Am I the only one who feels put on the spot by questions like this? The person asking doesn’t give any sort of clue about what they’re leading up to, but you just know that if you say you don’t have any plans, they’re going to try to rope you into something that you may not want to attend. I find this to just be rude and much prefer people to flat out extend an invitation without mining for information about my calendar first.
Anyone have a stock answer for this one? I usually reply that I don’t know and will have to look at my calendar, but it always feels awkward. Got anything better?
*I don’t know. I might get together with some friends. *
That’s what you should say. If they ask you to do something you don’t want to do, then tell them you’ll check with your friends to see if you still have plans with them. Oh, darn. Looks like you can’t cancel. Too bad.
That’s great - I might have to use that. It does indeed make me feel put on the spot when people do that - I might want to do what you’re offering, but I might not - I’m not obligated to do it just because I just told you I have no plans. Sometimes my plans are not doing the thing you want me to do.