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When they’re better people being together than apart. I don’t just mean when they are in the same room, but by the fact of having this other person in their lives.
If I know they plan on having no kids and have no financial issues to speak of.
That’s a good one.
Also when they speak to and about one another with respect. It can include teasing, but if it’s it’s nasty now, it’ll only get nastier.
If they treat each other with trust and respect, and they communicate effectively with each other when there is a disagreement.
No couple agrees on everything, but if those qualities are in place, they can work it out.
Effective communication. When they can argue a topic without it escalating into personal insults.
Mostly I look for everything that isn’t based on emotion. Common goals and strong communication skills are two of the key elements. “We’re just so in love!” is a recipe for failure without a real foundation under it. Love is only good for about two years in a relationship before you have to start working together in more substantial ways. (I’m not cynically saying that the love goes away, mind you, just that there will be challenges that take more than emotion to solve.)
I’ll let you know as soon as I see it.
That’s an unfortunate username/ topic combo.
This is just my imagination, but when both people are mature, emotionally stable, and believe s/he is lucky to have the other then maybe…
If they handle minor crises well, and together: flat tires, sudden rainstorm during the picnic, flooded basement, getting lost, unexpected guests…
When one is verging on righteously losing it over some aggravating circumstance or other, and the partner can lift their spirits. With a few words get them chuckling, even grudgingly and…they’re over it and on to whatever’s next!
That right there IS what makes the world go around in my opinion!
They agree on pets. Seriously. If he hates her dog, and is just putting up with it, and telling people there won’t be another one after this one, alarm bells go off.
If they both hate pets, and neither one wants any, that’s OK too, but they need to agree.
Whenever they walk within arm’s reach of each other, they touch one another as they pass by.
They both completely trust each other to never, ever do or say anything intended to hurt, physically or emotionally.
Respect for each other. It’s hard to fake that.
When the two hearts beat as one
A rich father-in-law.
Vacillating Nobles?
Hmmm…
Maybe tea leaves. Someone I know was married for four years, divorced, then married for four years, then divorced. Then he married a third time. Another acquaintance predicted that would never last (he didn’t like wife III). Well Wife III is a wonderful woman and they are getting very close to their 50th anniversary.
If they aren’t young? Most young couples eventually break up. Older people who couple up are much less likely to do so. Probably because young people change a lot.