A week or so ago a very pretty (but timid) little kitty (looks around 6m old) started hanging around in our yard trying to attract the attention of our middle-aged neutered female kitty, Coco. Coco was at first disinterested, then made active efforts to shoo the other cat away, and has now reverted to total meh.
So the kitty was up on our deck miaowing like crazy an hour ago and we managed to grab him only to find two very prominent little balls. I’d already suspected he was an un-neutered male because of his wide jowls, but the testes clinched it.
Why is he hanging around here? Is there some remote chance that the vet didn’t quite fix our Coco ENOUGH and she’s still exuding pheromones or something?
Ideas??
and he’s found a friend. My cat, neutered since kittenhood, when he finds a new “cat friend” he will beg to go outside when he hears or sees the neighbor cat outside.
And, my neighbors have both unspayed and spayed females. He wants to sniff, play with, or fight with the other cat. No mystery here, no breeding wanting to take place I assure you.
Perhaps he’s an abandoned pet and requires help from humans to survive … it’s YOU he’s meowing at …
I ended up with a kitten, once, because of a similar situation. My aunt had two fixed female cats and happened to live in near a popular kitten dumping ground. Her cats were allowed outside for part of the day and always had access to the garage.
This one male kitten was determined to become part of that cat family. He’d try to play with her cats and would follow them into the garage. Her cats did not react well to that, but that didn’t deter him.
My aunt called me to see if I could take him. I had gotten another kitten a few months before, which she hadn’t known about. But the pet deposit covered up to two cats, so what the heck. He was smaller than my kitten, who was also not happy to share a home, at first. But once the older kitten figured out the playing thing, they got along great.
My older kitten was male, so I doubt that the sexual status of other cats matters when a kitten just really has that urge to play.
Forgot to add - when dumped kittens were in groups, they played among themselves and begged for food. This guy was a singleton. No clue whether he was missing his siblings.
I’m guessing he’s young, likely has some experience with humans, and was probably dumped. He should be neutered, and if you can stand another cat, it sounds like he likes you. Otherwise, he needs a home. The fact that you have another cat may help, but he sounds friendly and a good prospect for pet.
I would volunteer to help out, but as I recall you are quite a bit too far away to make that work. Are there any vets or shelters in your area that offer neutering clinics? Those are usually low cost.
Yeah, I think you have a kitty who needs a new home, or help in finding his old one.
Call a local no kill shelter. Now.
Yeah, it’s a misconception that cats are antisocial. They’re just individually social. Humans and dogs form bonds to entire groups: If, for instance, you meet someone who went to the same college as you, you’re likely to feel a certain level of camaraderie with them, because you both have a connection to the same group. Cats don’t do that. With cats, it’s all “I like that cat, and I like that other cat, and I HATE THAT CAT OVER THERE RRAWRR!”. This makes it very hard for cats to form large groups, because every pair of cats needs to like each other for it to work, but two cats liking each other is just as easy as two dogs or humans liking each other.