Alright to start, I’m 23, and have been dating my gf for a little over 2 months now. We have a great open relationship where we talk about tons of personal things.
That being said - I have this weird turn on, in a nutshell, I really like it when a girls straps are loose and sliding down a bit. I know this probably annoys girls to no end if it happens to them a lot, but I’m just being honest. My girlfriends straps sometimes slide around a bit, but not really that much.
How should I go about “bringing up” that I like seeing her straps fall down, and how do I ask if she can make them a bit looser for me? (At least when we are having our “alone time”, or maybe more if she doesn’t mind unless she thinks its trashy which some ppl do.)
Should I just be like “soooo I have this weird turn on, dont laugh, but…” Or does anyone have any other ideas how I should bring it up?
GIRLS what is your reaction to this? If your boyfriend said something like this, how would you react? Has anyone had a guy tell them they liked their straps loose?
Just tell her the truth, but say it like “I love it when I’m tying you up and then I loosen the straps so that it seems like you have a chance at escaping when we both know you don’t”
Ok, that might be a little creepy, but its already been 2 months, I’m sure you’ve all had the talk about marriage and babies already so this isn’t too much worse
This is a fetish? I’ve seen it portrayed as sexy in quite a few mainstream films. Even the largest fetish (feet) is portrayed less frequently.
Now, I guess if you want to have sex with the strap, it might be odd. But finding it as a turn on? Come on! It implies that the shirt/bra might fall off. Why wouldn’t that be sexually enticing if you like breasts at all?
It’s not only annoying to have your bra straps slide down, it can also be uncomfortable because the straps tend to slide down only so far then dig into your skin as you move. If you’re not willing to endure similar physical discomfort solely to turn her on, you probably should reconsider making the request.
Yeah, this is a pretty not-freaky, no-big-deal turn on to bring up. I would think it was kind of adorable and a little charming if a boyfriend told me he liked this, and would definitely comply. You wouldn’t necessarily have to loosen the straps so they’re sliding around all the time - she could just loosen the bra strap a little, and drop one shoulder a bit at times when she knows you’re watching and there ya go.
Oh come on. He’s not talking about ALL the time, just, yanno, during sexy time. I can’t say I’ve ever had a too-loose strap “dig in” to my skin painfully, to me they just are an annoyance. I should HOPE the OP were willing to endure such a trivial annoyance for his lady friend at her request.
Personally, I think it is pretty innocuous and a thing few sexually experienced people would refuse - it’s just so dang easy to comply. It all depends on your girlfriend though OP, is she sort of easy going – and how long have you known her? I personally think its no big whoop and you can come right out and say “mmmm I think that looks totally hot” – but some women are easily startled or very sheltered. So go with what you know of your GF on that.
Dogzilla walks into her BF’s house, wearing a tank top with a bra underneath. The bra strap has slipped off her right shoulder just a bit. Dogzilla doesn’t care because her tits are so small, she only wears a bra so her clothes fit right; she doesn’t even really need a bra. BF walks up to her, traces fallen bra strap with his finger and says, “OMG, that is so hot.” Dogzilla proceeds to loosen the other strap, thinking doubling down can’t possibly go badly in this situation. Nekkid sexy fun time ensues.
It’s the Bill Theis Titllation Theory* – Anything Looks Sexy if it Looks as if it’s about to Fall Off. The reason is obvious, but it evidently doesn’t have to be consciously realized in order to work. You can look at an apparently sexy dress without realizing that it’s sexy because it’s apparently only held up by the counterweight of the fabric flipped over her shoulder. Which could fall off at any minute. And it would be just as sexy if it were securely held on by hidden stitching.
He was the costumer for the original Star Trek series. The theory was outlined in Stephen R. Whitfield’s book the Making of Star Trek.
