Honestly, what do guys actually look for in a girl??? What sparks their interest??? Please answer this honestly:)
Every guy wants to feel like he is the most important thing in the world to the girl he likes. Beware, though: a bad guy will want to be the only thing in her world. Stay away from bad guys.
Humor. I love a girl who can laugh and have a good time when the time calls for it. Also, eyes are a huge part of my take on a gal, she has to have power in her eyes, passion…
~Amber-Skye~,
of course you know that there are a lot of different answers, depending on the age of the guy, the surroundings and whether you’re talking friendship, sex or love etc.
Also, it’s dangerous to generalise … so here goes!
-
99.8%* of men will admire an attractive woman on sight. This is a deep-seated response, and may involve involuntarily offending a current female companion.
-
Most men have difficulty telling if a woman is interested in them. (I don’t know if that’s relevant, but it seems important!)
-
Most men are flattered by a woman showing interest in them / their hobbies / their possessions. (It may be that men like sport, computers + cars more than women…)
-
If you’re in a noisy disco on holiday, then 1. is probably the only one that matters.
-
Some older rich men seem to desire younger attractive women (and seem to get them!)
(*84.2% of statistics are made up on the spot)
I agree with KtK. The most attractive thing a girl can do is act interested in me! (not that any ever have, but hypothetically, I mean)
Aside from that, I look for intelligence and a good sense of humor. They don’t have to be geniuses or comedians, but stupid is unattractive, and humorless is boring.
Yep, a good sense of humor, intelligence and an aura of “capability.”
Call it self-assuredness, I guess. A positive self-image is attractive.
Oh yeah. Small breasts. 
But, hey, I’m not finicky.
Here’s the system I use to select someone I’d like to date:
-
physical attractiveness – this is the first selection criteria. You’ve gotta have chemistry. However, this doesn’t mean you have to look like a super model – different people find different things attractive. For me, key features are nice eyes and a cute butt. Breast size, for example, is pretty much irrelevant to me, but is high priority to other guys.
-
sense of humor – I love people who are quick and witty. Finding my sense of humor funny (for real) is a big plus as well.
-
passion – someone who is enthusiastic and passionate about life is usually really exciting to be with.
-
intelligence – smart women are hot!
-
personality – good overall disposition and attitude.
-
self-confidence – a very attractive quality. It’s just good salesmanship – if you like yourself, odds are other people will too.
Of course, being obviously interested in me causes me to rate much more generously than a stranger I would have to pursue with uncertain results. If you like a guy – let him know! glee is right – guys are pretty dumb about picking up when someone likes them…
Hilarious. If I’d waited a few more minutes to post, I could have simply replaced the phrase “other guys” with the word “Rysdad” in my post.
[QUOTE]
**5. personality – good overall disposition and attitude. **
[QUOTE]
You can’t stress this one enough, because it affects everything else.
Guys like girls who SMILE. It seems obvious, but an amazing number of people never seem to smile or laugh in social situations. Half of all the girls I see have that pissed off model-needs-a-cheeseburger look. If you smile and laugh and look pleasant, people will be attracted to you. If you look angry or snobby, people will avoid you like the plague.
Smiling will make anyone prettier. Your sense of humour’s far more acute if you consciously try to be plesant. You seem smarter if you aren’t pissed off, since you’re more gregarious and conversational. Happy people invariably seem more self-confident and passionate. Everything else on Giraffe’s list is accentuated by having a plesant, happy demeanor.
I also have to concur that you must seem interested in guys. Avoid either extreme; being clingy will make you a pain in the ass, but being standoffish will simply cause most people to assume you don’t like them, so they’ll avoid you. Bear in mind that guys do NOT, as Glee points out, pick up on small hints; they need overt signs, like spending a few minutes to talk to them or just up and asking them out.
Well, I knew I’d fallen for my girlfriend when she told me that if we had a son she’d let me name him Diogenes if his middle name could be Marius.
But we’re weird kids.
Anyway, there are two ways of doing this.
First, there’s starting with physical attraction and working from there. That’s what I tried from age 13-17. Not successful at all for me.
Then there’s starting with the personality and letting the sexual attraction grow out of that. It’s working pretty damn well so far.
What about the personality is attractive?
-
Don’t always complain. Sure, a good guy should be there for you for the bad times. But no one wants to become an emotional dumping ground. There’s a good friend of mine I would NEVER go out with for exactly that reason.
-
I like smart girls. But that’s just me. Some guys can’t stand a girl who’s smarter than them. These guys are known collectively as ‘losers.’
I don’t have anything else. I’m not too picky. (Ack, that sounds bad, good thing the gf doesn’t read here.) I suppose I wasn’t much help, but, hey, I was bored.
–John
A nice smile (genuine and open)
A good sense of humour
A sense of adventure (or at least an interest in trying new things)
An open mind
Intelligence
Honesty
Actually the complete list of what would represent my soulmate would be found in the Perfect Girl thread.
Let me reinterate what other posters have said here:
The one thing a guy looks for in a woman more than any other is an unambiguous indication that she is interested in him. All else pales into insignificance in comparison.
Sure, if you let a guy know you’re interested, you stand a chance of being rejected. But put yourself in the guy’s shoes. The guy traditionally has the burden of laying his cards out on the table first by asking the woman out. He has probably had to endure a lot of rejections, more than a few embarrassments, and even a couple of hostile reactions from women whom he thought might be interested. He knows what rejection feels like. His ego is probably black-and-blue from bruises on top of bruises, and his heart is probably one big mass of scar tissue. Even if he’s not interested, he’ll probably be tickled pink by your interest in him – or at least he’ll be understanding about it.
One that acknowledges I exist.
I gotta disagree here. I think 99.8% of men find an attractive woman attractive on sight. I wouldn’t go so far as to say they admire her.
A girl with beautiful hair, preferrably worn up. And a great smile.
Also high on my list is someone who is smart and cares about me. I have a unique brand of luvin’.
I have to go with what a number of others have said–a woman who shows interest in me will have that interest returned. (And like some others, it has to be fairly obvious or I’m not gonna get the hint.)
Beyond that…she should be “nice” (sweet, compassionate…it’s hard to define a personal standard like this for others), have a good sense of humor, and have some interests that coincide with mine. Intelligence is a plus too, but it can be outweighed by the other factors.
As for looks…I’m old enough that I got over the notion that looks were especially important a long time ago. I’m not gonna win any prizes myself–if she doesn’t mind what I look like, then I don’t mind what she looks like. I have theoretical preferences, all of which I will cheerfully throw over the side for a real person.
Well personally I look for a girl who’s not afraid to tell me I’m full of shit. Seriously, I’m a loud semi-imposing guy, who just kind of talks a lot. The thing that impresses me most is a girl who has actual opinions and isn’t afraid to express them, even if they might not be right. I hate girls who do the demure thing and accept what anyone says. I guess the traditional words are ‘spunky’ and ‘spirited’ but those always seemed very condecending to me(maybe a girl will correct me but those words always seemed like a better description of a racehorse than a girlfriend.)I love to argue, and girls who take it too personally, and go off to cry, just arn’t going to be compatable with me.
I’ll be honest and admit a supermodel type body will get my hormones flowing, but I’m realistic enough to admit that girls like that arn’t interested in me, so as long as there is nothing extremly wierd in their looks I’m sexually attracted to them. A look of intelligence in the eyes insgood, the Bambi,deer-in-the-headlights-look just doesn’t do it.
I’m looking for someone who tolerates all of my interests, understands a lot of them, and shares at least a few of them.
I’m looking for someone who is beautiful in a unique way, not in a carbon-copy way.
I’m looking for someone who is moderately active - I’m not interested in couch potatoes or fitness junkies. There’s nothing wrong with fitness, but I’m not going to devote my life to it.
I’m looking for someone who will ask for everything she wants, and demand very little of what she wants. I’m looking for someone patient enough to hear me out when I ask for things, but someone strong enough to turn me down when she needs to.
I’m looking for someone who can accept that I cannot be emotionally expressive on command. Neither am I looking for someone who will try to do entirely without emotional exchange. I’m looking for someone who will be able to handle it when I cry but will never insist that I cry.
I’m looking for someone who accepts my flaws, instead of trying to pretend they don’t exist. I’m also looking for someone who is neither intimidated by nor dismissive of my strengths.
Is that too much to ask? Probably, but it’s not like I’m turning people down.
I’m gay. But I’d probably be interested in a girl if she were tomboyish enough. If a lady can’t throw things and beat the crap out of me if I piss her off–I’m not interested. 
That’s overexaggerating probably, but I consider it an important thing to know whether or not you and a partner are thouroughly enjoying each other’s company. The -friendship- has to be there, it plays a more important role than just the romance.
-Ashley