That basically describes me as well. I didn’t give full-disclosure when I described the happiness of divorce earlier. Divorce so traumatized me that I had basically no will to live for the first few months. Through some faults of my own but not all, I couldn’t function at all and got more and more sick until I collapsed at work and was taken by ambulance to ICU where I was given little hope of living at all and that sounded just fine to me at the time. My mother had to fly up from Texas to arrange whatever came to pass and a funeral was expected. I spent two weeks there and racked up hundreds of thousands of dollars of medical bills (thankfully almost all covered by insurance). I wouldn’t want anyone to go through that unless you know the outcome is going to be better but it usually is.
I made an unexpected recovery despite everything the doctors predicted. A man really can lose the will to live just being slowly beaten down by a harpy wife like Chinese Water Torture. The job that I had fired me for being sick but I got a much better one 6 months later and I am very happy and successful now. Through very karma-like circumstances, my family hit the financial jackpot a few months after I got divorced and my ex is not a beneficiary to it at all but the kids are.
I just rebuilt my life from scratch and it worked out so beautifully, I could write volumes of philosophy about the benefits of not having a spouse. I got joint custody of the kids, plenty of money, and no outside person can interfere with that. That is why I am so anti-marriage to this day. It simply doesn’t work in the vast majority of cases. Every time I go to the supermarket, I see men pushing around shopping carts with their wives ordering them around like slave children. There but by the grace of God go I and I don’t want to live my life that way.