So you are saying because women do it too that it is no big deal? I think it’s a big deal, no matter who does it. Maybe 25 years ago it wasn’t quite the scary thing it is now, but the fact remains, it IS a scary thing now - to know that your partner has been screwing around on you, without your knowledge, possibly spreading something to you.
And your point is…? So, yeah, women do it too. Granted. Doesn’t make it any less crappy. And what is this “screw the STDs” thing? I have lost one friend to AIDS and another is battling it, I see no reason to be flippant on the topic of STDS.
I think there might be another thread brewing here. I happen to think that screwing around on someone behind their back, possibly exposing them to something fatal, IS a big deal. No, this woman did not take the high road when she trashed his stuff. But he was a lying bastard. What he did was not trivial thing, not at ALL. It sounds like some of you are making excuses for him - like “Everybody does it”. That doesn’t fly with me. I suspect that is why STDs are still spreading freely among the population - people have too much of a cavalier attitude about this. Maybe that would be OK 25 years ago, but those happy, free days are WAAAY over. AIDS took care of that.
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I think the fear is justified…like I said, I have a friend who is dead from AIDS, another who is battling it - AIDS is real, it’s a risk. Once you’ve got it, your life will never be the same. Where have you been?
I hope I don’t sound like I’m making excuses for this guy, because he’s quite clearly a real prick.
On the other hand, when a person decides to get into a sexual relationship with another person, there is a risk associated with that. It is likely (actually, more than likely) that your honeybuns will cheat on you and expose you to disease. Saying, “He shouldn’t cheat on me,” or “he wouldn’t do that to me” will not protect you. Who hasn’t been cheated? I have, more than once. A person must weigh the risks. A person who lives in terror of STDs should not have sex. This doesn’t excuse the jerk for cheating; he’s still a jerk.
A more healthy response would be to say, “Thank god that relationship is over! I don’t have to waste another minute on that creep!”
This girl set herself up to be a victim: she trusted a guy who was undeserving of that trust. When she was (inevitably?) betrayed, she freaked out and wound up making him look like the victim. Not too smart, or noble.
Arghhh! This is the most frustrating debate ever! (sorry, tracer, no stats on that ) It is irrelevant what kind of danger the guy put her in. If he beat her up instead of cheating on her, I would still say that was she did was illegal, disgusting, violent, and completely, absolutely wrong. This DOES NOT in any way excuse the guy for what he did.
I’ll ask a question that I asked before - If someone came and shot you in the leg, would you think a reasonable course of action would be to go a week later and burn their house down? People who do think this is a reasonable route are also the same people who are guilty of road rage and mafia hits. Period. There is NO excuse for his behavior and there is NO excuse for her behavior.
) It is irrelevant what kind of danger the guy put her in. If he beat her up instead of cheating on her, I would still say that was she did was illegal, disgusting, violent, and completely, absolutely wrong. This DOES NOT in any way excuse the guy for what he did.