Lately, I’ve run across a poster who has mentioned in a few threads the intent to break up with the current significant other, who has been behaving rather badly. This poster most recently mentioned having found a new person to be with, but is still working on splitting up with the current SO.
This got me wondering about what breaking up tends to be like for people, in general (assuming there’s an “in general” for this at all). I had a couple of teenage relationships, but as an adult, the only breakup I’ve ever had was from my decade-long marriage, and while the marriage’s deterioration took a while, once I’d made the decision to actually break it off for good, the process went fairly quickly. Even though we’d been living together for 12+ years, I managed to get out of the house for good within 20 days of the breakup.
But I have no idea what it’s like for other people, be it a marriage, or a serious relationship, or a casual dating scenario. How have your breakups gone? Was it just a quick phone call (or email or text), and you never saw each other again? Were there days or weeks in between where people had to return or separate the belongings? Did you secretly plot the breakup and take steps in that direction long before telling the person you were with?
Talk about your experiences, please!