Wedding invitation addressed just to me, not long-term girlfriend -- can she go?

[Acsenray]

@stpauler

So a couple that just met and got married a month earlier is more legitimate than a couple that has been together for 10 years but aren’t married. Gotcha.

Yes. That’s what the whole concept of marriage is for. If you want your relationship to have that status, then you get married.

[MsWhatsit]

@suranyi

Yep, that’s the rule. See, there are advantages to getting married.

@Acsenray

Yes. That’s what the whole concept of marriage is for. If you want your relationship to have that status, then you get married.

Some people can’t legally get married, though I assure you they are well aware of the advantages of doing so.

[Shodan]

@stpauler

So a couple that just met and got married a month earlier is more legitimate than a couple that has been together for 10 years but aren’t married. Gotcha.

As mentioned, that is up to the judgment of the host and hostess. They get to decide, because it is their party.

Regards,
Shodan

[MrSquishy]

This thread is so surprising to me. In my experience, a wedding invitation would always be +1. If I know somebody is married, I’d invite the couple. If I don’t know whether they’re married or in a relationship or whatever, the invitation would just be +1. But I would never in a million years consider inviting somebody to a wedding and expect them to come alone.

[Acsenray]

@MsWhatsit

Some people can’t legally get married, though I assure you they are well aware of the advantages of doing so.

At least in the Western world, this is starting largely not to be a problem.

[IvoryTowerDenizen]

@Sleeps_With_Butterflies

And there it is. Succinctly and awesomely put. You read my mind, thanks for that

On that note, I’m done with this. I’ve spent far more time than I wanted to on this difference of opinion. Next time I’ll just let Ivory say it better for me

(Tips my hat at SWB).

[pulykamell]

@MrSquishy

This thread is so surprising to me. In my experience, a wedding invitation would always be +1. If I know somebody is married, I’d invite the couple. If I don’t know whether they’re married or in a relationship or whatever, the invitation would just be +1. But I would never in a million years consider inviting somebody to a wedding and expect them to come alone.

Yeah, in my experience, wedding invitations around here tend to be +1, whether you’re single or known to have an SO. I’m pretty sure that’s how we did it at our wedding (although it was a smaller one, under 100 guests.) In my opinion, the wedding is as much about celebrating friends and family as it is the couple (moreso, in my opinion.) You want your guests to be comfortable, so allow them to bring a guest. Going to weddings alone, if you hardly know anyone, would suck.

[doreen]

@pulykamell

You want your guests to be comfortable, so allow them to bring a guest. Going to weddings alone, if you hardly know anyone, would suck.

It would, but how often does that happen? I’m sure everyone’s experience is different, but I’ve almost never heard of people not getting invited in groups - family knows other family, friends know other friends, coworkers know other coworkers, etc. I did hear of it once.Someone invited the guy he who ran the bait shop and his wife. They didn’t know anyone else there, and they didn’t look very comfortable even though there were two of them.

[Acsenray]

@doreen

It would, but how often does that happen? I’m sure everyone’s experience is different, but I’ve almost never heard of people not getting invited in groups - family knows other family, friends know other friends, coworkers know other coworkers, etc. I did hear of it once.Someone invited the guy he who ran the bait shop and his wife. They didn’t know anyone else there, and they didn’t look very comfortable even though there were two of them.

I’ve been to more than one wedding in which I knew no one but the bride or groom.

[Mauvaise]

@stpauler

So a couple that just met and got married a month earlier is more legitimate than a couple that has been together for 10 years but aren’t married. Gotcha.

I think it’s generally recognized that if you’re a cohabiting (married or not) couple, then you should be considered a unit as far as invitations are concerned. If you’re not living together, no matter the length of your relationship, then it’s perfectly fine to invite only 1/2 of you.