations now: “We have registered at Williams Sonoma, Pottery Barn, and Expensive Fripperies R Us. We’re looking forward to your money on our special day!”
Well, they’ll probably find out when they question the lack of a Catholic wedding with mass…
Either way, if they are diehard traditionalists, the snarkfest there will be something else: if it’s because he’s not marrying a Catholic or if it’s because it’s not being held with a mass!
I think that came from parents of the bride, desperatly pretending that their daughter is still a virgin.