hmm, “poor gir”? I’m sure she could have found someone else to buy her mojito’s. If she wanted.
Heh, what a gossipy bunch you are.
Let’s see …
Barchetta: Still ticking.
Kittenblue: Never said anything about being dateless. I had an outing on Friday night (which actually went on into Saturday afternoon) with another girl unrelated to this story. Yes, I’m a salvo dater. I tend to ramp up several dates all for one weekend, not unlike those “speed dating” events you’ve probably heard of. 
Sturmhauke and everyone else: I did. We had a cup of joe yesterday at the aforestated shopping mall. Good coffee, good company. The only goal that goes through my head when opening with a girl is “how can I make her laugh”, and this one I nailed repeatedly.
The goal, not the girl. Not yet, anyway. Sorry, was that too risque for MPSIMS? 
I was really just hoping to get similar stories from other guys in this thread, and I did get a couple … but if it means anything to those interested, they’re both great girls and I’ll definitely be seeing each again. Thanks for the interest (and egging me on about it, even though I didn’t need to be egged), everyone. 
Haha, I read this as “They’ll definitely be seeing each other.” Good luck with that one!
I sort of meant HER being dateless! I think I’m projecting a bit of my own frustration into this story. There is a very cute guy, single, my age, who comes into my store frequently and flirts with me. I finally got up the nerve to give him my number, and he hasn’t called. So after waiting a lot longer than he deserves, I have given up on him. Oh, he still comes in and flirts, but he isn’t getting as much of my attention when he does. If after a month he hasn’t found the time to call even just to chat, then I know that his flirting isn’t sincere, and I really don’t have time to waste waiting around for him. So don’t be surprised if, by the time you decide to call this girl, she has decided you weren’t worth any more attention.
Kitten,
From the sound of your admonishing bit about “not being surprised if”, it would seem as if you stopped reading my post two lines in and began to assume the opposite of what the actual outcome was.
Your admission to “projecting” supports this trend of assumption, evidenced by the story you shared. You’re lucky he came back if he hasn’t called. If he’s still flirting, maybe he’s still testing the water to determine your intent, and you should just flat out tell him to call. If you think he’s just flirting for the sake of it, call him out on it and tell him to call. If you think he’s cute and he’s still coming back to talk to you, tell him to call.
Your situation is essentially the same as mine was on the other end of the spectrum, and you didn’t even come forward to share it like I was asking in the OP. Shame on you. Yours is far more ideal than mine was, too … I had one encounter with very little opportunity to assess her intent (either as a helpful salesperson, or as genuinely personal) but I still took the chance. You’ve had several opportunities and neither of you has made a move. This thread was meant to be less about dating than about the sociobehavioral aspect of determining someone’s interest in a situation where it’s hard to really be certain. You really don’t have any excuse if he’s still coming in to see you, so stop assuming, tell him to stop waffling, and to call you.
Or you could ask for his number and call him. Or next time he comes in, you could drag him into a back room…
So, now we’re back to Post #6?
I thought you only wanted stories from guys! 
And my particular guy has been “testing the waters” for three months now. And I HAVE asked him out…he didn’t quite understand that I was asking HIM out, and not just asking if he ever wanted to see a particular movie. Then, when he asked me to bake some cookies for him, I gave him my numbers and TOLD him to call me and let me know what day he’d be working again so I could bring them in…he didn’t call, but did show up looking for his cookies, at which time I reminded him that he was supposed to call first. Meanwhile all his coworkers are telling me that he’s irresponsible and not worth the effort, whereas I just want to do what ** sturmhauke** suggested and drag him into the storage room.
I’m glad you finally called your pocketsquare girl and met for coffee. I did sort of miss that in your response to sturmhauke…ya sorta slid it in there, and I got confused and thought the coffee thing was with one of the other two dates.
Kitten,
Given the details you’ve revealed, I think it’s easy to see why his co-workers are singing such praiseworthy tunes about him. Either he’s fucking with you for his own personal entertainment or he’s really just clueless … or more likely, it’s a combination of the two and he’s one of those eclectic types that goes around being impossible to figure out just for the sake of it. I know, because I’ve been known do the same thing. It’s fun, but only for the person doing it. If he had genuine interest, he wouldn’t be doing it at all, much less for three months.
I find there are two types of people in the world. Those who play the game and those who don’t, or, those who can intepret intent through body language and those who need everything spelled out for them. The vast majority of dating and relationship stories seem to consist of the latter because more often than not one of the people involved just doesn’t “get it” and need everything explained to them, and even then they probably still don’t get it. Their radar is offline and they’re a blinking command prompt requiring instructions to proceed, and they’re always the people who are bitching about their dysfunctional relationships because they’re too inept to communicate on any level, much less an unspoken one. You haven’t even gone out with the guy and it’s already at that stage.
Point being … he’s exactly the person I’m referring to, and I’m afraid you might become one as well if you allow yourself to get strung along by some putz like that. I’m sure you haven’t lost sleep over it, but if you ever do go out with him, don’t be surprised if you find his rabbit hole to be considerably deep. That being said, feel free to take advantage if the opportunity presents itself and you’ve no reservations (i.e. an empty store and the key to the back room) but I wouldn’t bet any chips on him. Don’t worry about it, keep trying, and before you know it you’ll find a guy who “gets it”.
You will, of course, be obligated to tell us all about that when that happens.
Yeah, that dude sounds like trouble, whether intentional or not. He might be good for a roll in the merchandise, but probably no more than that.