I kind of admire people who do what they want to do, fuck what anyone else thinks.
Do I find the look attractive? Well, it depends on the context. I don’t think tight clothing is really appropriate for the office, regardless of body size. But at a club where everyone is dressed like a sex pot, it can work. Also, not all fat is created equal. Cellulite (which plenty of skinny people have) isn’t appealing to me. But a smooth silohuette? Sure.
Now, if the clothes look cheap and sloppy, then chances are the overall look won’t be a good one. But one can be wear tight clothes that are neither cheap or sloppy. Hair and make-up and demeanor also factor in.
I could live with spandex being licensed and controlled; say something like a fashion version of the BATF with spandex being “class 3”. Sellers maintain records and are often checked for compliance and you are “checked” and pay a $200 tax before you are allowed to buy it.
I used to work with a man who had a massive gut, but a small ass. His jeans were for waist size 38 or so, but he wore them under the gut. He did tuck his shirt in, so we weren’t treated to the sight of a bare belly peeking out. And his clothes weren’t excessively tight, but the mental image of his jeans tucked way back under the gut still disturbs me.
OK, and it didn’t help that he was a jerk, but even if he’d been a nice guy, he just looked like he was living in denial.
I don’t . I kind of admire people who take the trouble to not be offensive to other people’s sense of propriety and decorum. A person who doesn’t make en effort to dress with an appropriate neatness is just as offensive as a person who stinks or loudly drops F bombs in public places. Even more so, a person who does it as conspicuously as possible for shock value.
It’s called being considerate, and I have no admiration for people who are not. I guess it’s just the way I was brought up.
Is it? I was at REI yesterday looking for a jacket, and found rack after rack of nothing but S and XL or XXL. I suppose doubleplus-sized customers may not, ah, gravitate toward outdoor gear stores for their clothing purchases, but I’ve had similar experiences just trying to buy jeans in regular department stores. Discrimination against the mid-to-large, I tell you!
Thongs are medically contraindicated, because they lead to urinary tract infections. Plus they’re tacky as hell, and frankly kind of expensive considering how little material they’re comprised of. I’m fat and I always try to avoid VPL (visible panty line) but it’s more art than science. And fuck thongs, I’m not doing that.
I prefer to be comfortable and if I wear something tight - bike shorts, because they are good for walking - then I have something loose over it.
but you know what?
skinny people are out there being ugly, too. people should be able to wear what they want and you want to dislike it, that’s fine but you don’t have to single out fat people Mr. OP.
**you get to wear shorts when it’s hot even if this subjects me to your ugly knees.
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Missed this first time through. 2 through 5XL try a Harley shop if you’re male; worse comes to worse you can sometimes trim off the patch and their stuff wears as good as it looks. I got a jacket from the mid 80s that looks as good as ever. Ignore the “new” stuff and haunt the clearance racks. Find a HOG member and get his old atlas for when you travel. You will be a fashion hit in no time.
If you are female forget I even mentioned it. The MotherCompany thinks every woman out there is a tramp sized 2 or less.
You can be neat, clean, and tidy while wearing a form-fitting outfit. I generally don’t take offense at what people wear, because to do so would be to assume they are intentionally dressing to provoke negative feelings. Which would be a crazy thing to assume.
There’s nothing inherently offensive about a fat person wearing tight clothes. But if someone is wearing a hate symbol or hate message on a t-shirt, I’ll join you in calling them offensive.
I was brought up to abhor self-righteous, sanctimonious message board posts.
It depends on the situation. Most cases, it doesn’t cross my mind and I pay it no extra attention, similar to anyone else walking around. Ultimately, it really depends on the choice of clothing. Simply being in something tight, doesn’t mean it looks bad. If it’s put together and presented well, it can be pulled off.
As to hiding it, I don’t think it works that way. Big and loose clothing may disguise lines, but I think it’s better to have something properly fitted, since big and loose can look just as bad.
No, I don’t think anyone should wear tight clothes to the office. We only bitch and moan when the wearers are fat.
That said, there are a couple of factors. There’s the break point, generally around size 18, where the next size up is $5-$10 more. Then, there’s the US idea that a good wardrobe is based on quantity, not quality. So, you get people who hang on to those too tight pieces, believing that they will reappear when a) those 20# disappear, or b) when everything else is dirty. Since the awful clothes are still hanging there, b) happens more often than seems possible.
Personally, I think sewing lessons and a good quality sewing machine go a long way toward fixing the problem for a middle class lass.
Hurr! You totally should have told her because I bet in her mind she was thinking “I would look really awesome in a bikini and I bet dougie_monty would find me sexy and give me kisses!” Totally.
There’s a difference between “tight/ form fitting clothes” and “poorly fitting because I grew out of them” clothes. You cannot buy a pair of very large women’s bottoms in a style that is not form-fitting at any sort of fashion store (Lane Bryant, Torrid, Avenue). You can buy some flowing skirts or flared jeans but above the flares those jeans are going to be skin tight. “Jeggings” and “skinny jeans” are in now, and whether they look good on women of size or not, they are being marketed to us. Because they are what is in for everyone else.
I got no problem with fat women wearing skin-tight clothes. I get in a bathing suit every day and go out in public [to swim] and I don’t care because people think I’m fat and disgusting whether I am wearing a flowing mumu or baggy jeans or a clingy camisole. Just because my shorts cling to my ass because The Fashion Industry has decided this is what we do now honestly does not make anyone think any more highly of me. Well hopefully since I have this great Tighter Tummy Technology holding in my gut 2cm more than usual, you think I’m slightly less gross. But really when you go home and type on your message board about the ugly fat broad you saw today you are going to do it whether or not you saw me in a tight shirt or a bathing suit or a 5XL plain brown tee.
Now, dudes who wear too-tight pants with their guts and butts hanging out? Not nice. Women who GIVE themselves muffin-top because they want to get one more month out of those shorts? Sad for you, sweetie. Someone at the beach who should have looked in the mirror before deciding the suit fit, a little scary.
But people who wear clean, form-fitting clothes because it makes them feel good, whatever their size? Good to go.
That’s’ not what you said. You said " people who do what they want to do, fuck what anyone else thinks." Your words do not exclude hate messages, nor those “intentionally dressing to provoke negative feelings”. But thank you for modifying your declared position, without offending anybody with the F-bomb…
I shower for my own benefit, but also for the benefit of others. Do I have some right to smell like ball sweat? I guess maybe I do, just the same as I have every right to erect a 12’ pyrotechnic swastika in my front yard or to call out sexist remarks to passing women like I’m a one dimensional construction worker in a sitcom.
I don’t think anyone is upset that I don’t exercise any of those rights. Why do people get so touchy when someone mentions they prefer to see others wear well fitting clothes in accordance with accepted social norms?
Looks uncomfortable.
None of my beeswax.
Tho I do get giggling fits whin some idiot wearing pants 4 sizes to big gets tangled in them while running from the police.
Fat people shouldn’t try to hide the fact that they’re fat by wearing loose-fitting clothing. Or maybe they are wearing what makes them comfortable, and they don’t care what you think.
Most fat people are poor - or maybe people who make sweeping generalizations like this have no idea what is or is not true about fat people.
Most fat people are gaining weight - or maybe again you are making a completely invalid and unsupported generalization.
And yet if they do, you sneer at them for trying to hide their fat. There’s just no winning with you, is there. What you really mean, is that people shouldn’t be fat in public.
Your post makes me wish we were in the pit, because if I were to post what I think about you here it would get me a warning.
