The guy is very attracted to Stoid and she’s flattered by the attention. Maybe consider getting together for a pizza and see how it goes? Make it clear that it’s just for pizza and nothing else. 
If he’ll slow down and talk then maybe a friendship or even a relationship can come out of it.
Any other young guys you know interested in mowing the gray lawn?
I see what you did there.
What amuses me is that you’ll endure these unbelievably inappropriate advances all for the sake of saving a few bucks on some yardwork.
Hilarious.
Seems to me Stoid wants someone to tell her it’s okay to reply with, “First, what’s in it for me? What do I get?”
Lots of people look fuckable after you eat a couple of zanny bars.
I am so glad I’m not the only one who thought that.
“endure”? How is it “enduring”? You make a couple of emails sound like attempted rape.
I don’t really think he’s very attracted to me at all. I think it’s more of a “she’ll do” kind of thing. He’s very shy (no, really…which is why this is so bizarre) and insecure, and he feels comfortable with me. Between having to make a lot more effort to score with a totally unknown younger, prettier woman, and trying to do so with comfy me in spite of my lack in the looks department, he’s more concerned with his anxiety issues.
And I’m not interested in a relationship. I have no desire to have pizza with him. I have no problem with casual sex as a concept, not a bit. I’ve been incredibly slutty at various times in my life… but with this particular guy, this particular way… all too strange.
He kinda reminds me of Travis Bickle taking Cybill Shepherd out…to a porno. Totally unaware of how unappealing it is…cluelessness in the extreme. (But nothing else Bickle-like, just that)
For the record, I never want or need anyone to tell me it’s okay to do anything at all. Ever. I am very pleased when people I care about approve of my actions and choices, but I rarely seek anyone’s approval for anything. On the infrequent occasions when I do, it’s from people I know and respect and care about, not an internet forum community.
No disrespect meant, of course, but it’s closely related to the reason I don’t really get embarrassed by doing things in public that other people would probably find embarrassing: why should I care about the opinions of people I don’t know? Perhaps the people pointing and laughing at me are mean, stupid, cruel, thoughtless, rude folks who kick puppies…and why would the opinions of such people matter? No one’s opinion counts for much with me unless I know who they are and how they think and I feel confident that they have a world view that I respect to begin with.
This question confuses me…
If this guy is so poor he can’t do laundry, how do you know he isn’t just selling the Xanax?
What do his anxiety problems have to do with this? Is the point that he’s socially anxious and that’s part of your surprise he is asking for sex? Or just anxious in general?
I know I’ll regret saying anything.
How about “trimming the airstrip”? :dubious:
Yeah, okay, I hear you, I understand.
I guess I’m a bit naive because I’m surprised that Tex would be so bold, brash and vulgar.
What amuses me is that Stoid actually thinks that the yardwork will get done!
The Xanax was the least of it. The whole relationship sounded inappropriate in terms of normal social boundaries. I think the poor guy’s confused.
Please elaborate. What are the normal social boundaries you have in mind?
Stoid, it’s apparent by this thread and many, many before it, it’s way too late to learn normal social boundaries.
Stoid, you are a good poster & help make this Board fun. That said, please don’t let this guy on your property unsupervised again? He has no boundries & wants to hump you like a Chinese Zoo trying to pass off a horse as a camel.
None of us want to read about this on CNN. Please be safe.
You’re sweet. No worries, he’s harmless.
Or more recently, a Chinese zoo trying to pass a dog off as a lion. 
Well…the kind where people typically don’t have “pretty personal” conversations about babies dying, family acrimony, prescription meds that might help them with mental health issues, etc. with people they barely know. Most people, when they’ve engaged a nodding-acquaintance neighbor over to do some handyman-type work talk about, you know, the weather or general chitchat about the neighborhood, but don’t go down the road of discussing family drama that ends up leading to tears and hugs. This is not a judgment of your personal style as much as it is a potential explanation as to why he’s feeling particularly close to you out of proportion to what YOU think the relationship is.