As I understand it, mail-order brides are available from virtually all of Latin American, all of Asia, and most of Eastern Europe and the former Soviet Union.
If a man was looking for a mail-order bride who took pride in her domestic skills- cooking, cleaning, and tending to children, etc., which of these cultures would be the best place to start looking? I realize that there are no guarantees here, so I’m just looking for general trends.
My guess would be that there is an inverse relationship between the average woman’s eagerness to perform domestic chores and the nation’s per capita GDP, but that’s just a guess. I would need to hear from someone with more knowledge of the aforementioned cultures in order to comment definitively.
Just stereotyping here, but I think that in Asian culture, the woman is expected to be more domestic and deferential to the man. So that’s where my guess would go. (I learned this while reading an article talking about Japanese baseball players making the transition to playing in the US, and their wives saying that hanging with the American players’ wives taught them to be a bit more assertive).
My grandmother (military wife) who lived in Germany says that they are hyper about cleanliness. The people she lived near went so far as to wash their windows every day.
Are you seriously thinking about this, or is this just a hypothetical? (No judgment here, I’m just curious.)
That can be true, but it’s not likely you’ll find a lot of German mail order brides. And I’d say that feminine equality is probably a little more advanced in Germany than here. Eastern Europe is likely different (and Eastern Europeans are not as known for being fanatical neat freaks).
We Germans are even so cleanly that we sweep the sidewalks in front of our houses every weekend. And woe be to those that refuse to do this. However, German women are very unlikely to do all this work by themselves, while you drink beer and watch the Bundesliga all evening.
Also, don’t believe all the stuff you here about Latin-American countries having this “macho” culture where the men are pampered and the women do all the work. I can say that at least for Brazil, it is often the women who dominate (at least in the home) and make the men work their butts off.
First off, “mail order bride” is a misleading term. It is not possible to just have a mail or e-mail conversation with a woman, and then have her sent over. You must go and meet her in person in her country first. I live in the Philippines, and there are thousands of westerners here looking for brides. It can be a long and expensive process, it is not just a simple matter of looking online and picking a woman you find attractive.
Second, Asian women may have a reputation as being more deferential, but that is only because they tend to avoid confrontation. They are definitely not submissive.
If you spend a lot of time with Asian women you may find that most of them can be very stubborn and strong-willed. They may not confront you verbally or physically, but you will know when they are not happy, and you will not be happy also.
The biggest differnce I see in Asian women from Western women is that most Asian women are happy to be women, they have no desire to be a man, and that they understand that men and women are different, and will always be different.
Among guys that travel and meet women from different countries, the generalizations are that Russian and Eastern European women are the most likely to do or say anything to escape their poverty, and tend to have the least successful relationships among the guys that bring them home. They are popular due to the fact they may be blonde and light-skinned.
The Latinas have the reputation as hot-tempered, and for the guys that like a spicy relationship, they may be happy, but the guy will probably need to learn learn Spanish, sometimes assimilation can be difficult for the woman and she may refuse to learn English and gravitate towards others from her home country.
The Filipinas tend to have the reputation of easier assimilation due to their already knowing English, and that their culture is already somewhat westernized.
Just my opinions and generalizations folks
I used to have a boss that had a Filipino wife though a mail-order set up. They were a very nice couple and seemed very happy together.
My uncle found a young lady from the Dominican Republic. They have had a long and happy marriage (and children) and are probably pushing nearly 40 years together. Both couples do or did “send money home” to help the wives extended families, although it was not much by American standards.
I suspect the real reason for these couples successes is that they actually thoroughly discussed their expectations of each other and their life goals before the committment.
Bwahahahahoohah! That is a trap for young players - I lost count of the young guys I saw swaggering off the boat into Japan expecting to pick up a submissive sex-toy who would smile prettily, give great blow-jobs, and cook and clean. Their illusions were swiftly shattered.
Japanese women may be less demonstrative, but they can have wills of iron. My wife is one of the strongest women I know, in her own smilingly determined way -
on the surface, she seems like a stereotypical Japanese woman: wears a kimono to attend tea-ceremony and ikebana classes, the works.
But she’s an only child, who moved away from her parents to live with a feckless gaijin English teacher - de facto marriage is not smiled upon in Japan, especially not with foreigners - cut her parents off {temporarily} when they tried to set her up in an arranged marriage - got pregnant and had our son - pregnancy outside marriage is really frowned upon there - and then left her country and culture and moved to the other side of the world with me.
My admiration for her sheer will-power and strength of character knows no bounds: she may not talk the talk, but she’s walked the walk a lot further than most women I’ve ever met, and I love her for it.
In the '70s/early 80s in southwest Wyoming I knew a couple of guys who got Filipina wives. They made good money but were decidely on the lower end of the socio/economic/educational scale and their sole expectations about these women was that they be young, attractive, do the wild thing when asked, and work like dogs.
They did this three or four times each. When the women wised up and dumped them they’d just shrug and go get another. One of them actually took pictures of a wive and sent them into Hustler’s Beaver Hunt. When they were printed he brought a copy out to work to show the guys.
My wife is Vietnamese. I met her here in Australia after she had already gotten her citizenship, so there was nothing mail order about it (actually we met at work). I’d just like to say that if I expected her to be a pretty little beer-fetcher toy, she would kick me in the bollocks so fast I’d not see her leg move.
Stubborn. Intelligent. Liberated (on her own feminine terms). She works hard and expects likewise from me. Other female Asian friends of mine are similar.
She does look hot in an ao dai though, but that’s just as a bonus. Placing that sort of consideration as a primary motive is unfair for all parties and will end in disaster - especially long distance. I have a friend with a Thai wife, and the thousands of documents, enormous expense, legwork, worry, and interminable waiting for her to be granted citizenship should be a sobering thought for anyone planning on doing this.
Also, for any fat, balding, middle-aged mum’s basement type thinking of doing this, that hot as hell twenty-two year old is NOT a good idea, m’kay? The inevitable will happen. Coming from the West does not make you King Shit. That hot girl won’t be so receptive when she’s agonisingly lonely and isolated in a suburban apartment in a foreign country where she can’t speak the language. She’ll be gone at the first opportunity. And it’d be hard to blame her.
Really? I know quite a few women of Asian (and I mean the whole big continent of Asia, which has quite a few diverse cultures) and of Western background, and they are all happy to be female, have no desire to have a sex change, understand that there are biological differences between the sexes, and understand that people don’t morph between being male and female spontaneously.
A big bonus, you lucky dog. Kimono are hot, but sadly my wife doesn’t get many chances to wear hers, they take about two hours to put on, and they’re sadly not constructed for ease of removal for red-hot lurvin’ action. Ao dai are damn hot - sexiest female garment ever designed, which is kinda odd considering they cover everything.
