This weekend me and some friends inadvertently started our own little support group. Perhaps this is a little sophmoric, but we have decided to start an ex-boyfriend support group. You see, the three of us all have dated this one particular girl (who is currently my best friend’s roomate).
Basically, we hang out and talk about how she affected us, and how we’re able to better ourselves by not making the same mistakes we made. For every one of us, at one point or another, we had dated this girl. She had broken up with all of us without giving a specific reason. She had made up excuses to other people as to why she broke up with any particular guy, and even spread outright lies about our conduct. However she always stayed ‘friends’ with us. Every guy was subjected to the same pattern-
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Genuine affection from her (for about a week to a month)
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Gradually becoming distant and irritable
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Finally breaking up after a long period of ‘relationship limbo’
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Wanting to stay ‘friends’ and hinting the relationship might re-emerge (lasts for about a year)
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Admits she wasn’t that interested, and that it would have never worked out, and she’s currently dating another guy
When she would celebrate her birthday, she would invite all of her friends. Note that about 90% of her ‘friends’ were ex-boyfriends who were only sticking around because they legitimately thought they could win her over again and she was stringing them along. Interestingly enough, I became pretty good friends with many of her ex-boyfriends. That’s what gave rise to this support group.