Lavender, I’m going out on a limb here and suggest you’ve never lost a spouse, and have no idea what it’s like, even if, in your opinion, the dead spouse was a terribly messed up person. IT’S BEEN (generously) 4 MONTHS SINCE SHE DIED. I suggest compassion for your father, rather than greed for the things he how owns, would be in order. Losing a spouse to death is one of the most horrible things that will ever happen to a person-and I hope it never happens to you. Chances are it will, and let us know how’re you’re feeling then.