What I Really Meant with the People Pages Comments

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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From a few angry e-mails I’ve received it’s obvious that some people still don’t understand what I meant by that last thread I started. Although it seems clear to me now, well, I will explain and summarize here:

I used to be active on Usenet and local boards many long years ago until I was forced off them by a couple of “cyberstalkers”, for lack of a better word. The reasons were varied, but mainly centered on my sexual identity. I only recently (last October) came across the SDMB, and lurked until March of this year. Since that time I’ve met a lot of great people, made a lot of new good friends, and felt like part of a little online community.

As I was flipping through the SD People Pages, I just became touched by seeing all of the nice people out there that I had knew from correspondence. That’s all. And I just, in a roundabout way, was trying to tell everyone how much I appreciated being a member of the group, and how good of a place we have here.

A couple people mailed me about my techchick68 reference, thinking I was trying to insult her because at one time I posted a very critical reply w.r.t. her leaving temporarily. TC is a nice, intelligent, friendly, warm, funny, and entertaining poster who has only shown me kindness and respect, and who I happen to have disagreed with on an issue or two. I did not single her picture out for any other reason except that I thought if I was pretty like her, I might resemble her picture the most. This of course is in reference to the many people who have been asking me repeatedly what I look like, since I will not allow a picture of me to be taken. I invite you to ask her yourselves if she was offended by what I said, not call me an “insensitve bitch” in e-mail, which even in context makes no sense at all to me.

One person interpreted my willingness to leave the board if bothered about my picture as a sign of weakness, and thus took the opportunity to tell me to “get the fuck otta (sic) here”. It doesn’t work that way; trolls will not make me leave. I would like to know what I have done to deserve such a comment. I invite anyone who really is bothered and has lots o’ time to review my posting history and tell me if I generally behave in a jerk-like, troll-like, assholic, or disrespectful manner.

I would ask that the 3 people who e-mailed me the profanity-laden messages kindly post here and share your thoughts, otherwise I may post your private mails to me here myself.

Well, enough of this - that’s all I wanted to explain.

Sincerely,
Una Persson

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Okay, WTF?

First off, this isn’t world peace, folks. There is NO reason to be sending nasty emails over this. At all. glares

Second, to call Anth insensitive shows that y’all have NO CLUE who she really is. She’s a wonderful, very sweet, BEAUTIFUL person who’s listened to me rant the past few nights. (And FTR, hon? You’re beautiful to me no matter how you look.)

Third, I thought her OP was a sweet comment on all of us, and didn’t even take her comment on tech as a second thought. I’d guess 90% of the people here did the same. It’s sad to me that such a small group of malcontents could raise so much pain.

Just my $.02.

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Thank you Falcon. (hugs Falcon)

Also, everyone please excuse a couple grammar errors committed in the OP. I was a little upset and re-wrote it several times before posting, obviously I messed a couple things up. :frowning:

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You seem charming and balanced to me - not jerk-like at all - and you don’t need a reason not to post your picture.

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I think it’s too bad that some people took your comments in any way other than explained above…it seemed pretty clear from your original thread that you were merely expressing a nice sentiment about how great this message board group is (one that I’m sure most of us share). I certainly didn’t read any kind of insult in your comments about techchick. And anyone who did, and who felt the need to email you with their vitriol, is an idiot.

I’m glad you’re not seriously considering leaving. That would be a loss…it’s the people here that make this place unique. And, Anthracite, babe – you’re my kind of people.

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I whole-heartedly concur with Falcon’s sentiments. The only thing that made me feel bad about your other OP/Thread was I had to see (read) anyone denigrating him or herself. Picture or not, you look pretty good to me. :slight_smile:

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Where are the SD People Pages?

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Right here.

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Antracite, you’re a sweetie, even if you DO think I have scary eyes :smiley:

I understand why you don’t want to post your picture. But the SD Pages are not a beauty contest: I, for one, like to see the faces behind the words. And I think most people would agree. The people on the SD Pages are the same as in everyday life: some I think are gorgeous, others plain, others unattractive in the physical sense. Their appearance does not alter my previous opinion of them: personalities are what we’re looking for here.

Sure, people will make a few flirty remarks. But that’s all in good fun. And besides, beauty is always in the eye of the beholder. The last few days, people have often flirted with posters that I found unattractive. It’s the way of the world…

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I’ve seen the pictures, they are all beautiful people & Im very happy to know them.

Una, did you get something from the Flame Generator page at Teeming millions?
http://www.fathom.org/teemingmillions/flamegenerator.html

Cuz maybe they were just form letters?

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Anthracite:

FWIW, I didn’t think you were trying to comment negatively on anyone with the other OP. If anything, I thought you were flirting with TC but maybe that’s just me :slight_smile: I for one would be flattered (to say nothing of not believing the person) if someone said they’d need plastic surgery and weight loss to look like me. Of course, nobody’s saying that (thank God).

Perhaps this is a matter of something appearing to a few people (out of hundreds) as a slight attempt at rudeness, something I don’t think we’ve seen from you. I certainly don’t understand it, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Anyway. You’ve got my vote for whatever. And I think you’re already a beautiful person entirely apart from your skin. Maybe I’ll get a chance to see you at some point, but I know where you are with this, sort of, and I can see it. I’m there right now.

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FTR, I was not offended by her comments. I want everyone to know that.

In fact, I blushed because I did not read anything but a compliment in that OP.

As for a critical reply during my board breakdown, I had more than just one. In fact I don’t even recall what she had said.

Anyhow, Anthracite, I did not take offense. Like I said in the other thread. You are a kind person on the inside I bet you are as kind on the outside. Whether or not you have us post a picture is up to you. Just ignore those that bug you about it.

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Anthracite,

Although you may hate me for labeling you as bituminous, I loves you all the same.

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Anthracite I understood what you meant in your original OP without you explaining it. I saw it as a compliment towards TechChick if anything. (I by the way would like to use this opportunity to tell TechChick how drop dead gorgeous she is and hint that if her lonely heart should feel pity for a poor wandering soul I can think of one who would be greatly complimented to accept ;))

It is sad that people resort to poor manners so quickly over a simple misunderstanding, but unfortunately it happens pretty regularly, particularly in an open forum like this.

You did fine kid.
{{{{{{{{{{Anthracite}}}}}}}}}}

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Yeah, what Falcon said goes double fer me.

Anth, you are nothing less than a living doll. I’ll always treasure your thread about that bowling game. What a honey!

If you say nix on pix, that’s your choice, and I respect it. But I know you are beautiful.

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FWIW, I thought your original post was sweet, funny, and well-meant. I have no idea where the acidity came from, except that it was generated solely by the people with the problems.

And re this thread: At first, I thought, sure, go ahead, put up the awful messages you got. “Out” those bastards. But then I reconsidered: It could all just be a miscommunication that got horribly out of hand. Better to let it die; no sense alienating other members of the board just because they got their panties in a wad when they read something wrong.

In summary: The fact that you would care enough to post such a thoughtful, well-written note demonstrates that you’re as beautiful as they come. Nuff said.

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I think your original thread was a wonderfully sweet thing to do! Sure I asked you where your pic was but I know from reading your posts, especially that one and this one, that you are an incredibly beautiful person so who needs proof? Just tell me who the negative people are and I’ll take care of them for you. Quietly. Discreetly. Gladly!

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I didn’t think there was a prob with the Op. I’m still a bit bemused (or should that be amused?) to tell the truth. I knew exactly what you meant Anth: it’s wonderful to be part of such a caring, intelligent community. Don’t let a few people upset you.