What should I do about this dating situation?

In My Humble Opinion
21

Thanks, all, for the advice. I’ve asked a couple of my real-life friends as well, and they agreed with those of you who said I might as well get to know her before ruling her out.

So if I’m going to try that, should I…

A) Just ignore the request for the horoscope data.

B) Say something like, Well, if you cast my horoscope, it’ll tell you I don’t believe in astrology. Or

C) Say, Here are four sets of data, one of them true. Cast the horoscopes, and in a few months, after you’ve gotten to know me, tell me which one you think I am.

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elfkin477: Clown porn?!?

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  1. Use your superior intellect to take advantage of the situation.

Why should you suffer because the world is stupid? Isn’t it bad enough that it’s rather difficult to get laid without dancing to uninspired hiphop, or carrying out primal pseudo-communication in a crowded, noisy place?

Here is how you could go about it:
Read up on wikipedia. Astrological sign - Wikipedia
Comment on how she has the positive traits ascribed to her sign. Point out how you are alike if you have the same signs, or the same of “The Three Qualities”. Point out how you are a perfect fit according to “The Four Elements” theory, if that is the case. And so on. Astrology is sufficiently vague and silly that anything is to your advantage.

24

Of these, I like B – friendly, funny, but states your opinion.

25

When I met my girlfriend, she was an extremely picky eater, and rather OCD about the way she ate. I took this as a red flag. I was really leery about hanging with a person who eats all of six things total. That, and she was twenty and never tried soup (I mean come on, its not like soup is terribly exotic or anything; I found it baffling someone could spend the first two decades of their life never trying soup, rice, beans, and a few other things you’d have to have been raised in a plastic bubble to have never tried).

Of course the impression I got was that she was really sheltered an immature, but then I thought about all the quirks I’ve been passed up over by other women, who instantly saw similar ‘red flags’ and decided they didn’t want to risk it. I decided I’d actually give this young woman a chance, and I’m glad I did, because she is great fun and extremely generous. Yes, I’ve had issues with her picky eating, but she’s had issues with my anger management problems and all in all I think both of us are trying to meet each other in the middle to make it work.

So I say give it a chance. Astrology might run her life, or it might just be a hobby and she can end up being a surprisingly normal person in spite of the astrology and toxins. And if she’s hot, who cares? ducks and runs

26

I’ve followed Twickster’s advice (and my own inclination) and taken option B.

I suppose I really shouldn’t be overly judgmental this early on. The last woman I dated (once!) decided I was untrustworthy because I went five days without sending her an e-mail. This was after I explained that I was going to be busy with work and might not be able to be in touch for a week or so.

And it’s not like I meet so many women that I can afford to throw them away, like Rick in Casablanca. (Here’s hoping that this woman looks like Yvonne!)

And finally, I suppose it’s just barely possible that I may have my own little quirks, too. (Naaahh!)

Thanks again for all the advice. I’ll let you know if anything interesting happens.

27

No amount of scrubbing could undo that mouse-click. I’d chalk it up to being a ‘Red Sox thing’ & let it go.

28

I’m not sure I am more outraged about her belief in astrology than I am about the fact that she’s feeding her cat a puree of dandelions.

29

Can you get in touch with your mutual friend who introduced you to her and ask how much she is into astrology/dandelion puree?

30

How about option 7:

“It sounds like you want to cast my horoscope. I don’t really believe in Astrology at all. Do you think that would be a problem between us?”

My wife dabbles in Astrology a little. She knows I think it is all hocum. It doesn’t really become a problem for us.

J.

31

am I the only one who thinks you are being a bitch about this? (not flaming just some harmless ribbing) She wants to know your birthdate and location and you are considering writing her off completely or challenging her to some sort of battle of the wits to make her stop being a fruitcake and become sufficiently dateable?

I don’t believe in any of that mess but I think it would be fun to know someone who is. Don’t you have any sort of natural curiosity or are you just going to be a stuffy old fart that only dates women with identical beliefs. I mean is she outside at midnight naked and waving power crystals to her moon sister? Does she stand on street corners with a bible and try to tap dance the devil out of people? Does she have her buddys over to hold hands in a circle with candles outside around a lifesize cardboard cutout of Robert Downey Jr? (true story btw) Does she have any human body parts in her freezer? Does she believe her cat gives a speech every christmas eve at midnight in which it determines next years super bowl winner?

Otherwise just quit being an intellisnob and give her a chance. Or just fuck her. whatever.

32

Well, yeah, since in posts 21 and 26 he pretty much says he’s decided he doesn’t need to be an asshole – you probably are the only one who thinks that.

33

I’m with lobstermobster. You can’t even be friends with someone who’s into astrology? :dubious: I mean, yeah, it’s all bullshit, but jeez, diversify your social life a little bit. Hanging out with people who are different from you is a lot of fun. If all my friends were exactly like me, what the hell would we talk about?

“What do you think about X?”

“I’m in favor of it!”

“Me too!”

“…”

“…”
<crickets>

34

thanks beyotch but I was just talking about how I was surprised by the OP. Clearly your seventh moon of jupiter is out of line with… shit I can’t make this stuff up

35

I, too, had a wonderful, witty, woman I was dating who also believed in astrology, lei lines, “energy”, feng shui, and all that other metaphysical stuff.

I decided we were too different. It’s no good to be rolling your eyes every time your girlfriend espouses metaphysical nonsense.

In my experience, a true believer can cause this :rolleyes: behavior multiple times per day.

36

Well, sure. But my husband is a true believer in clutch hitting and Kentucky basketball. Everyone’s got something wrong with 'em. :smiley:

37

#8. Tell her your birthdate is in early December and your sign is Ophiuchus. Also tell her that you have a telescope and would like to show her your constellation, you ole’ snake handler, you!

38

My old astronomy professor used to say he was born under the sign of “Kelvinator”.

He was born at home and he could prove that the kitchen refrigerator had a bigger gravitational influence on him than any star did (other than the sun, of course).

39

Send her the info, and ask for her bank account number to do an arcane form of match-making involving using cryptographic information encrypted in account numbers to determine compatibility, make it clear that a novice wouldn’t understand the art correctly, and it has to be her that sends you the info.

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We met for the first time tonight. She’s attractive, lively, and funny. Over dinner we finally got around to the subject of astrology. While she admitted that should couldn’t see how it could possibly work at a physical level, she has had some persuasive experiences with two astrologers. I was gratified to see she was not uncritically accepting of it, and that she doesn’t believe in psychics or other aspects of the paranormal.

I explained that “hits” by astrologers, psychics, and stage magicians can all be explained by ordinary phenomena. We talked about cold reading, confirmation bias, Occam’s Razor, etc.

In the meantime, she kept trying to find out my sign, but I wouldn’t say. “Are you a Taurus? Scorpio?” I kept mum. Then I looked at her and said, “Are you an Aquarius?” She was amazed and asked, “Who told you? How did you know?”

It was a pure guess. I had a one in twelve chance, and hit it! (Or maybe I really am psychic, and don’t know it!!! Cue Twilight Zone theme.)

We had an interesting conversation, and I did my best not to seem arrogant or intolerant. We were both able to open up with some relatively personal things, so I think we felt comfortable with each other. We have our differences, but we got along well enough that it’s certainly worth getting to know her a little better.

All in all, a pretty good first date. I’m going out of town for a week, but we agreed to get together again when I get back.

So thanks again for all your advice.

P.S. I never did tell her my birth date. But we agreed that I’ll e-mail her four sets of birth info, one true, and let her try to figure out which sign I am. Interestingly, even though she kept asking me if I was one sign or another, in the course of our whole conversation neither of us mentioned my actual sign. I think it was the only one of the twelve that we didn’t name all night.