The lying son of a bitch finally admitted to me last night that he has been sleeping with a girl he always told me was just a friend. To make it worse, the little slut is married. She was always very nice to me, both pretending the had been friends for sooooo long. He tells me last night that it only happened once (yeah right), and that it was insignificant and meaningless. I sent her an e-mail today telling her how insignificant and meaningless she was. I also found out he was sleeping around with his ex (this is the girl he told me was psycho, no wonder!) I am livid!! I have it in my mind to tell everyone we know about the lying, manipulative adultress and the stupid son of a bitch bastard. I always thought he was so honest with me. He knew I was falling in love (I was honest with him) What the fuck kind of sick demented person will rip your heart out and stomp on it, then trash your dignity all the while claiming friendship and honesty as the basis for our relationship? And why is it you always hear the truth after the fact? (I found out his last three relationships ended this way) I stayed up all night crying my eyes out over a worthless peice of shit. Wasted, that is what the last YEAR of my life is. Used, that’s how I feel. Hate, that is all he will get from me from now on. Women in the Northern VA area watch out, he is out there. Fucking men!
He sounds like an asshole, and she doesn’t sounds any better. So why are you generalizing this to rest of the men in the world that you say you hate?
::bristles everytimes she hears “I hate men,” “I hate women,” or any other “I hate X” generalizations::
Well, maybe I am being to harsh on the rest of the male population. And I should have just stated why I hate my ex. I have lost a lot of faith after this. I am 29 yrs old and sick of men like the above mentioned. Why is it so hard to just be honest? To all the Nice men out there, I am sorry to generalize about you.
Well, if he’s fucking men now, women don’t have to worry.
I accept your apology:)
Andros LOL
Thank you for the smile.
All generalizations are false.
Tabeitha:
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We nice men aren’t all like that (I know you know that :))
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You haven’t wasted a year. You showed caring, commitment and honesty. You can hold your head high. You’re ready for a decent relationship.
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Perhaps he’ll learn something from you (or perhaps someone will dump him :wally)
His names isn’t Kevin is it? Sounds just like my ex. What an asshole. I wasted 9 months of my life with him only to find out he was fucking his “friend” Angie from the beginning of our relationship. He came crawling back about 3 weeks later and wanted to get back together. Let me tell you, that was the best “Fuck You” ever to pass my lips!
Just chalk it up as a learning experience I guess. Not all men are like that. There’s still a few good ones left. I firmly believe that every woman has to go through their share of assholes before finding the right guy. It took me about 20 assholes before I found the right one. Believe me… you go through that many bad relationships and you know when you’ve found a good one!
Don’t think of it as a waste of time, Tabeitha, think of it as a learning experience that makes you a stronger, smarter person.
Ok that’s lame, but I am really sorry that happened to you. But look to the future. Don’t give up.
I always believed you meet people for a reason, either you learn from them or they learn from you. I learned from my ex that I have this endless supply of love, that I can have the dream. I don’t think he learned anything from me, I don’t think he ever took our relationship seriously. That is what hurts the most, knowing everything I believed in him was a lie, one big facade.
glee, Thanks for the support and kindness.
Rachelle, No his name is Jay. And thank you also for the support. I have been through my share of bad relationships and I really thought he was one of the good ones. I stayed single for a long time before I meet him as I was waiting for something real to come along. We took time to build a friendship so we would have a strong foundation. He was my best friend. At least that’s what I believed we were doing. Paint me a fool. I have also learned that when something truly hurts there can be an endless supply of tears. I am going on a long drive up in the mountains tonight, maybe the drive and time to think will calm me. Right at this moment I am so very glad you are all here.
You know what, Tabeitha? Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of assholes before you end up with a decent guy. (That just does not sound like I thought it would. Hmmmm…)
Anyway, I sure kissed my fair share prior to meeting my husband, who is not a jerk. Hang in there, and make a nice voodoo doll of him. (Works wonders) Sorry for your misery.
Zette
Look at it this way: All the fucked-up relationships we suffer through are practice for the one we eventually get right.
Northern Virginia, eh? Well, I have to say men are a bit nicer on the better side of the Potomac. 
Not that I can do anything for you, but I just had to point that out.
[sub]Oh, and Zette? Why should Tabeitha make a voodoo doll of your husband? 
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I fucking hate porcupines.
Just kidding! Just kidding! Many of them are nice! They’re so cute when they waddle! Their quills are so useful for decorating moccasins! I mean, some of them (don’t mean to generalize…)
Someone told me once, ‘No relationship was a waste if you learned something from it’.
Of course, he was a bit of a putz…
Hey, now…MY name’s Kevin. I hope that’s not a generalization about all guys named that…
The asshole had the nerve to call me last night and pull that whole “it’s not you, it’s me” bullshit. I know it’s not me fuckwad. I have had to ask our receptionist to screen my calls as he has already left me messages here at work. I had to make a rule in my e-mail not to allow his e-mails through. I am so heart sick. He doesn’t love me; his actions repeatedly hurt me, yet he will not just let me go. I can’t be his friend; I want to forget he exists. I am beside myself with the fact that I have to shut him out like this. I have asked him to leave me alone as he has caused enough damage already. I am tired of crying, this lesson has dragged on long enough. I just want to be done with the whole thing.
I appreciate all your support. Thank you all for giving me at least one thing to smile about in this trying time.
For what it’s worth, Tabeitha, I’ve been there. I know how gut-wrenching it can be. I went through something similar with my ex-fiancee after she ran off with another guy. If you need to unload, feel free to drop me a line.
I feel your pain. I once had a BF who, when it was time to return home from our trip to Ireland & Scotland, says to me that he thinks he’ll stay a bit longer. Oh, ok honey. Stupid me.
Fast forward a month, during which I have received two phone calls from the love of my life. He comes home, armed with presents, and we go out to dinner. Halfway through dinner, after some strange comments cause me to question him in detail about his trip, what bombshell is dropped? He has spent the last month sleeping around Europe and Greece with this “really cool” Deadhead chick he met on a beach! And she was such a nice girl, he didn’t wear a condom! I about died right there. I mean, if I hadn’t pressed him to get the whole story, I would have slept with him just hours later! Thanks for almost giving me AIDS or hep-C or something, you shit!
Fuck him, he is certainly not worth your tears or your anger. Of course you are hurt, you should be. Grieve this loss as best you can, then move away from it. It will come back up if you need to work on it again!
Meanwhile, I know there are good men out there. I found a brilliant, funny, caring, absolutely perfect guy in the last place I thought I would. Don’t give up.
Yeah, I know, all this isn’t doing you much good right now, and we all can sound serene because we’re not knee-deep in it. But this too shall pass. Even as early as tomorrow morning, it will be different. Not necessarily better, but different.