Mental deficiency? At least I can solve that by reading a book unlike those who are born limited.
And it’s funny you are oh-so-concerned about a hospitable board when you and your band of snarkyologists are the most persistent, consistent, and vile trolls on this board. The fact that at least one mod from this board participates should be a conflict of interest.
Now run along and find another sinful poster who has made a comment about Ginger from Gilligan’s Island or Betty Rubble from the Flintstones. The world needs you!
A couple of weeks ago, my dad used the N word in an otherwise civilized conversation at Sunday dinner.
When everyone else at the table immediately called him on it, his excuse was that he’s from Appalachia, and was never exposed to “those people” during his formative years, and that excuses his ignorance.
And my dad is not-very-gently slipping into some type of dementia.
I don’t have a redhead fetish. And what’s with the objectifying sexual insult? I thought we were a board that has evolved beyond such base thoughts. Oh right, consistency isn’t the subject of your game. Stirring up snark-drama and instigating problems is what concerns you and if that qualifies as outside life then I feel for you.
I remember going through some crazy shit as a teenager, no doubt partially due to all the hormones sloshing around (not lady hormones, I have no idea what that’s like). If my teenage daughter was struggling with mental illness, I’d look into every possible area starting with the easiest ones and working my way up. Like, OP is talking about an illness that comes and goes. If it got worse monthly, or with some unexpected period symptoms, I might be grateful to think we’d found a clue as to what might alleviate it.
I have no idea what UR is actually thinking. It was absolutely a faux pas w/r/t phrasing and thread etiquette. IIRC he’s a bit of a choad whose intentions may not have been entirely charitable. But it’s not nuts to try and correlate mental health to hormonal issues. If it were my daughter I’d grasp at every straw.
What’s worse than a dead board? (checks forum) a shit-stirring choadbag who tells himself the board would be dead without more shit-stirrers.
I haven’t been around here as long as some, but I remember how this board was before it was before tiresome shitbags like you started popping up in every thread. You think this board would be dead without enfants provacateurs such as yourself? Do us all a favor, start testing that hypothesis ASAP.
(Note, I’m not singling you out. It’s a common pet peeve of mine.)
I’ve never quite understood this. You say you don’t know what he was thinking. But you’re already here coming up with excuses for him. Why?
Is it not better to make him have to explain himself, so he can’t crib excuses off others? What value is an excuse that someone else had to come up with? He knows what he meant. He can tell us.
I see this all the time. Someone fucks up, and they stay silent. And then tons of people, even if they aren’t fans or know him, will start coming up with excuses, and people start accepting the excuses. Hell, sometimes the fuck-up will start pushing the best excuse.
But why? If the fuck-up can’t come up with the excuse, why accept it? And why help them?
If Urbanredneck wanted to apologize and say what he really mean, I would have accepted it. But now? It’s too late. All the excuses have tainted it where I would more likely believe he copied an excuse than he actually didn’t mean anything bad.
Of course, he’s also got a long history of these “fuckups” that start to seem intentional. But, apparently, it’s some sort of dishonest tactic to say so.
He’s NEVER apologized for any of these, or shown ANY understanding, reflection, or growth. He’s the worst for that. He made that stupid A cup/B cup/C cup joke three or four times and finally just stopped when we kept complaining–he never acknowledged that he heard us.
As annoyed as I get with the Usual Suspects, at least they discuss the issue; UR just moves on. I honestly think in his brain, he’s in a male-space–he thinks everyone here is a dude, so he talks like he talks in very dude-ish spaces. Even by those standards, he’s boorish, but it’s the kind of boorish that inspires other dudes to roll their eyes and move on, so he just keeps spouting his shit, so self-unaware that he thinks people are laughing.
I can’t make him come in here and explain himself. That’s not within my power. I just wanted to say that correlating mental health and hormones is not inherently stupid or misogynistic. Hormones influence mental health, they influence the absorption of medications. Women can be harmed by not asking these questions.
Because inside every stupid question is a decent question struggling to get out. And decent people extend the benefit of the doubt. We’re here to fight ignorance so searching out the barely marketable graphite in the dross comes with the territory.
Of course UR has gone beyond “the doubt” by this time. But he (or any boorish person) always has a point, if only because it’s more difficult to craft an entirely bogus sentence than one with a hidden reasonable argument, if you squint your eyes and fiddle with your scalpels long enough. I say there’s little harm with what we do, as UR won’t come back to defend his actions and if he does his excuses won’t withstand scrutiny. Because there would have been a way to convey his point without being an ass -with, you know, diplomacy or manners- but being an ass is what he does.
Speaking substantively, yeah, I’m guessing that consideration of menstrual cycle, time of year (ref: seasonal affective disorder), or hell circadian rhythms might help, though they won’t be news to the family in question. Doesn’t quite justify repeated attention seeking behavior on the part of certain overly provocative posters.
Sure, but that’s not what happened here. It was clear in the OP that the daughter has been under the care of many medical professionals for many years. It’s unthinkable that no one would have considered the impact of hormonal cycles. The OP wasn’t asking for advice, and even if he did, UR didn’t offer any advice–he just asked an intrusive question to satisfy is curiosity about girl-parts.
I mean, it’s like someone is talking about how their daughter had diabetes and got a bad infection and had to have their foot amputated, and he comes in and is like “did you notice if it smelled real bad? I’ve heard gangrene smells really gross. Did it smell?”
I mean, yes, gangrene is really gross, and yes, I imagine it smells really bad and ignoring the odor of a festering wound might have terrible consequences, but that’s not what this was. Bringing it up to the family in question–who surely are aware of the whole smell issue–is just instrusive and gross.
I mean, if that’s what he meant, if he was trying to help, let him say so (though I don’t believe he was). But building an elaborate justification for why he might just possibly not be a total ass seems weird.
How ironic as this thread and many others is the work of a very prolific group of professional ‘shit-stirring choadbags.’ Unlike that group, it’s not my mission to troll for snark content.
Honestly, if we’re making judgments about what’s elaborate, I see a lot more elaboration above in explaining why we don’t like the question. I just don’t automatically see the misogyny or bad faith here.
But my intuition says he’s a dick, and I’m not going to die on the hill of defending a dick, so this is the end of my contribution here.
What’s ironic is that you feel so aggrieved by this board, yet by your own lights you are keeping it alive with your lively and vibrant commentary. The only way we can resolve the apparent contradiction is to conclude that you’re either a drooling idiot, or you are so dependent on the feeling of persecution that you devote your days to an environment that helps you keep that victimhood feeling alive. Tough bet to make, honestly.
