I may have to look into reading a copy of that book, matt_mcl. I always thought it was more a poly resource. It might help me out, though.
CalMeacham wins. 
It does contain a great deal about polyamory, but the main thrust of the book is applicable to everyone.
I’ll have to check out that book too.
There’s a concave of sluts? That’s one party I need to crash. I need me some slut lovin’.
Count me among those who hate the sexual double-standard that the word "slut generally typifies.
As someone has already said, use of the word “slut” usually tells you a lot more about the person using it than the person about whom it is being used.
I do. Sorry, but it’s true. 
I can just picture the look on the face of the librarian. Heh heh heh.
In all seriousness, my favorite poly folk have this book and keep trying to sneak it in on me in the stacks of Jane Austen novels I borrow from them.
Hey! The Slut Test is gone form TheSpark.com. Damn. I was going to link it here. 
Sun, why don’t you trot down to Glad Day? I’m sure they have a copy, and you’ll be supporting your local gay and lesbian bookstore. I’m in there all the time when I’m in the big smoke.
Aaaah. I’ll tell Dossie her book is being put to good use!!
Inky
You know her? OMG MAY I TOUCH THE HEM OF YOUR GARMENT
Just a wee messgae for the anon lot. I was sent an anon email that directed me to that lovely wee place.
Yes, by all current definitions I am a slut. A slut being someone who bonks for fun and does not save the bonking for a loving-lifelong partner.
No I do not “act like a nun” in front of my child. I act like a responsible, loving mother.
My maternal abilties have nothing to do with my irregular sex life.
Being a mother is my First Priority.
Two or three times a year I like being a “slut”…an ugly one to boot.
Luckily for me I have no religous guilt to stop me enjoying those times.
I understand that some find that abhorent, it would just be better to read that here then somewhere anonymous.
Are you saying you got some kind of nastygram as a result of this thread?
To hell with people who have issues with it CalmKiwi. Their problem not yours
I would say, Fuck Mr. or Ms. Anonymous, but isn’t that what they’re upset about in the first place, fucking of anonymous people? Okay, that one was a stretch. How about, I’d rather share a pussy than be one.
Maybe they’re not getting any and it made them cranky? Dunno. After all, I’m the one who started such a stupid thread in the first place.
I was thinking along the same lines. While I have never in my life called anyone a slut (nor would I) except as a joke among friends, I tend to think of the term along the lines of why someone is having a lot of sex rather than the simple fact that they are having a lot of sex. It’s the line between healthy sex and unhealthy sex (emotionally healthy, that is). I’ve had a lot of sex. I enjoy one-night-stands from time to time. Casual sex is groovy, relationship sex is groovier. My sexuality is a big part of who I am. But, I don’t use sex as a way to validate myself, or get attention or affection, etc. My “line” may seem just as unfair as one that’s associated with sheer numbers, but when forced to think of what comes to mind when I hear the word “slut,” this is it.
Oh, come on … you guys have never known someone like that? With such women, their motiviations usually become screamingly obvious once you spend a little time with them. I’ve known many, and they’ve all been in denial about their issues (claiming that they just really like sex, which obviously has to be part of the reason for their behaviour but is never the base of it). The ones who have self-esteem as their motivation but aren’t obvious about it don’t earn the label.
I’m so pissed off that anyone would give you crap for what you’ve said in this thread! And, of course, anonymous cowards piss me off even more… :mad: Like everyone else is saying: fuck 'em.
But not literally, of couse, because that would make you a slut.