Perhaps he has an issue with the odor-some gals have it, some don’t…
While I agree with those that say communication is of the utmost importance, I actually did break up with someone who’s elevator didn’t go all the way down. Well, that wasn’t the whole reason, but it was a contributing factor. I’m hip to the notion that a closed mouth doesn’t get fed, but I really only enjoy that particular activity if my partner is doing it because it turns* him on * . I remember reading an article in Maxim that was kind of a how- to on cunnilingus and rule number one was to let your partner know there is nothing in the world you dig more than eating her pussy. It’s not that I can’t have good sex without oral foreplay; heck sometimes I’m not even in the mood for that part, but I like a guy that* likes to go down * just because * he * likes it, and not just to get me turned on. This may just be a personal quirk of mine, but if your reason for not asking him for what you want are along these lines, I say break it off. You will not enjoy it if you think you’ve coerced or guilted him inot it. If you haven’t spoken up just because your shy about it, there’s still hope. Just muster up your courage, liquid courage if need be, and tell him how much you want his mouth *all * over you.
Oh, just say something! Really, stop being an insecure ninny!
You should have brought this up earlier. The longer you wait, the more awkward it will get. Try to be nice at first when you ask him why he doesn’t go down on you anymore. I agree, btw, with Anaamika: ask him about it out of bed.If his answers are vague and noncommittal, get pushier. The odor thing might be an issue (although, to be blunt, I like the smell of ripe pussy; maybe it needs to be less sparkling clean). If he still balks, be an asshole about it; Ghanima’s advice is not unfounded. At least you’ll feel like less of a sucker (no pun intended) and more like a woman insisting on what she is entitled to. If you helplessly let things continue as they are, your resentment level will rise and your self-respect level will plummet. If he won’t knuckle under, dump him; however, at this point, I dunno if you really want him to knuckle under…he may start resenting you. Plus, he’ll just get lazy again. Dump him with extreme prejudice. If you’re blowing him, you’re entitled. It’s that simple. Don’t let anyone suggest otherwise.
There’s something else. Demand if you have to, but don’t nag. You’ll inwardly feel weak and he might get pissed enough to dump you. Then you’ll really feel like an idiot. To reiterate, tell him to put out or get out.
I agree with everyone else: before I read all of the replies, my thought was that you should dump him – not because of the sex, but because you’ve been together for 8 months and can’t talk candidly about it. And if you’re so insecure that you don’t think you’d be able to talk candidly with any boyfriend, you need to be single for a while and get some counseling.
That would be nice on a cross-stitch sampler.
Or would that be a crotch stitch sampler?
Y chomosome checking in:
I’ve had 2 GF that come to mind in this thread, 1 that could only come that way, and 1 that couldn’t. Guess which got the most tongue, but I wouldn’t have known if she hadn’t told me. Now I can’t tell you that I’m hot to go down every single time, but I did with her because I was in it for both of us. As someone mentioned there are a lot of things that happen in the beginning of a relationship that taper off as things get settled, you have to decide which ones are important, and make your case. He may not have noticed he was letting it slide, or he may have made a decision to be selfish. Assume the first, after all it’s a pretty common human behaviour.
Now having said that, Ghanimas approach would make me WANT to get down and worship her pagan idol in the heart of the ruby fruit jungle until the gods were pleased 
You have two options. Talk to him about it. Or - dump him and find a psychic boyfriend.
My future mother-in-law is really good at those. Shall I ask her to make me one
Astorian82, think about what you’re asking. You get naked with this man. You take his body into your mouth and various other orifices. He’s done pretty much the same to you. As the saying goes “you have exchanged intimate bodiy fluids”.
And you don’t think you can ask him a simple question? :smack:
You know there’s a reason 11 year olds aren’t allowed to have sex! And while you may have an older body, you are stuck in an 11 year old mental groove.
Ask him what the hell has changed!
You’ll be licking her boyfriends eyebrows? Gross!
Here’s thought for the OP, maybe you were ‘less than enthusaistic’ a couple of times he went down on you and he felt that you weren’t getting satisfied in that manner so he quit. He didn’t talk to you about it, now you’re not talking to him.
Goes both ways.
Have a sit down conversation and ask him what he really likes in bed. After he gives his answer he’ll ask you what you really like in bed. Then all you need to say is, “I like it when you do ____.” Simple really.
Here’s my orgasm and it’s all your fault.
Maybe it’s the cheesecurds and dreadlocks.
I disagree with the “talk about it away from the bed” advice on this one. I think the first step here should be to muster up the courage to simply ask for what you want, right there in bed (take a deep breath first and be open to whatever response may come). Maybe he just needs to know you really like it, and it is such an ego boost to get asked.
This is an important exchange in all areas that somehow gets hosed up at some point in evolving relationships. You have to be willing to ask for what you want AND be willing to accept no. But you have to give your partner the choice. And you both have to take risks of rejection and of hurting each other’s feelings. Life lesson: get used to it.
Perhaps if you brought a can of whipped cream to bed it might spur him into action.
Next time you’re in bed, get on top.
Of his face.
I agree with everyone else saying ASK HIM, but I’ll also say, if he just kinda won’t answer directly or just goes 'no reason…" you, uh (remember, you asked for advice), might wanna ask your doctor to check you out for a yeast infection or something else down there…
You’re thinking of dumping him because you’re unwilling to bring up the subject? You know, with this kind of thinking you will never last very long in a relationship. LTRs sometimes involve serious talking about things you don’t want to have to bring up. That’s just how it is–unless of course you’ve got the aforementioned psychic boyfriend.