Must be, because, y’know, no one on this board or in this thread has ever been through what he’s been through, and he really is a great guy for being so magnanimous.
I second newcrasher’s prediction with one addition: He’ll end up stalking her.
My favorite novel of all time is W. Somerset Maugham’s Of Human Bondage.
The OP seriously needs to read it, if he has not done so already… 
Because I also don’t really belive you won’t be reading this anymore: 
I don’t mean to make you feel bad or paranoid or like you’ve wasted your energy, but logging software and phone bill checking is no way at all to ensure 100% that someone hasn’t been communicating with someone else, especially when the first someone knows about these things.
Also, because no one seems to have covered it, your #5 should not be a reason to stay in a romantic relationship with someone, it really shouldn’t.
I wasn’t cheated on physically that I know of, but I was emotionally cheated on once and that was quite enough for me. The relationship was terminated immediately. I want no half-assed or two-faced loves in my life if I can help it, just the same as with friends. And I never have and never would cheat on anyone myself, I’d end the relationship or I’d keep my vagina/heart in my pants.
I can’t speak about the pregnancy angle, but I do know that if I were Buddy’s wife I wouldn’t be able to stand to look wasson in the face ever again if I’d found out that he knew of Buddy’s cheating and didn’t tell me or do anything about it. Perhaps that was a factor, I don’t know.
Everything **newcrasher **said is right on the mark. Especially:
Can’t stress that part enough. Puppies are probably the ultimate chick magnets.
I know it’s a little bit late to be chiming in now, but all I can say is that I truly believe people can be happy with who they are, and that many times relationships are just roadblocks to finding that out. Most people never do, I don’t think.
That said, and I know you won’t do it, but screw it. Screw the both of them (no pun intended).
Go live your life, do what makes you happy, become a better/happier person, and afterwords the lacks in logic/judgement won’t be so difficult to figure out.
Pisses me off.
Having been cheated on myself, I’m afraid I don’t have much hope for your sticking with the cheater. They’re generally repeat offenders who never really wanted the relationship they’re straying from, but are too cowardly to strike out on their own in an honorable fashion. Getting back together rarely changes any part of that dynamic, and you’ll never really feel secure again.
My little cheater (I often refer to her quite sincerely as “that cunt”) used me in a time of her own trouble, and ditched me during a time of my own, and I must admit I was too stupid to see it coming. I should have from a mile away, and others warned me. Cheaters are only the fairest-of-weather friends, you see.
Hate to sound flippant, but I’d drop the bitch like a sack of potatos. I wish I had the first time I got suspicious. Actually, I wish I’d never met her in the first place. You keep on this path, I’d bet serious money you’ll feel the same way. Bite the bullet now so you’re not kicking your own ass later.
When I was fresh out of high school I had a boyfriend cheat on me. We were in love. He cheated on me, repeatedly. I was disgusted with him for doing it, and with myself for putting up with it for so long. When I couldn’t put up with it any more I became a Victim, with a very obvious capital V. I became a bitter, whiny PITA and must have alienated about half of my friends. It was very dramatic. :rolleyes:
Sounds to me like wasson is handling it better than I did, so I’ll give him credit for that. The tracking has been addressed, so I won’t harp on that.
Maureen, I don’t think the health screenings solve the problem. Because assuming everything checks out OK for Mrs. Buddy, she’ll think she’s in good shape. But Mr. Buddy could bring a disease into the marital bed a year from now (whether from wasson’s girl or someone else), and there’s no AIDS test good enough to predict that. Whereas that problem is, not solved, but at least addressed by wasson telling Mrs. Buddy. That way, she isn’t under any illusions about Buddy’s faithfulness, and she can decide to take the risks as wasson’s doing, OR she can decide to shitcan the dude. But what won’t happen is that she won’t be blindsided a year from now when Mr. Buddy engages once again in the behavior we already know he’s willing to engage in.
But moreover, that’s just the rule.
Also, I’ll have you know I got very good marks in reading comprehension class.
–Cliffy
In my opinion, you’re wrong. Speaking as a former wife whose former husband cheated on me, I would have loved it if somone had told me…or had held my husband accountable for his behavior. Half the reason he was able to cheat so many times was because none of his buddies told on him, or let their wives tell me. I would have preferrred to have all the information I needed to make decisions about my life, and to protect myself from diseases, and to protect my children from enraged “other women” or possible half-siblings showing up on our doorstep. I could have either been saved from years of misery, thinking things were my fault, or we could have worked on the marriage and saved it. But I still, after 15 years, am disappointed that none of my friends had the guts to let me know, even anonymously, what he was up to. It is the best thing for the wife to know. It may hurt her, but at least she can make informed decisions.
I don’t see what’s so terrible about a little snooping now and then. It shows that you care.
Don’t rat out a cheater. Most people who are being cheated on already know about it but are in denial.