Not an earthshaking topic here, but I would appreciate your experiences/thoughts of what works and what doesn’t when a kid tries out for a competitive position and doesn’t make the cut. I would appreciate input from parents, from people remembering their own childhood experiences, or anyone else with 2 cents to toss my way.
My kids have primarily been involved in activities where you did not have to “make a cut.”
My youngest is a girl, almost 11. She has not really shown any great interest in any particular activity. She has been on a cheerleading squad the past 3 years. This year they were forming a competitive squad for kids going into 6th, 7th, and 8th grade. My daughter seemed really excited about it. She worked really hard on her own, she organized practises with her teammates, and had them over to the house to curl each others’ hair.
Bottomline, she just found out today that she didn’t make it.
More info, IMO she is really good at it. I don’t know why she didn’t make it. Part of the tryout was done as a team. She was the “flier” with 3 other girls who - to put it politely, didn’t have any realistic chance of making the team. So my wife is now saying we should have gotten her to try out with more talented teammates. Saying we weren’t there for her.
And a couple of her friends made it. In my non expert opinion, I don’t see them being any better than - if as good as - my kid.
In my opinion, while I think she should have made it, you don’t always get what you deserve. She was in a situation where her fate was decided by 3 judges, and you have to go with their decision - and move on.
And I know this is not the end of the world.
But to be totally honest, it is a lot easiier to say “Let’s go out for ice cream to celebrate” than to figure out how to turn a disappointment into a positive life lesson.
Aw, what the hell. Might as well go out for ice cream anyway!