“Sapiosexual.” 
That’s me.
Having never dated a man of my ideal physical type, I can safely say that intangible qualities vastly outweigh physical ones. The only dealbreakers that spring to mind are poor hygiene (which is easily fixable, not a permanent trait) and extreme morbid obesity (to the point that his ability to move around would be seriously affected).
Other than that, I’m not terribly fond of extensive tattooing, body piercings, poor dressing skills, or lots of body hair - but for the right combination of intelligence, education, honesty, reliability, and common interests, all of those would be overlooked in a heartbeat!
I’ll go with a lot of the other girls and say I can’t stand a man who doesn’t groom. You don’t have to be a fashion plate, but you do have to shower. Just pick a look (even if this look is “low-maintenance grad student”) and go with it. Can’t stand guys who think being uncombed, unshaven and unironed makes them look ‘rugged’. There are a few styles I find particularly cute, but nothing turns me off like a sense of aimlessness and apathy about personal appearance.
That’s just physically. Personality-wise, any really hugely blatant attempts to impress me will lower your chances quite a bit. I find the whole ‘women are prizes to be won’ mentality to be particularly unattractive, and likewise that idea that the impressive things are universal and what works on one girl will work on all of them.
Aside from those, there aren’t really any single things that are dealbreakers. It’s more of the overall effect, if you catch my drift.
I’m really not sure what you mean by this. The OP asked what we ladies find physically unattractive in men. I don’t shun men who have crazy eyebrows or soft jawlines, I’m just not generally attracted to them. I can assure you that there are plenty of men who are not physically attracted to me for any number of reasons. When someone posts “What do find physically unattractive in a woman?” I usually see overweight (check), imperfect teeth (check), large hips/thighs and non-impressive boobage (checkcheckcheck). I take it in stride, I’m never short of admirers. I don’t quite understand why it’s necessary to see what I look like before accepting my post. If I were unattractive to you, would it somehow change what I am and am not allowed to find attractive in others? 
I can deal with a lot of the “changeable” stuff: bad clothes, ill groomed eyebrows, bad haircut etc… Some of the most gorgeous sweet-natured guys are hiding underneath a bad haircut and ugly jeans. All that stuff tends to be negotiable.
I also like arrogance (actually, a dash, like salt, is required) and don’t mind hirsutism. Probably because I either go for Mediterranean or Indian guys, presumptuous pelts the lot of them.
I can’t say exactly what I find “ugly” but it would probably range to the obvious-bad hygeine, bad manners and someone who was severely out of shape and completely unwilling to make a lifestyle change.
I tend not to go for metrosexual guys but I would not say they’re “ugly”. But in L.A. metrosexual is a whole different world…we’re talking frosted hair and waxed eyebrows here…
I think “am not personally attraced to” is more accurate than “ugly” for me. I don’t really spend a lot of time thinking of other people as downright ugly-generally more “not my type”.
And lavenderviolet, I’m with you on the beaky/aquiline/roman nose!!! In fact it’s pretty much a requirement that the guy have one.
Hey there, my tetracycline teeth say “how you doin’?”
Mom took me to the dentist when I was 12 to see about “doing something with those teeth”. Capping wasn’t even available. He said I’ll get white teeth when they’re paid for 
We looked into straightening them, but he did what he called a “bite test” and said that since I wasn’t planning on being a model (with this ass? yeah right), he had to recommend leaving them “ugly but with the best bite I’ve even seen”. He said that straightening them would leave me with worse mastication leading to stomach problems. So bad teeth aren’t something I can rate people on. I don’t find David Bowie’s smile particularly attractive but it would be the pot calling the kettle black.
There’s something that used to get on my nerves and after a couple bad experiences became a “no way José”, but it’s not physical. Guys who are evidently trying too hard: they open the door for me but don’t know how to do it, for example. Or before we were dating they didn’t have any problem seeing me with an armload of stuff, but once we’re dating I can’t be allowed to carry my own napkin, I could break a nail from the weight of the paper! :rolleyes: Please don’t fake it, I’d much rather meet the real you before things get too complicated.
Thank you, but one lucky camera angle (& a whole lot of photoshop) does not an adorable count make.
(That check’s in the mail, btw…)
Sorry for the late post. I was following some very good advice & overslept a bit this weekend…
My responses are the same as many here. Bad grooming or poor hygiene are turn-offs, as is a bad attitude. I know you can’t see the latter, but it’s ugly nevertheless.
I don’t mind hairiness, in fact I kind of like it. Guys that are* too * smooth remind me of boys.
Facial hair that is not well trimmed is gross, but I do like beards and mustaches.
Sonofa… are you shittin’ me? Is THAT why I’ve had to deal with the mistaken assumption that I’m a smoker most of my adult life?
:eek:
A quick Wikipedia browse and… well, crap.
round of applause
Well spoken.
I get squicked out by the back of a man’s head being flat or having no definition where the skull meets the spine. You know what I mean. Got to be nice and round back there.
Men whose lips are ‘girly-full’, that’s too feminine for me.
‘Soul patch’ or any other grooming nonsense that looks like you missed a spot. The patch to me is particularly gross 'cause guys chew on it, dunno why.
Another vote against chinless men. Goes back to that definition between the head and the neck thing. I’m not so against weak chin, so long as it’s there.
Before someone thinks me vain, I had a long-standing crush on a guy who had significant neck and facial burns, a great smile and pretty eyes, great hair and a big laugh. I look at the **whole package ** before rejecting out of hand based on purely physical aspects. (He always had a girlfriend and I wasn’t gonna snake another woman like that, else I’d have approached him.)
I agree with what so many others have said: If there’s a basic level of hygiene and health, no man is ugly. However, to provide an answer to the OP, the physical characteristics that are least attractive to me are tattoos and obesity, in that order.
Interesting responses. I don’t quite have fur but am on the hairy side. Just what do you ladies expect hairy guys to do- shave their backs? A little hard to do yourself and not exactly a common barbershop request. I have a unibrow which I shave back from time to time. Plucking? Heck no- that would hurt.
Another vote for hygiene and health, but…
To me, a man should be a man, and should spend less time maintaining himself than I spend maintaining myself. As said before in this thread, he should be showered, shaved (or trimmed) and combed. If he has real problems like acne or wonky teeth, it’s good to have that taken care of too. That’s my idea of a well-groomed man. Use of hair products, waxing, manicures, all of the metrosexual stuff–it doesn’t just turn me off, it makes me afraid of him. I know there are exceptions, but my gut instinct is that any man who is that vain about himself is going to be even more critical of me, and I can’t handle that.
I don’t mind hairiness. I don’t mind spindliness. I don’t even mind an honest middle-age pouchy stomach. Obesity would have to be judged together with his mental state–a happy fat man is fine, an insecure one isn’t.
Body adornment: a very, very understated fragrance can be nice–preferably the kind that is mixed in with his shampoo or soap and not the kind he sprays on. Good breath is a must. Sharp clothes are definitely attractive; sloppy or smelly clothes are turn-offs. Tattoos, piercings, and creative facial hair are all great big turn-offs. Jewelry doesn’t register with me generally.
Wuss.
Darn right. I made the mistake of letting my wife pluck one eyebrow hair- NEVER AGAIN! That smarts!
My husband’s fuzzy too! I love, love, love it!
What I don’t like is poor grooming, unkempt nails (fingers and toes), nose hair, unibrows and ear hair! I love beards and am cool on mustaches and goatees, etc. Guys with weak chins are unattractive as well as guys with long skinny necks and huge Adam’s apples. Pock marks and acne are not always a person’s fault, but really ugly to me.
That all said, I’ve been attracted to all different body types from fat to skinny. The truth is, if a man “does it” for you all the things you never thought you liked can suddenly be quite interesting. Chemistry? Pheromones?
I was once quite attracted to a guy who happened to be blind. He wore dark glasses most of the time. When we were alone, he didn’t. His eyes were not his best feature, but it didn’t matter.
Actually, I wouldn’t expect a man to change that sort of thing at all. Looks like there are plenty of women, in this very thread, who find it attractive and very sexy/manly. I don’t expect every woman to share my preferences, just as I’m sure men don’t. For instance, there are guys out there who don’t like large-breasted women. I’m not going to lose any sleep over it, or have mine reduced. I just married a guy who thinks they’re hot.
There is truth to this, as well. Before I got married, I had more “preferences”: skinny, bony, even - hairless men. Brown eyes were a plus. Certain types of hands. Certain accents, too. Oh, yes, indeed, I had a checklist a mile long. I despised “jocks”; anyone into sports was loony.
I married a muscular, hairy, blue-eyed running back.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way. He treats me like a queen, even though I’m more of a Dairy Queen than a Nefertiti. If he can hop happily into bed with my big booty, I can happily curl up against his bearskin rug every night.
This thread is making me wonder why I’m not attracting more women.
[ul]
[li]I’m pretty decent looking by default[/li][li]I groom myself[/li][li]I practice good hygeine[/li][li]I am only arrogant for the sake of comedy[/li][li]I Have a spine[/li][li]I Have a brain[/li][li]I Have been described as having a great personality by more than a few people[/li][li]Am only slightly above my “normal weight”, but excercises more than the average bear[/li][li]With having said that, I’m a killer in the kitchen[/li][li]Appreciates and practices art[/li][li]Has a sense of humor that treks across every type of humor there is[/li][li]I am a student[/li][li]Love to learn[/li][li]Is productive[/li][li]I am open minded and always hear people out[/li][li]I have an awesome taste in movies, music, literature, food, and life in general[/li][li]And I don’t whine about being a “nice guy” being rejected in favor of jerks. [/ul][/li]
Mmhmm, something is amiss :dubious: .
Of course, my tendancy to lead an introverted lifestyle could probably serve as an all purpose answer to questions like the one I’m pondering right now. Drat.
Dagnabit, when’s the next Orlando Dope Fest? I need to meet some like minded people.