We are men.
Subtle hints don’t work
Unsubtle hints don’t work.
Suggestions don’t work.
Pretty much letting us know doesn’t work.
Tell us what you want.
Thanks for the responses. I e mailed her the link here to see your replies. What it is is she knows him as a friend, and she sent him a card saying she wanted him that way.
She has trouble being that upfront with guys so if you think she was too subtle…she probably was.
Its nice to know what I heard isn’t true.
I’ll take “Obscure Holidays” for $400, Alex.
How did she say it? Short of “I want your cock in me” there’s a possibility he didn’t realize. Especially since they were just friends before.
I’d happily take subtle. What I tend to get are obscure, indirect, five-letter-block-encrypted communiques that require an NSA analyst to decipher. By then, though, like you said, it’s too late.
Completely false. And a lot of men have no clue they’ve just been propositioned.
Some women flirt just for attention or self-assurance. If the guy she liked had been the subject of that from a few women in the past he might be convinced that a woman giving him the sign doesn’t mean she’s actually willing.
All my life I thought I was weird because I also won’t have sex with anyone offering, unlike my horny friends. I’m glad to know I’m not alone.
The card said she wanted to jump his bones.
It was pretty true when I was a bit younger.
‘Pretty much let him know’? Please tell your girlfriend that we guys usually need to be explicitly (fnarr) told. She may think she’s giving off signals, but many guys simply won’t notice them or think ‘She can’t possibly be…’. This is the age of sexual equality. This also applies to asking people for sex.
And, being a man, he probably thought “Hey, I had NO idea she had a motorcycle and was into Evil Kenevil type stunts. That is SO cool. But I don’t have a big pile of bones in my back yard. This doesnt make any sense. What COULD this mean? I am stumped I tell you”.
Ladies, if their is ANY way possible for a man to misinterprete your “signals” in a way that you do not desire, it has a fairly high probability of happening.
And, he would probably take the cock thing as meaning she want him to fix her a chicken dinner.
We aren’t pieces of meat! Some of us like to be romanced!
I think a lot of young men feel like they have to at least claim to be willing to have sex with any woman that is willing lest they look gay.
Do you know the precise phrasing of the card? It would help to know it.
If she’s ok sending a card that is quite forward, maybe she’s ok asking him on a date.
It’s possible that he just doesn’t fancy her. If so, that need not reflet all that badly on her. Surely she’s turned down some men even though they weren’t hideous. I can happen with men too.
Amusing, yet true. If a woman comes on like gangbusters it can alert one’s crazy-detectors, and self preservation kicks in.
On the other hand, if he actually likes her on any level, he may not want to go to the horizontal mambo phase without considering the effect on their current relationship. If they hang in the same social circles he has to decide whether he wants to escalate to girlfriend/boyfriend, or risk the one-night-stand-you-never-call-I-hate-you route. It is much easier not to change the level of the relationship, as it could disrupt the rest of his social set.
This sounds a lot like something you said you did. Is it normal in your neck of the woods to proposition a man by sending him a card?
She sent him a card saying she wanted to get it on with him? I think that’s probably far enough outside customary social interaction that the guy is a bit weirded out.
I was watching Season 3 of Jersey Shore yesterday and the guys were weirded out by this girl chasing them around the club. If those mimbos will turn down free sex, you know that most men probably will.
I’m a straight male, fully functional. I once turned down a four way. And by four way I mean me and three women. All I could think of at the time was that getting any of the three pregnant would be a total disaster.
Edit to add that on my personal 1-10 attractiveness rating scale, it was two 4s and a 3.