Will the sex be the same after getting a vasectomy? Will I be able to ejaculate as many times as I can now?
Is it worth doing? We (my wife and me) don’t want any more kids. My wife told me it’s up to me, but she also told me to think about if something should happen to her and I meet another lady, we might want kids of our own. I don’t think I want any more kids for one reason, I am 35 and would like to have the kids out of the house by the time I’m in my 50s. How much pain is there in this? But most of all is the sex the same?
I don’t speak from experience (yet), but a couple of my friends have been ‘snipped’ as they put it.
From what I remember of what they’ve told me:
It’s only painful if for some reason you decide you don’t want anesthetic, or if you decide to celebrate your surgery with a six-hour love marathon.
Your sex life should show no particular change, either in feeling or stamina.
As for possibly having more kids, it is possible (though exceedingly unlikely) for the operation to undo itself; and it is possible (although expensive and not guaranteed) for the process to be reversed.
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I’ve had it, about 22 years ago. It was well worth it. It took accidentally pregnancy right off the list of things to worry about. It doesn’t change anything about having sex, it feels the same, you can do it as often and if having to deal with avoiding pregnancy is gets in the way, it might even make it better, since that problem is solved.
Does it hurt? Well, not much. I sat on the side of the examination table and watched him do the whole thing. There was a pulling sensation every now and then and it is tender down there. He put a couple of bandaids on it and I dressed and drove home. It was tender for about 24 hours.
As far as being sure, like if you remarry, give it plenty of thought. Don’t even consider the idea that it can be reversed. Be comfortable with the idea of it as permanent. The question came up when I remarried, luckily she gave me the alternative of buying her a red mustang convertable. The kids are still driving that thing around.
Hubby had it done 5 years ago. He’s had some testicular complaints since (swelling and pain), but the doc says it’s unrelated to the surgery. I’m not completely convinced, but I’m not a doctor.
Immediately following his surgery, the ejaculation was more of a sputter than a squirt, but later that problem corrected itself. (I know, I know, Too Much Information. But you asked!)
In any event, I’m very pleased with not having to worry about contraceptives.
You could always see about making a sperm bank deposit beforehand, to preserve the possibility of more kids in the future if for any reason you change your mind on that issue.
Be absolutely certain you don’t want any more children. Reversal is difficult and not always sucessful.
That said, it has improved our intimate relations. The Wife didn’t like what the pill did to her hormones, and I hated prophylactics. After we fulfilled our breeding quota, being converted to the sports model was a no-brainer. And I got a long weekend off from work and by stretching the truth I got out of doing any kind of heavy work around the house for an entire summer.
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My husband had it done about 6 years ago, and swears it is the best thing since sliced bread. Of course, they give you the local anesthetic during the surgery, so it wasn’t painful, and after a night of rest and some motrin, he was moving furniture the next day. You may want to play it up, though, it can be good for a few weeks of sympathy from friends and coworkers.
The sex was totally unaffected (never better, in fact), so if you are 100 percent sure you never want kids again, I highly recommend it.
I had it done. Yes sex is exactly the same if not better. Yes you still ejaculate as much.
The worst part about the procedure, in my humble opinion, is the shot in the scrotum. This caused me pain similar to being kicked in the groin (you know the kind that hurts all the way up in your gut?). However it lasted 2 seconds at the most. Now 2 seconds of that type of pain is no picnic but I’d say that in the end I’m glad I did it.
Just make sure you follow the doctor’s instructions solemnly. I was told to ice it every other hour and stay off my feet for at least 24 hours. I did exactly what he said, even though I wasn’t feeling any discomfort. I didn’t have any problem at all. A few guys I talked to said they were feeling great about 4 or 5 hours after the procedure and were walking around the house. The next day they paid for it with a swollen crotch.
I think just knowing I was going to have a shot in the scrotum was as bad or worse than actually getting it. After the initial pain of the shot it was a breeze.
I got myself snipped a few years ago when my wife was told to stop taking birth control pills and we decided it was my turn. We’d already decided that our two current children were all the family we wanted.
There was only two days or so of mild discomfort (basically I was walking around rather slowly). I had the operation on Friday afternoon, and was back at work feeling normal on Monday.
The equipment feels, look, and acts exactly as it did before - only the sperm cells are blocked, and the doctor told me they only represent about two percent of your ejaculation volume.
I would agree with everyone else that you should consider the operation as being permanent.
(I forget the procedure’s name, but the vasectomy I had involved a small puncture rather than a longer incision. Apparently that makes the recovery process a lot easier.)
I heard somewhere (that’s where I hear everything, ya know ) that getting snipped immediately increased your likelihood of getting prostate cancer by 70%. That nixed it for me right there.
I had the best urologist–he didn’t do them in office, he did them as normal outpatient surgeries. So instead of the local in the groin, I got me an IV in the arm full of valium and other goodies, and a regular O.R. visit. Out in about 2 hours (following manadatory recovery room time).
The one thing to watch out for is an orchitis, a painful swelling of one of the testes that sometimes results. I had some really bad swelling for several days, but that was it. Some ice and some Tylenol-4 took care of that.
JoltSucker, do you have a cite for that 70% figure? That sounds pretty doubtful.
“It’s my considered opinion you’re all a bunch of sissies!”–Paul’s Grandfather
FWIW, I heard one time that the “high percentage” (I don’t recall the number specifically) was probably because men who have had the snip in general have a closer relationship with their urologists, and it accounts for a higher percentage of early detection.
I’m not firing blanks, but a friend of mine told the doc to take a nice big piece out, as he was definitely finished adding to the population explosion; he said it felt like it was being pulled out of his chest!
My wife and I were ready to flip a coin upon finding out we were expecting twins. She won (lost?) when they were delivered by emergency C-Section. Our OB-GYN knew what a rough time she had with the pregnancy, and gave her a tubal (requested). Bless his heart, he didn’t even charge us for it!
) that getting snipped immediately increased your likelihood of getting prostate cancer by 70%. That nixed it for me right there.