Oh ick! I would think that the whole Dog and Pony Show is tacky at first weddings as well. I’d rather have a simple thing with a lovely vintage gown and just a lot of good food and good music for everyone to enjoy.
Um, since the MOH usually hosts the shower, what if she’s a relative? My aunt threw one for my cousin, I remember. (Not her daughter, but her godchild).
Just curious-where is she registered? Is there anything small on there that your dad could swing? Or something like that?
the truly proper second wedding is small and relatively informal. the bride wears a perfectly smashing suit, in a delicate pastel colour and an even more smashing hat, instead of a veil. she has one honour attendant.
she also stated that:
there is nothing wrong with seeing someone married twice (or however long she plans to keep it up) and sending only a token present after the first time or even just a letter wishing her well.
it sounds like you are in quite a spot. just support your dad’s decision as best you can and keep your head down, to protect it from the fall out.
How close are you to your sister? Can you read her the riot act, pointing out what a horrible thing she’s doing, and what can she possibly need from a wedding registry?
SISTERS!
SNUG YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE UPSET!
IVE HAD SIMILAR SITUATION WITH MY MOTHER AND HER DAUGHTER! daughter elopes,breaks moms heart
There must be a giant bowl of me,me,meeeeeeee “crap"some where that some people drink from! i know some of my family surely drink there!
im with the rent a park wedding!as for gifts, stationary is about all they need so they can inform everyone where there going to be living,with all that they already own from 20 plus yrs of marriage"S”.
Although my sister isnt currently seeking a second hubby,the similar attitude has prevailed for 20 yrs,crap on mom but ask for money when things got tough!my sister had a GOOD job.
does your sister stop and think how stressful this is on a single parent?
Parents will still go becuase “she is my daughter” even if it kills
them!
i think your sister is caught up with herself and hasn’t really considered your fathers feelings.or how much stress he must endure.At his age 80 it would be safe to assume"not much"!
your sister can do it in style but decency calls for a little more indepth thouht on her part,first time ok, second time ;dont ask family to fill the goody bag again!
AS for the TUX:
ask your sister to BUY dad a new suit and see how she reacts!
might turn on her light bulb!
{as for living at home ,tell the fam to clamit,they"re not there to pickup the peices,they just blow in and leave their personal garbage on the parents heart about you living their,and then blow out again! leaving you to deal with the emotinoal garbage !
that hurts your parent,in your case your father. i asume your living at your fathers residence,ergo plaese forgive if it other way around}
I’ve been there!
Has she any idea what he lives on or is she not told? perhaps if she saw his pension stub she would blush!
hope this helps/dataman/may\03 :dubious:
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