Ha! I haven’t seen this thread, but why in heavens would this surprise you?
I started this one back in July and it’s still going strong: Obvious things about a creative work you realize after the millionth time. And it has to set a record for the most :smack: smileys.
IIRC, there was a thread about proper funeral attire. I was surprised to see quite a few responses by people defending casual wear as appropriate.
It wouldn’t surprise me now but this was several years ago.
I’m surprised by some people in [thread=546438]this thread[/thread] and how downright proud they are at having never done/see X.
Yeah, just looked at that thread and I don’t get it either.
When a person becomes old enough to be able to buy/obtain alcohol, they may go through a phase where alcohol is cool and adult, and given a choice between alcohol and a soft drink they will always go for the former.
But as an adult, drinks are just drinks, and I would have no problem with someone ordering milk at a restaurant (it’s very good if you’ve eaten spicy food btw) or “sodeypop at a martini bar” (which was another example given of unsophistication).
Assuming you can give the baby up for adoption, is avoiding 9 months of pregnancy worth a lifetime without sex? Doesn’t the pleasure of a lifetime of sex outweigh whatever negatives 9 months of pregnancy will cause?
No. And I think I’ve been very clear about how I feel about sex.
I briefly looked at this “paradox” on Wikipedia, and my question is: Isn’t this like asking, if 1 equals 0, then what do you do if …
Basically, the “perfect predictor” does not exist. Trying to fit our notion of causality in a world where a perfect predictor exists is bound to fail.
Can you clarify?
On one hand, we have 40 years of sexual pleasure.
On the other hand we have nine months of ____.
Can you fill in the blank as to what aspects of pregnancy you expect to be so bad to outweigh 40 years of sexual pleasure?
It’s not just nine months of pregnancy–it’s nine months where my body isn’t my own and where I have to go through an incredibly painful act (i.e., labor) against my will, for absolutely no reward. Don’t you think that’s going to make sex fraught with pain and anxiety?
And then a lifetime of knowing you’ve got a kid out there somewhere. Being pregnant is far more than an inconvenience, and I know this might sound funny coming from me, but there are also significant *emotional *issues attached to childbearing.
I swear to god some guys think it’s like “What? You can’t drink for 9 months, and then it’s over. No big.”
I don’t want to derail this question, but the above sentiment is sad.
Well, the reward is 40 years of sexual pleasure 
Come on, don’t exaggerate. Can you specify what exactly is it about those 9 months that outweighs 40 years of sexual pleasure?
Is it pain? Discomfort? Other?
Did you entirely disregard the first line of my post?
Why is it sad? I don’t think that pregnancy is a great evil–if the woman wants it. The only thing I think is sad is the idea of any woman having to endure a pregnancy when she doesn’t want to be pregnant. I think every woman deserves control over her reproductive rights.
No, the reward is not knowing if I’ll get pregnant again and if I’ll have to surrender my body to another nine months. Oh, and stretch marks and all those other great things.
ETA: It’s the ability to not have control over your body. It’s the knowledge that you’re going to have weird stuff happen to you against your will when you could easily control against it. And that at the end of it, some really painful stuff is going to happen to your nether regions–and hey, you could potentially get your abdomen sliced open. FUN!
It wasn’t there when I first replied. You must have edited it in later.
So, you’re answer is that knowing that you have a kid somewhere out there, and the emotional issues involved in pregnancy are sufficient for you to never have sex again?
I think it’s funny that this is coming from women who proclaim in another thread that women enjoy sex just as much as men, and have a sex drive just as strong as men’s. I think most men would agree to have a rabid skunk strapped to their neck for 9 months if it meant they didn’t have to forego sex for the rest of their life.
And I think you’re one of those clueless guys I mentioned. You see, I actually *know *what *both *sexual pleasure *and *pregnancy/childbirth are like.
I know this thread has “Hijack Me” written all over it, but maybe start a new thread?
I’ve seen plenty of pregnant women, and nothing “weird” happened to any of them. YMMV