Umm...gosh...no, I don't actually want to suck your cock, but...thanks for asking?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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First of all…to everyone: I’m a speed freak*, remember? I rarely take downers of any kind, and when I do, it’s generally to help me sleep or quiet RLS. I get them for anxiety, but they make me sleepy so they suck for daytime use. Better is beta blockers, which I use instead during the day. No mental alteration at all, other than to quiet anxiety.

They also are probably helping my blood pressure, which is remarkably good given my age, weight, and speed-freakitude; I finally got a monitor with a proper-sized cuff and I’ve bene tracking regularly, both on and off medications, and I’m extremely pleased that it averages 125/70 and my pulse 65. Amazing. I’m crazy grateful for it, for sure.

Well, now that you’ve explained your thinking, I will elaborate in reply.

He’s not “hot”. To me “hot” is not interchangeable with “cute”. They can both exist in the same person, (probably at different times) but they are not the same thing. This is cute. This is hot. This is cute and hot. And this is a man whose beauty is so extreme it borders on the cartoonish, but who in no way whatsoever strikes me as sexually appealing. And this is someone whose suggestion of a blowjob would find me instantly on my knees because I adore him inside and out.

Having said that (and enjoyed going through pictures to pick out yummy fellas… ) I said Tex was cute. He is, in a bland sort of blonde way. His appearance is fine, just not particularly sexy to me. But that isn’t the reason I instantly realized that I found the suggestion completely unappealing. There are several, but upon first receiving the initial email, I had a visceral response…my gut sort of turned over and I realized that the instant my mind saw the words, it leapt to a memory of being physically close to him, probably when I gave him a hug, and how much I disliked his personal scent. It wasn’t body odor, it was just the way he smelled, and it was the kind of scent that I just cannot stand. I can’t describe it, it’s too subtle, it’s just…gah. No no no! I am all about smells, in all kinds of ways, and very much when it comes to sex. If your scent is not appealing to me, it doesn’t matter what you look like or who you are, it’s dead in the water.

Add to that his overall strangeness, uninteresting persona, and not least the vulgar, tasteless, completely unappealing approach that in no way made me feel desirable or comfortable at all, and the reaction was decidedly no, I don’t want to.

His second approach was marginally better, but hardly enough to overcome everything else.

And finally… I’m just not all that sexually oriented these days, between one thing and another. I had an extraordinarily satisfying sex life for a very long time, which I completely appreciated in the moment, and I am acutely aware of how unsatisfying random sexual activities with fundamentally meaningless people really are…so not worth it. It would take a lot to get me interested in sex these days.

I wouldn’t mind some necking, though. Do love that.

*I have ADD, been medicated since 2005.

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Yeah, there’s nothing I personally like more than sucking face with someone who’s gurning and sweating and has severe dry mouth.

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The funny thing is watching people who think treating any human being the way they are treating Stoid think they have any clue about normal social interactions.

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The fact that you don’t understand how fucking wrong it is to even ask that question is what floors me.

And you’d really have sex with someone who flakes on agreed upon work and thinks that they can make up for it by asking to have sex with you? Wow.

I can’t imagine having such low standards. He’s hot and has a boner–let’s do him!

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:wink:

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I’m with ya. I just read the whole thread yesterday and did a lot of laughing, but I’m completely puzzled by why some people are so angry and judgmental. :confused: Weird!

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[QUOTE=BigT]
And you’d really have sex with someone who flakes on agreed upon work and thinks that they can make up for it by asking to have sex with you? Wow.
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No one would have asked me something so inappropriate twice. I would have distanced myself from this person after the first email and would not want them doing any work for me.

People do not ask me for my meds, for spare change, or to do odd jobs to help them out, or for sexual favors because I set boundaries with people for what is appropriate in any given circumstance. I do not drive around seeking them out again after they have acted in a very bizarre manner toward me. You teach people how to treat you. When you allow people to cross boundaries, they feel comfortable doing it more frequently. So really his behavior was being inadvertently encouraged by stoid.

Not sure where you got that I would have had sex with this person, BigT.

And thank you, stoid, for clarifying. So what I’m understanding now is that, while the attention was flattering, you were not sexually attracted to this man. I didn’t think I was way off base for asking, since I got the impression that in your younger years you may have entertained bumping uglies with a cute acquaintance. I see nothing wrong with that personally, minus the other weirdness surrounding this guy.

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Shut up, BigTard.

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Here’s a warning for you. You should know easily enough by now not to insult others outside of the Pit.

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I thought it was the pit :smack:

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So did I, given the thread title and all. I came this close II to receiving your warning.

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I’m willing to share if it makes you feel better.

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Na, he’d rather have some dog benzos. Anally.

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Wouldn’t we all!

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I kind of get the judgmental part. The Xanax sharing was mildly disapproved of the first time around. Then we get into the second round, where she goes BACK to the guy who made a thoroughly inappropriate pass at her to save a few bucks, and admitted to bringing Dog Ass Valium to her grieving friends.

I appreciate that pharmaceuticals can help people cope during a period of intense emotion, but it’s harder to appreciate the idea of dropping trou, lubing up and shoving a syringe in your ass while mourning the loss of a family member.

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Is it like an intravenous injection, where you pull back a little on the syringe first?

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I’ve had quite the Monday morning. I could use some ass Valium.

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This thread continues to deliver.

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Nothing could top dog ass valium.

Yes, that’s a challenge! :smiley:

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It’s already been patiently explained that veterinary valium is the same as human valium. Administering it anally is the most effective, quickest way to get it into the system of a dog having seizures. I realize it’s a lot of fun to make jokes about administering “dog” valium anally to a human, but it’s not the delivery method that would be used. It’s striking me as pretty juvenile and ignorant to go on like it is.