Echoing the above - Silver Fire, doing everything that you are doing in spite how you are feeling is being strong and brave. A person who does not know fear also does not know bravery. Bravery is facing up to something that you don’t want to have to do, and doing it anyway. You are indeed a wonderfully brave and strong person, and I for one admire you for everything that you are doing for your mom, and for your dad as well.
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Well, I just got back from the hospital. And my mom didn’t come home with me. They want to keep her until they know she can eat without getting sick. (Today will be the first time she’s eaten something other than Jello since she got there.) She also has a meeting with a surgeon later this afternoon. They think that her problem may either be scar tissue, from her ulcer, or a tumor. But they still aren’t 100% sure. We should know by dinner time.
(Coldfire, you’ll love this next part. :rolleyes: )
The reason that my mom wasn’t getting any pain medication at first is because the doctor that treated her in the ER thought that she was faking it to get a fix for her “morphine addiction”, because she was on morphine when she got there. Well, no shit she was, she had a prescription. Assholes. The specialist said that, yes, she is indeed in terrible pain. So they’re helping her out with that a little better now.
Anyway, I’m going back up there again tomorrow morning to maybe pick her up and bring her home. If not, I’ll visit with her for a couple hours again. Although I hate hospitals, it was nice to see her.
A person I greatly respect once told me that courage is grace under pressure. Doing what needs to be done is brave, and shows that you are in fact a strong and courageous person. Hang in there; you’ll be in my thoughts.
My heart is with you. There are no words that I can say to boost your spirit and help you go through these tough times that life has forced upon you. I can only tell you that I admire your selflessness in totally devoting yourself to your mom when she needs your support the most. I admire her also, for only a great mother could generate that uninhibited display of love and devotion from her kids.
My prayers are with you and your family. Never lose hope. I know that sounds highly idealistic but sometimes hope can keep you going and make life’s hardships more bearable. More importantly, never, not even for a second, underestimate the power that your love can have upon your mother’s spiritual health. Just by holding her hand, whispering in her ear, sitting by her side, you can give her an emotional boost that could get her focus away from the physical pain and center it on the great things that life has bestowed upon her, like the unconditional love of her daughter.
I just want to emphasize that you are not along on this. I am sure I speak for everyone on this board when I tell you that our collective soul, our heart, is with you. Across the planet you got friends who care about you and hope the best for your mom. Never lose sight of that!
Silver, I would offer to help that ER doc search his own ass for his noggin, but…
You are doing everything right. I know, been there and will probably be there again.
If things could be dire, there is no reason not to agressively attack her pain. Hey, if I’m having severe health problems, a few pain meds are the least of my worries. If your doctor does not concur, find one who does, that is your right. Pain does not ever help anyone fight an illness.
You are in my thoughts, you strong, beautiful person you.
I just talked to my mom. The biopsy results weren’t clear, so they have to do a few more tests. So we still don’t know what’s up. However, she will do these tests on an out-patient basis, so I’m leaving right now to go get her! I’m showing her this thread (and the other one) and probably a few of the emails I’ve gotten when we get back. You guys are the greatest!! :):) WOO!!!
Sarah… I lost my Grandmother this fall, and I know how hard it is, but I can’t truly know your troubles unless I was in your place. I am very sad for you, and my own troubles at the moment in my life also. I will Pray, and keep your mother in my thoughts for your, and her sake. Good luck with her
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My aunt has some rare nerve disorder (I can’t remember what it’s called). She is in constant pain and there’s no cure. She wears morphine patches for the pain. She tried acupuncture, and it helped, but she got paranoid about AIDS and such and stopped going. She went to pain management for a few months and it helped, but she quit going to that too. She was just too depressed to do the exercises. She has good days and bad days, but she will never be able to work again. In a few months her new grandson will be too heavy for her to hold, but in him she’s found a new reason to rebuild her strength. Since his birth, she’s been going to physical therapy and is doing better than she was a year ago.
It’s been 4 years since she was diagnosed with the disorder, but it took 3 years of tests and persistance for the dr.s to diagnose her.
I wish your mother no more pain and the ability to cope until that day. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Aren’t there any painkillers besides morphine? Though I haven’t ever had morphine myself, my dad was on this stuff last year when in the hospital (he has terminal cancer) and he was pretty goofy while on it. He didn’t even recognize my mother, my brother and I. It was very frightening. However, I wish your mother wouldn’t have to go through so much pain. And you’re in a lot of pain, too. Just remember everyone on the board is pulling for you; we love you very much and hope for the best. Thanks for keeping us posted.
Well, we’re home. My mom’s on the phone with my dad, and I’m on the internet. Nice little homecoming/reunion thing we got going on here. She’s feeling okay, and I’m just great. My mom has to go through two more tests before the doctors can figure out what’s wrong. (Or so they say.) Until then, she’s taking three different medications. I’m not even sure what. But she’s okay. I think tomorrow I’ll show her what an amazing group of people her daughter has been hanging around with.
Rasa, I couldn’t be happier right now if I was surrounded by the sexiest men alive and swimming in a pile of money! (Hmm… That’s actually a close one. I’ll have to give this some thought. ) And, now that I’ve made your night, I don’t have to wear this goofy grin all alone. WOO!!!
WOO!!!
She’s feeling okay, and I’m just great. My mom has to go through two more tests before the doctors can figure out what’s wrong. (Or so they say.) Until then, she’s taking three different medications. I’m not even sure what. But she’s okay. I think tomorrow I’ll show her what an amazing group of people her daughter has been hanging around with.