Shame?
People usually only feel ashamed if they value the opinion of people judging them. So let’s do the math.
If a person doesn’t feel ashamed in spite of your judgement, it could be because they don’t value your opinion. Their behavior will not change to suit your preference because they don’t care about your preference.
Shocking, I know.
Laziness plays a factor too. In fact they often go hand in hand. A person doesn’t feel shame about how they present themselves in public because they are too lazy to do anything about it.
They won’t change because they are lazy. How many times do people complain on messageboards about how “My SO refuses to pull up his pants/put down the toilet seat/clean up after himself/get a job/etc”. Here is a situation where even the person they are living with, possibly even married to is giving them feedback. Not some random heckler on the street, a person that loves and cares about them. If they aren’t going to listen to that person so close to them, then its because they are really lazy.
It’s just like how there is a subset of people that seem chronically unemployed. They will make all sorts of excuses for why they can’t find a job (the economy, unfair competition, stuff about themselves they refuse to change, etc) yet never accept they are holding themselves back. When it is suggested they broaden their search for jobs, they’ll accuse you of ‘blaming the victim’ :rolleyes: . They’re too lazy to do what it takes to get a job they might end up being happy and successful at.
If I thought my bus driver job was so inferior, I never would have applied. But I was open to the possibility that there were opportunities out there as long as I was willing to follow instructions and put on my ‘game face’ every day. It got me the job I have now; a job that gives me a fraction of the stress of other people’s jobs for 3x the pay.
Today I learned that being fat and dressing in tight clothes can serve as a social filter to drive away weird, judgy assholes.
BRB finding spandex!
pretty much the point I wanted to make; nicely said
Congratulations! You’re like 99% of everybody on the planet–working a job just to pay the bills! It must be wonderful to feel so special.
Ok, I was just asking to clarify; I do not find it a difficult concept.
YMMV, but I have a hard time buying the argument that fat people can’t find clothes that fit. In my 30+ years of dressing myself in size 18 and above, I have managed to find clothes that fit and flatter me as much as possible. Sure, they aren’t always “on trend” but they aren’t tents or tight, either.
IMHO, people can wear whatever they like, but the excuse that you can’t find things that fit? If anything, it has gotten easier over the years to find clothes. Torrid wasn’t around when I was young, but I managed, and on a budget for many years, too.
Really?! Since you’re boasting about it, how much do you earn being a bus driver?
Several posters in this thread have told you look like a judgemental ass, in so many words. Several hundred more are lurking and thinking the same thing. And yet you keep playing the same tune. Why is that?
Does it make sense to call you lazy because you have yet to conform to other people’s expectations? Or does it make sense to say that you–just like the fat people you enjoy criticizing–feel you have the right to express yourself to your own liking?
You don’t feel shame in how you present yourself on this board because you see nothing wrong with your behavior. So does the fat man with his butt crack showing. I’m sorry that you can’t see the similarities here.
Guys, I think we’d have better luck making sense out of Bobcat Goldthwait. Courtesy of the intrepid Incubus…
I’m thinking if mommy or daddy all those years ago didn’t make a didn’t, us possible fatties (because isn’t everyone on the internet?) aren’t going to either.
Is it feedback if it’s unsolicited? Or is it just criticism?
Last year, $86,000. This year I’m set to top $90K.
That’s 40 hour work weeks?
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, $60,960 is the 90th percentile annual salary for a transit bus driver in CA.
This is a lot like the conversation we had regarding women who expose their cleavage with the shirts they wear.
On the one hand, there is a simpler option: stop wearing clothes that show just how fat you are.
On the other hand, if it bothers you that others will judge, then don’t wear tight clothes then bitch about people judging.
Wanting your cake and eating it too, is immature and not worth defending.
Everybody has their preferences. But when people mention preferring women that aren’t ‘too skinny’ ‘too fit’ or ‘spend too much time on their appearance’ you don’t see my fodnga self come stampeding into the thread pointing out that there might be some totally functional, nerdy hot razor smart woman who just so happens to like to spend a bit of time on her makeup and hair.
However, when I point out that people who wear poorly fitting clothes are lazy and take no pride in their appearance, the whole peanut gallery comes stampeding out of the woodwork 
You’re not saying that people who wear poorly fitting clothes are lazy and take no pride in their appearance.
You’re saying that all fat people are lazy and take no pride in their appearance. And you should be able to point it out and no one should be upset, because just like a man can say “oops, thanks!” and zip his fly, a far person can say “Oops, thanks!” and immediately go to the gym and drop enough weight to be non-offensive to you.
How does that even make sense?
I realize this thread is asking about fat people in too-tight clothes but it’s dismissing the fact that there are fat people who wear well-fitting and flattering clothes (just so we can bash fat people) and also ignores the fact that non-fat people wear ill-fitting and non-flattering clothes (just so we can bash fat people).
We get it, you don’t like fat people. You have never met a well-adjusted fat person. We’re all idiots. You absolutely know the answer to every fat person’s problems, and if they just cared as much about life as you do, they could be happy like you and marry a Mexican who is not fat.
Nobody wants to hear that shit. Stop pretending like you know it all.
I take the bus to and from work every day so I see a lot of bus drivers. Most of them are overweight. They have the same job as you, “worked hard” to do the same thing you do. Are they also inferior?
Also as for bus driver being such a great job, I’ve seen people on the bus vomit, pass out, get in fights, poop!, lie about why they can’t pay and on and on. If I had that job I’d drive the bus into a brick wall after about 10 minutes.
I think that’s why you’re so bitter and judgmental, you deal with idiots all day long and it’s spilled over onto every aspect of your life.
Did they stick their finger in their bum to dig out the poo?