Okay, this is a bit of a strange question. I hope you can see what I mean.
When I’m laying side by side with my partner in bed (“spooning”), and my upper arm is around them - I’m always unsure what to do with my lower arm (the one closer to the bed, i.e. my left arm if I’m laying on my left side). If I put it up by my head and lay on it, I lose circulation and get a “dead arm”. Same thing if I stretch my arm out under my partner. I can’t seem to find a comfortable place to put that arm - it’s like I need a big hole in the bed so I can poke my arm though it.
I know there’s plenty of scope for inuendo here, but I’m genuinely curious - what do other people do ?!
i curl it under my head like a pillow. either that or i put enough space between our upper bodies so i can have my arm comfortably in front of me, that way, your lower body can be just as close. my favorite sleeping postion is when my SO lays on his back and puts an arm around my shoulders while i snuggle into his chest.
Put the spare arm in the crook of her neck.
It helps support their neck and you don’t get dead-arm syndrome.
Except that of course, when you roll over, you yank her neck with you.
I’ve tried it with my arm folded in front of me too, and even folder sort of along my back - both feel pretty strange but at least avoid the dreaded “dead arm syndrome”
I tend to thrash around a bit in my sleep so putting my “spare” arm under her neck is definitely not a good idea.
Even when I put it under my pillow or her pillow, I eventually get a numb arm. I sometimes wish it was detachable and I could just leave it in the bedside cabinet.
sandalfeet - I like to sleep on my back and have my SO snuggle into my chest, but she doesn’t like that as much as the “spoon” position so I’ve tried to find a compromise…it’s just the arm thing that gets me!
I don’t know, mostly because the one person I’ve had a relationship never slept with me. But I think I’d put it under my head. That’s pretty close to how I lie normally.
i slept in bed with my ex bf, i had my head on his chest with his arm under my neck
i woke up in the morning in a full headlock and couldnt free myself and this guy has to be the heaviest sleeper ive ever known
so i had to stay like that for a good 3 hours
I put it under her pillows, under her neck and leave it there for hours. It never goes to sleep.
So what do you do with the extra arm when you’re laying on your sides facing each other? The “top” arms can go anywhere, but there’s only room at the top for one of the “bottom” arms, and I don’t like having to stay a (folded) arms width apart.
whatever position she pushes it into usually works for me, but the crook of her neck is normal, I just tell her when I need to move and even though she never wakes up she does lift her head so I can get free.
