Okay, we had a good response last week on this but nothing so far this week.
So, I am moving this thread back up to the top.
I will give my report tomorrow after I weigh in.
Jeffery
Bad week stress wise… im down 5 since last Thursday.
We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by
embracing one another
5 in one week, that is good Sue. As long as it was done in a healthy manner.
Keep up the good work folks.
Jeffery
Do finger nails count as healthy? LOL j/k… thanks!!
We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by
embracing one another
I didn’t respond yet because my weighins are on Wednesdays. So, I’ll hear tonight how I did.
Went away last week to Homecoming at my school. Didn’t stay EXACTLY on my program, but didn’t do too badly either. As of Monday, I had lost a pound since last Wednesday. Which in my mind, is damn good considering I was eating out 3 meals a day for three days. This weekend should be rough too…visiting my grandmother.
As for programs…I’m on a hospital-based program. Right now I get 1200 calories a day, 300 of which are meal replacement shakes. As time goes on, I get to move to all food. Once I reach goal, I’m required to keep going in a maintenance mode for 6 months. Yes, this is strict as hell. BUT, it’s working so far. And…because of my many health problems (lupus, arthritis, asthma, history of diabetes and heart disease in my family), I need to be on a medically supervised program so I can finally lose this damn weight.
Oh, and one last thing…Athena (and everyone else who has less to lose), I didn’t mean to belittle your struggles. I wish I only had that much to lose…but I know it’s JUST as hard as what I’m going through. In some ways, I think it’s harder. I’m SO overweight, that just by eating normally, I can lose a few pounds a week. I know that once I get closer to goal, it will get harder. I apologize if I seemed to be mocking y’all.
And one final question - how are y’alls friends/relatives taking this? I ask because my friends are WONDERFULLY supportive, but my parents…I have heard all my life that I’m fat. My goal weight now (which is okay by my parents) was “too fat” when I graduated high school. My mother told me being in size 12 pants was horrible. (Sigh…I wish I was in size 12s again.) So…trying to lose this is hard enough. Dealing with them makes it even worse. Any suggestions?
And damn…I think this might be the longest post I’ve ever made on this board!
“Better people…better food…and better beer!”
-Neil Peart, Rush
Falcon, that sounds great and we await your weigh in results. FWIW, no matter what you did this last week, the fact that you are seriously working on losing the weight is great keep it up.
On the other part of your post. Everybody is being supportive. They are saying I look great and all. But I understand the parents thing.
When I was in school, they always told me I needed to lose weight. I did need to but not that much. Since, my family did not eat particularly healthy (almost no vegetables ever, and cookies, cakes, and pies around fairly often), I could not lose weight. Since, I did not understand the mechanics as I do now, I got frustrated and gave up and subsequently gained a lot of weight (over 100 lbs).
Now, I show people my senior pictures (I weighed 240), they think I look small. They do not recognize me. If I could just reach that my parents would be happy. The same has happened with my wife.
Her mother and step-father told her she was too heavy (about 130 and she is 5’7"). Try as she might she could not get to the 110 or whatever they expected. Looking at her pictures she was not that big. Her sisters who are several years younger are also about the same height as she is and they are around the 125 - 130 mark and they have never gotten fussed at.
My mother thinks I am doing good, but I think she is a bit jealous. She remarked how she walked just as long as I have and the same distance yet she has not dropped the kind of weight I have. She has also remarked that she just “hopes” I can keep it off.
Even though they may not be as supportive as the rest of my friends, I do not care. I am not doing it for them, I am doing it for me and my family. I am going to lose the weight and get healthy and live a long time with my family.
Keep up the good work Falcon and everyone else.
We will the be slimmer trimmer SDMB.
Jeffery
I have no problems with my friends - relatives (especially MOTHER) is a different story. In a way, she’s been the reason why I’ve never wanted to lose weight before. Being a grand total of about 25 pounds above what doctor’s have told me was my healthy weight, it’s not like I was obese or anything. But any visit to my mother always had her telling me I was fat, I ate too much, etc. etc. Everything else I had accomplished ( great career, big house, big salary, regular exercise pattern, good relationships ) seemed to get lost when compared to the fact that I was a size 12/14 rather than an 8/10.
Now that I’m losing, she’s incredibly supportive. But it still bugs me that I never felt that she accepted me at a weight that was, after all, not really that huge.
Lost 2 pounds this week - and that included one day that I went completely off my diet (had an all day party, and gave myself permission to go off for one day) and a night out drinking (OK, I didn’t plan for that one, it just happened.) Only 10 pounds left to go!
Bringing this one to the top…since I got weighed in last night. Lost a pound and a half! (Which, for going to Homecoming, was GREAT!) And as the doctor said, at least I’m going in the right direction…Woohoo!
Congrats!!!
We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by
embracing one another
Falcon, as a little story, I read a while ago said.
A guy went to his doctor and after being weighted said he had only lost a pound in the last week. The doctor said, “But if you keep that up, that will be 52 lbs by this time next year.”
Weightloss is difficult and often slow, but 1.5 lbs a week is 78 lbs in a year and as you said it was also during a week that had more eating and stuff going on.
So, keep up the good work.
I lost 3 lbs this week for a total of 40 lbs since I began my program.
Jeffery
Athena:
Your mother is projecting her own hangups on to you. It sucks bigtime, and you should bust her on it. YOU love yourself whatever way you are, what a shame she can’t. And if she can’t, she should at least shut up about it.
Athena -
I’ll second Stoid’s comment…and add this: are your mother and mine sisters?? Sheesh, that’s what my mom does to me!
I’ve heard it all…I’ll never: have a boyfriend, get a better job, get married, go to graduate school, be happy, etc. until I lose 100 pounds. I actually used to believe that shit, and in some ways I still do.
Don’t listen to her, Athena. You are SO much more than that.
Thanks for the support! It’s really not as big of a deal as my first post made it out to be… after all, I live 1400 miles away from her. And, we’re pretty close (I probably talk to her 3-4 times a week if not every day.) She’s really great in all areas except this one, and I really do put it down to her growing up in an era when a woman’s looks were everything.
Regardless, though, it bugged me enough that I’m posting about it. I know it’s not all in my head cuz my boyfriend heard it all last summer when we were visiting - Mom telling me “you young people eat so much!” when I suggested stopping (we were on a day trip in the car) and having lunch. And a few other comments… lovely boyfriend told me that if she hadn’t been my mother that he would have told her off. Anyways, I think part of her regrets that I’m an engineer instead of an interior decorator, and would rather shop for motorcycles than new clothes.
And yeah, Falcon, maybe they are sisters! I guess we’re all just little kids at heart… I have to admit, I’m loving calling her and telling her about all the weight I’ve lost. She gets so damn excited!
One thing that ispired me was something someone once said to me in passing.
“Just think how happy you’ll be in one year that you started today.”
It got me thinking that it is a long term goal, and things don’t happen overnight, but if you stick with it, changes will happen.
4 lbs down but I can’t credit it to anything but being an emotional basketcase without an apetite. This really wasn’t the way I wanted to lose it but at least it is a positive in my week of negatives.
“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas
I went back to the doctor yesterday. Since 10/1 I’ve gone from 241 to 218 (30 lbs to go) and from 35% body fat to 28%. Woo Hoo! I’m ramping up the exercise program this month.
Plunging like stones from a slingshot on Mars.
I walked three times last week! And I’m already getting compliments about how my legs are shaping up.
I quit drinking cokes - five weeks without now. I eat more fruit than I have in a long time.
I’ve already started to notice how much better I feel if I’ve gone walking. I think that I will start tackline more of my eating problems as time goes on and I feel better about myself and my discipline.
Well, I seem to still be losing about .50 lb per day. Wouldn’t it be sweet if that could be sustained?
Meanwhile, I’m sticking with my program through a lot of stress. Even doing my workouts. I’m going to do it, I really believe that.
S
I know that there have been different discussions as to the various “food plans” that each person is on. I am no doctor or nutritionist, so I cannot comment on any plan other than the one I am on.
I will say that for it to work it must be a life long change. If you honestly believe that you can eat this way for a lifetime and be healthy, then do it.
Congratulations to everyone who has had success in the area of weight loss.
For those who have not been as successful, keep at it.
Thursday is my weigh-in day, so I will post my new loss then.
Let’s keep it up eveyone.
Jeffery
As an aside, my daughter is very close to the 40 lb area. This is as much as I have lost over the past couple of months.
When I pick her up now, it is like “Dang, I have lost this much. How did I ever walk around with this much extra weight?”
By the time I am done it will be like “Dang I have been walking around with a full grown average man on my back for years. How did I do that?”
Jeffery