I got to thinking about this today while stalk-- er-- checking out the exes’ myspace pages and the pages of their new girlfriends/ wives.
Interestingly, there is one common denominator between all of these girls: they all shave off and draw back on their eyebrows. You know the type, in high school my Hispanic friends would refer to that look as “chola brows.”
What’s interesting is that I don’t look, dress, or groom myself to look anything like the type of girl that shaves off her eyebrows and draws them back on with a Sharpie. As you can see, I’m nothing at all like that. It’s just a weird thing because I don’t shave my eyebrows, yet every. single. one. of. my. exes dates girls with shaved eyebrows after me (but not before, funny enough).
So what do all of your ex’s new SOs have in common, if anything?
They’re all about as “mainstream,” WASPy, and boring as possible, compared to me, who’s the arty/creative/weirdo type. College GF went from going to punk rock shows and indie movies with me to frat parties and pep rallies. The next one went from playing in such shows and making such movies with me to going to wine bars and dinner parties with her new MBA-in-progress boyfriend. The last one went from going on tour with me, publishing zines with me, and taking a film to festivals to marrying a used car salesman and voting republican.
My ex died in '98. The year he died, my daughter & I were talking about nicknames. I asked if he had a nickname for his current wife. Yes, she said, “he calls her Stupid”. Gee, I thought that was my nickname.
The only real “pattern” I’ve noticed so far is that the last couple of guys I was involved with both ditched me for the sake of dating a girl who is significantly younger (one guy was 29 and start dating a 17 y/o. The other guy was 27 and started dating an 18 y/o). It made me wonder if there’s something about immature guys that I subconsciously find attractive…or if I’m more immature myself than I realize. :dubious:
Not that it really matters who these exes end up with, since I’m sure we can all agree they’ve already messed up the best thing they’ll ever have.
Chola refers to a Hispanic gangster girl. I had plenty of friends in high school that lovingly referred to themselves as cholas. From Urban Dictionary:
My first ex-es were Lynda Carter as Wonder Woman, Barbi Benton on Fantasy Island and Vivian Leigh as Scarlett O’Hara. Those were the ones I fantasised about as young as 4 years old. I only realized much later that almost all of my girlfriends as well as my wife look like them with the same dark hair, blue eyes, and same build.
Three in a row ended up with Hispanic gentlemen of rather large girth. One of my friends --WARNING! semi racist comment ahead-- commented on that, saying that the girls in question simply say to themselves, “Well, if I can’t have NCB, I might as well marry a fat Mexican.”
Two of my girlfriends from my younger days ended up with each other. Damn. If I had only known …
And by the way, the lesson here is that I realized that the type of girl I was attracted to was the clean, virginal girl-next-door, BUT I wanted one that was into things that clean, virginal girls-next-door weren’t usually into (like bohemian music, film, and culture), so I ended up with clean, virginal girls-next-door who were going through their freak phase where they wanted to live dangerously, but then quickly reverted to clean, virginial girls-next-door as soon as they got through the phase.
Quite a few of those supposed virginial girls-next-door are actually as slutty as their counterparts but they manage to continue cultivating their clean image.
That happened to me too, in college. The first two girls I dated in college dated each other in senior year. So I guess what they had in common was excellent taste in women… and men.
Hmm…I think my ex’s new girls all seemed to be more needy than me. I have always been convinced that’s my downfall. I’m not needy enough.
I also have a near-perfect record of being dumped and the guy getting married right away to “new girl.” So I guess they all have in common the fact that they married someone I was recently dating.
Yeah, me too. Well, not artsy, but weird and counterculture. Worst part is I’m becoming more and more “mainstream” the older I get, and I wonder if my “phase” just lasted longer than theirs.
sigh Me too, again. Not “none”, but four, which is an awful high allotment of the total.
But the main thing I see is that they’re (the new girlfriends), very “sweet” and “nice”. They don’t have an argumentative bone in their body, and they’re very deferential to their new man. And none of them last very long. But I can see why they might seem a peaceful, temporary diversion after dating my argumentative, opinionated self!
