Inspired by Daniel’s comment in this thread, in which he comments on the Friends storyline in which Ross and Rachel suffer a blow to their relationship. Daniel says:
I’m not so sure I agree.
To review: Ross and Rachel were dating. Rachel begins a new job, abandoning her coffee shop waitress career to serve as a fashion buyer, working with the hunkily handsome Mark. She works long hours, and Ross - no bastion of secure complacency in their relationship in the first place - becomes increasingly jealous of the time she’s spending at her job (with Mark). This friction causes several fights; at the end of one, Rachel announces that she just can’t handle having the smae fight over and over again anymore - she needs a break. Ross at first thinks she means “from the argument” but she clarifies that she’s talking about a break “from us”. She doesn’t want to continue in their relationship. Ross is stunned and leaves.
In time-honored guy tradition, Chandler takes Ross out and gets him rip-roaring drunk. Ross ends up hooking up with the cute girl from the copy place for an evening.
That morning, Rachel comes by Ross’ apartment full of apologies. She wants Ross to give her, and them, another chance, saying she really wants to be his girlfriend again. Ross eagerly agrees; he’s ashamed of his drunken dalliance with the copy girl (who, humorously, is hiding behind his door as he and Rachel make up.
Later that day, despite efforts to prevent the gossip from reaching Rachel, she hears about Ross’ hookup and is devastated. She breaks up with him again. Future attempts to heal the relationship inevitably devolve into Rachel’s anger at Ross for his cheating, and Ross’ defense: “We were on a break!”
OK - sorry for all that background.
I’m not so sanguine about the idea that Ross’ defense is so lame. They WERE broken up.
Not to say Rachel has no cause to be hurt. Ross’ actions certainly suggested he didn’t take the (former) relationship seriously, if he was able to hop into bed with some chick within a day of breaking up with Rachel. But he isn’t a cheater: they did break up, at her behest. Much of the fault goes to her for pulling out the nuclear option in a fight – a fight doesn’t mean the end of a relationship, and Rachel was wrong to go there in the first place.
Anyway - kinda silly to get so wrapped up in a point that arises from a fictional lover’s dispute, but surely there’s some real-life analogs to discuss here.
I don’t think Ross’ defense was completely lame.