What I miss about not being single; also, what I used to miss about being single

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I was pretty happy being single. My current relationship is unusually good and there’s no way I would break up with him just to experience singlehood again, but yes sometimes I miss the single life.
I’m an introvert so being alone comes naturally to me. I think back fondly to the evenings I could spend at home in my apartment alone relaxing back when I was younger and single. The privacy and solitude was awesome.
Doing what I want when I want, watching the TV I like, having a bed all to myself, listening to the music I like, not having to justify or explain anything to anyone else? All so very awesome.

I also kind of liked how full of POTENTIAL everything seemed. Even though sometimes I became annoyed at online dating because a lot of the guys seemed creepy or stupid, there was something fun about the search for the right guy. First dates are kind of fun…the mystery and excitement of meeting someone new.

But, yeah, I’m in a relationship now and obviously there are reasons for that.
It’s nice having someone who “gets” you (most of the time). There are times when he doesn’t quite understand me, but he understands me better than anyone else does!

It’s nice to have someone around who would take care of me the best he could if I became ill or disabled. If I died alone at home, I can feel confident that my body would be discovered very quickly - whereas back when I was single, considering that I am such an introvert, it would have been a realistic possibility that if I died I could have been one of those cases where the body isn’t discovered for months or years. :slight_smile:

It’s nice to feel like I’m the most important person in someone’s life. My parents died young, and one thing I missed when they died was that feeling of knowing that someone was devoted to me and would always be there for me. With a romantic relationship, the future is never 100% certain, but it’s still comforting that as far as I can tell he’s devoted to me for the long haul and thinks that I’m awesome.

I like that I get to be exposed to things that I either wouldn’t think of trying on my own or wouldn’t have the guts to do on my own without him.

I like that I feel a bit safer from things like creepy men approaching me in public (which did happen on occasion when I was single) because he’s around.

I like that he seems like the kind of person who will be a good father when we have kids (because I’ve always wanted to be a parent).

So, yeah, there are pros and cons to each way of life. Everyone should try to experience a good amount of both ways I think. :slight_smile:

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No, it’s just a metaphor for masturbation :cool: Same thing!

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I miss never (rarely) having been single. I went from my father’s house to college, which was great, but got married and dropped out. Years later divorced and found myself in a “pocket of passion” with an incredible man for a few years…when that ended I quickly married my current husband because the minute we met we knew, “This is it.”
Odd for somebody who, as a young girl, fully expected (and wanted) to live alone in a shack next to a pond with a mountain and a goat in the background, working (writing) whatever hours I pleased. (A combination of “On Walden Pond,” “Heidi” and "A Room of Her Own.)

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Learn to grow your own weed or find a dealer?

I mean, it is a weed, it can grow damned near anywhere, how hard can it be to grow ditchweed? Heck, it probably grows wild all over the country in nooks and crannies of empty land from back when it was a money crop [ropemaking from WW2] I can think of a few places I have seen it growing in Virginia, western NY and even here in CT. [no, not on my farm, either - over near Hartford in a park that the SCA had an event at about 3 years ago]

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Agreed. Nothing beats it, and I give thanks multiple times a day that I’m free of the insane abuse.

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Miss about being in a relationship: that hug at the end of a rough day that has unspoken “I understand” in it. Sure, I get hugs from my monsters, but it’s not quite the same.

Dressing less demurely when going out for their benefit and feeling “safe” while doing so. It also ties in with:

Getting some on the regular.

Miss about being single:
Unlimited girls’ nights out,
sleep overs,
in general not having to answer too much to anyone.

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Things I missed when I was dating: sleeping alone (he’s hot and sweaty! and doesn’t like blankets!), getting to eat whatever I wanted (he’s Jewish, so I kept kosher)

Things I miss now: not having to make decisions, going out to eat with somebody, not having to drive, the regular ‘activities’

But our relationship was hardly normal

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What I miss from being single…is the potential. The thought of “the next gal I meet, she’s going to be all kinds of awesome in marvelous ways I can’t even imagine.”

Now that I’m in a serious relationship I’m beginning to know her, and there are some greats perks and some flaws I have to live with. I’m pragmatic enough to know that no woman out there will ever fulfill my needs perfectly, especially since my needs tend to change from day to day. So there’s the feeling of “so, this is it.”

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Let’s see… things I would miss if I were to become single again:

[ul]
[li]Having someone to (usually) be happy to see me[/li][li]Having someone who has my back around[/li][li]Someone to share the good things in life with[/li][li]Someone to share the bad things in life with[/li][li]Someone to cook for; it’s not nearly so fun to put forth the effort for myself.[/li][li]Comfort sex; the kind that comes from knowing your partner physically and mentally for a long time.[/li][li] 2 incomes.[/li][/ul]

Things I miss about being single:
[ul]
[li]Large scale freedom; I liked the idea that if I felt like it, I could pull up and move to a different city without having to answer to anyone.[/li][li]More lax personal behavior standards- farting, booger-picking, etc…[/li][li]The ability to wear old comfortable clothes without someone griping that they look old or faded.[/li][li]The ability to spend all weekend playing video games, or watching football, or whatever I feel like.[/li][li]Not being drafted into doing crap because husbands are expected to attend things.[/li][/ul]

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Clearly you’ve never been in a truly good relationship; otherwise you’d understand not being single means you have somebody to talk to during the commercials.

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Sure, there’s a lot of freedom in being single, and I enjoyed that freedom.
But after more than 16 years, I’d still rather spend the evening snuggling on the couch with my wife than hanging out at a bar or going to that party or whatever else I would have done when I was single. I consider myself quite lucky that way.

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This is really sad you guys. Relationships aren’t supposed to be things of dread.
Best thing about being single for me is eating whatever I want when I want.
I don’t need meat with every meal.
I could almost be a dessertatarian.

Worst thing about being single would be sleeping alone. I get nervous in the house alone.