This poll is aimed at heterosexual females who sometimes have orgasms through coital intercourse and sometimes do not orgasm. I’d like to know what was different about the times that you did orgasm vs. the times you did not.
Please attempt to quantify the percentage that each of the following factors have played in your ability to have an orgasm:
A. Your partner’s sexual technique.
B. Your partner’s physical appearance
C. Who your partner is (his status, fame, wealth, power, money, etc.)
D. Your partner’s penile characteristics (length, girth, hardness, degree of curvature, etc.)
E. Your partner’s personality.
F. Your partner’s behavior that particular evening (how romantic he was, what he said to you, etc.)
G. Something other than what I’ve listed above (please specify).
Note that your list should total 100%.
So, for instance, if you felt that each of the above were equally important in determining whether or not you would have an orgasm, you would reply
16 2/3% A
16 2/3% B
16 2/3% C
16 2/3% D
16 2/3% E
16 2/3% F
Or if it was entirely determined by his penis size, you would simply reply
15% lets add hygiene in here too. It’s hard for my husband to LOOK bad to me, but he can definitely be too grubby.
C. Who your partner is (his status, fame, wealth, power, money, etc.)
30%, that is, he’s my husband who I love body and soul
D. Your partner’s penile characteristics (length, girth, hardness, degree of
curvature, etc.)
10%. Average is great. Anything much smaller than average would probably interfere w/orgasm.
E. Your partner’s personality.
Can’t separate this from category C.
F. Your partner’s behavior that particular evening (how romantic he was, what he said to you, etc.)
5%. Mostly just needs to refrain from being a total asshole
G. Something other than what I’ve listed above (please specify).
30%. The main factor is whether or not it is morning or not. For some reason (probably self-fulfilling prophecy by now) I almost never have an orgasm from morning sex.
Clitoral and g-spot stimulation determines my orgasmic functioning. I’ve been with less than desirable men who have been able to bring me to orgasm. All I needed to do was close my eyes.
Of course, it’s much much better with the one I loooove, but I could probably orgasm with just about anyone.
A. Your partner’s sexual technique: 30%
B. Your partner’s physical appearance: 10%
C. Who your partner is (his status, fame, wealth, power, money, etc.): 20% (he’s my husband and I wouldn’t sleep with anyone else; his income, fame or power have very little to do with my attraction to him)
D. Your partner’s penile characteristics (length, girth, hardness, degree of curvature, etc.):10%
E. Your partner’s personality: 20%
F. Your partner’s behavior that particular evening (how romantic he was, what he said to you, etc.): 10%
G. Something other than what I’ve listed above (please specify): can’t think of anything, so 0%
Sexual technique is very important, and my husband wouldn’t be my husband if I didn’t like his personality. As for behavior, it’s not really how romantic he was acting, but if he starts tickling me during foreplay, sex is often out because I get so ticklish I can’t be touched certain places afterward. Wealth, power and money have nothing to do with the way I view my husband’s “performance.” As for “penile characteristics,” well, I’ll throw another vote in for average. A former boyfriend was waaaaay too well-hung, and another partner was not well-hung at all. Average is good.
P.S. All these answers are quite different than they would have been only 5 years ago.
Are you trying to figure out what makes women come from intercourse? Or just come, period? Two very different questions.
Come at all: 100% A (If I’m in bed with him already, I assume all the other factors are at least acceptable, and that’s all that’s necessary. If I had strong objections on any front, we wouldn’t be having sex.)
Come from intercourse:
a: 80%
d: 10%
g: 10% (I need to feel completely adored by him, comfortable and relaxed. So far that can only be acheived with my fiance, so it would be G: he needs to be my fiance, who is the only man in my entire life (and 75 lovers) who ever made me orgasm from intercourse, and now he does it all the time, it’s the “lazy”, easiest way for us to have sex.
He is my King Arthur…the only one who could extract Excalibur from the stone… I knew then he was the only man for me.
