I need advice!
Back story: When I first starting seeing the current boyfriend, he was very keen on going down on me- just about every time, really. And, of course, I reciprocated with pleasure, because I enjoy it (not that I’d want to do it for 8 hours straight or something, but you know) and I know I’m really good at it.
Anyway, after about 7 months together (about a month ago), he just sort of… stopped. It wasn’t obvious or anything, and I figured he was tired or something at first, but it’s been way to long for just tired. Instead of going down on me, he’ll just finger me, and that about covers it. Of course I still give him BJs, I never stopped, and I don’t want to stop, but now I’m starting to feel a little… well… cheated. Every time I go over I think he’ll end the oral celibacy, but he never does.
I’ve thought about asking him about it, but I’m so fucking insecure ANYWAY and I feel like, if I did ask him or guilt him into performing oral, I’m sure I’d never enjoy it because I’d feel like he was only doing it from some sense of obligation.
So anyway, it looks as if I’m not going to ask for it, he’s not going to volunteer, and I’m considering breaking off the relationship. He’s never really been that inventive in bed from the start, but I felt satisfied before and now I no longer do. I haven’t gained weight or stopped showering or anything.
This is my first longish term relationship. Is this par for the course? He doesn’t seem to have lost interest in me otherwise. Do men get… lazy after a few months? Have you ever broken up with someone b/c they wouldn’t go down?