WHAT is your major malfunction, son???

I pit myself! I drink. Only occasionally, but when I do, I drink to excess. And eventually… I always become an angry drunk. :frowning: And it’s mostly late at night. So my primary board (Orioles… 1000 ish members) is dead. So I come here… CRUISING for someone to flame. Doesn’t matter who or what. Just whatever sets me off at the moment. Just looking for a fight. And in the morning I’ll avoid this place just to not see the reaction. EMBARRASSED to even show my face. WHAT a pussy! This IS the Pit…

And…

Even if my O’s board wasn’t dead, I wouldn’t go on there and randomly flame. I know it’s the difference in size… 1000 there, 40 thousand here… I know guys there, have actually met them in person. This place just seems so… distant… so disconnected…

So… wtf is my problem? Why do I do this? I hold very many of the posters here in high regard, awe even. I think of this board as SEVERAL TIMES as eriudite. And yet, this is the place I lash out.

What’s the point of this lame rant? Search my posts from just the last couple days. And flame ME all you want. There is not a bigger asshole on this board who deserves it more…

See what I mean? “erudite” :rolleyes:

Well, that explains a little. I wondered if I was just noticing you more than usual for no reason, or if you’d been a little more…ahem noticeable lately.

So, does this mean you’re going to change your ways, or is this simply a warning and statement of fact? I want to know what I’m dealing with here. :dubious:

That’s a good question. Lately I’ve been wondering what crawled up if6was9’s ass and died.

Huh. Looks like we’ve finally discovered something you do well, ifwas.

Lots of things, unfortunately.
A cross country move and trying to find a job at the same time, meeting the new in laws for the first time in two weeks, having a knock down drag out with his fiance (who is a right bitch), then not being able to be there when said fiance underwent an angiogram last Friday.

That said; yeah, you’re a bastard when you’ve had too much, darlin’. That’s why you decided not to do it anymore, remember?

I have to admit, that’s quite a list. I’d be cranky too.

It’s good that you recognize the problem, if6was9. I hope that whatever’s gone wrong in your life gets better.
There’s another aspect to the problem, though. You’re responsible for what you post, no matter how much you might regret it later. You can’t just look for fights to pick here. That’s trolling, and we don’t allow it.
You’ll have to figure out a way to control your posting here. You’re not in trouble here yet or anything, so you have plenty of opportunity to get your behavior under control.
Please understand that we won’t have any choice but to step in if you keep flaming and picking fights. Drunk and angry aren’t excuses, and inviting others to flame you as a sort of expiation won’t erase the offenses.
This is not a warning, btw, just some dead serious advice. Please understand won’t have any choice about stepping in to control your posting if you can’t control yourself.
Good luck to you.

TVeblen
Pit mod

Yes, it does. I was a little embarrassed when I posted this. Not for what I posted, I have very little shame. Embarrassed because I thought “who is going to notice what I have done… or even this thread?” I used to be a fun guy, I think, and I will try to be again.

I do many things well. :slight_smile:

Thank you. For the restraint and the advice. As much as I deny it to myself, I WAS looking for expiation. And that doesn’t excuse my behavior or make up for it, or change it. Only I can change it and I will. It’s not the stuff Maureen listed, and it’s not just the beer. It’s that I felt disconnected… somehow. And I see that people do notice. I can’t explain it any better. Thank you all.

Wow - one of the politest “Pit Threads” ever to hit the Board.

Great postings by everyone. (TVeblen - good posting - and
without sounding autoritative or officious).

if6was9 - Sorry can’t get an argument from me. You have enough to contend with.

Guess if I want a knockdown, heated, donnybrook I’ll have to go to … Cafe Society. :smiley:

So, whenever you drink, you drink to excess. And you always become an angry drunk.

General truism: No amount of counselling, analysis, or medication will convert a person who consistantly becomes an angry drunk into person who becomes a happy drunk.

Any solutions suggest themselves?

Do tell. I’ve got five minutes before I go home, and I want to print out Jaade’s list of the performances on American Idol tonight. And she’s nowhere to be found.

Gets a body cranky.

link? so I can know what everyone is wringing their hands over?

She’s been in training in a new job this week. She also recently moved. :wink:

I swear, I really don’t keep tabs on that many people. You just happened to name the one other Doper I talk to on a daily basis.

Well, then! I’m behind you 100%!
As for the disconnection, I guess that’s pretty easy to feel when your only interface is the cold, lifeless monitor, but believe me, you’re PLUGGED IN, baby.

I have no particular advice, you’ll get plenty of that in this thread, I imagine. Just wanted to make sure what was going on here before I put my foot in it. :wink:

Very true. Listen to QtM, he is wise.

I also have a bit of experience in these matters. For me, it comes down to a simple idea- if I do something badly or wrong every single time I do it, I shouldn’t do it anymore.

Keep digging the hole if you like, but you can also be done and start your climb back out.

Point taken. :wink:

Points to you also, for the “subtle” wisdom. :stuck_out_tongue:

If you address the anger first, maybe the drinking will start to take care of itself?

“Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life, son.”

Surprisingly, it doesn’t work that way very often. Sometimes, but not as a rule.