His father is paying for it. Afaict he was hoping for some advice that would slow the bleeding out of a nest egg.
How bout some compassion for a fellow member instead of looking for a pissing contest
I feel a lot of compassion for anyone losing a parent like that.
I feel less compassion about losing the “nest egg”. I feel very strongly that you ought to help your kids get on their feet while you are alive. But despite having just inherited some cash from my mother, I’m not sure it’s a social good that people tend to inherit stuff when their parents die.
That being said, i just thought of a stupid tax loophole he ought to ask a lawyer about.
What could be the ramifications? Nothing wrong with keeping your family’s stuff - a topic for its own thread.
Do tell on loopholes-share!
I DM’d him, since the thread is closed. But i suggested he ask his lawyer whether it’s too late to drop a lot of money into life insurance.
I agree with you. I’ve lost all of my grandparents and never inherited anything and couldn’t care less.
My wife’s grandmother is pretty old and will likely not be around for very long. Her daughter (my wife’s aunt) is obsessed with how much she will get in inheritance. My wife is the only grandchild from her grandparents, and neither she nor I care about an inheritance. We value her, for as long as she’ll be around, not her stuff. (One correction, my wife really wanted her deceased grandfather’s nutcracker collection, but her grandmother already gave them to her. It was solely for sentimental reasons. Heck, half of those are gifts that my wife and I gave her grandfather over the years.)
I understand the need for money. I’ve been poor most of my life. Only in the past decade have I lived in such a way that I’m not worried about my income (and I’m far from wealthy, I just make enough with my modest spending habits that I don’t live paycheck-to-paycheck anymore, but I still live frugally like I did when I was poorer). I know that an inheritance can be a big deal. But sometimes it seems like a person looks at a family member and sees how much they can inherit, not seeing them as a person anymore. It’s a sad thing.
Both of my parents are still alive. If they blew away all of their net worth in the last years just enjoying life and left me nothing, I’d seriously be happy for them.
I disagree, obviously. I wanted a pit thread for offenders who weren’t habitual abusers who deserved and should have their own pit threads. Which is why we’ve on two separate occasions directed people to Poster Specific Pit threads. And I wanted to stop long digressions about whether the poster in question was a Troll or not, because we’re a bunch that’ll spend reams of electrons agreeing that someone is being a shit, while simultaneously arguing they’re not a troll.
As for Mr. Duality - I’d be more sympathetic if they had stopped at talking about how they were draining the estate. You’re correct in that our for-profit system is horrible, and prone to abuse. But since the opening line of their OP specifically mentioned his concerns in light of his inheritance, it seemed pretty damn selfish. So yeah, I’m on @Roderick_Femm’s side of things - if you post here, be prepared to be jumped on if it seems your motives are suspect.
For that matter, I’m sympathetic in the sense that outside of inheritance, I’ll likely never be more than comfortable financially. Sure, that’s fine, but I would like to do more, see more of the world before I too kick the bucket. It’s a selfish motive, and if I was as selfless as @puzzlegal I’d probably a chunk of it into those far less fortunate than I, but I’m not. It was funds earned by my parents, for themselves, but also their children, and their grandchildren. And thankfully, I don’t think it’s enough to ruin my niece and nephew (I’m ruined but by my own hand dammit!).
I am not a selfless person, but I’m a reasonably honest one. For that matter, so is Mr.Duality. Which is one reason I didn’t participate in the thread - I may be selfish and mean, but I’m not a hypocrite.
I’m not selfless. I have enough money. The actuary gig pays well, and my parents gave me money when i was getting established financially. It’s easy to be generous when you aren’t hungry.
But I’ve given my kids money. In fact, i got most of my “inheritance” as a taxable gift before my mother died, and i didn’t take it. I asked her to gift it directly to my kids, instead. Because it matters more now, when they are young adults, than it will whenever i get around to kicking the bucket. I hope they don’t leave me to the wolves in my decrepitude. But i also have siblings who would take me in.
I dunno. It’s a hard question. But i don’t think it’s wise or healthy to count on an inheritance.
I understand both that a person should drain their savings before relying on public assistance, AND that it can be devastating for parent and child to see that happen. If the parent spent a chunk of their life trying to build up something to pass on to their kid, and their kid spent a chunk of their life believing they had an inheritance, it’s gonna be a big shock to both when they realize it’s not gonna happen.
So: the system in this case is working, and I 100% get being shocked and frustrated by it.
As many as it takes.
This is why inheritance planning is a thing. If you got two bucks and 3 heirs you need it.
And there’s a huge difference between;
‘The system sucks, how can we fix it so no one has to go through this.’
and
‘The system sucks, how can I fix it so I don’t have to go through this.’
To do what? Pad the bbq pit with petty complaints about other members because you find their internet musings irritating? Sounds like your end goal is bad bad bad.
do you even hear yourself
I, for one, support @Beckdawrek criticising the rest of us. She’s shown good form on raccoons, children, deer, bears and a wide assortment of other botherations.
You know the cure if you don’t like the contents. Or do you prefer beating your tiny fists against the bars of the crib?
Sam Stone went home
To his wife and family
After getting the boot
from the SDMF’nB
I have rights to bitch if I want. So there! (I don’t complain very much, mostly just respond to others.)
I think this is a good place to vent your complaints and move on. Thereby letting off steam that could really turn contentious.
And that’s good, good, good.
ETA: I wouldn’t read this thread if it bothered me as much as all that.
'Twas the banning of Sam Stone for being a sock,
In the virtual realm where the chatter did flock.
All flimsy were the usernames, and the trolls did mock,
The moderators’ struggle, 'gainst the fakes they’d unlock.
"Beware the Sam Stone, my mods! The sock puppeteer,
The mimicry that deceives, the troll that’s insincere.
Beware the banhammer, and shun the shill’s veneer,
The user who masquerades, their true intent unclear."
With banhammer in hand, the mods they went to hunt,
The sock puppets and trolls, they aimed to confront.
They sought out duplicity, each false account to front,
And they wielded their power, as Sam Stone bore the brunt.
Oh, Sam Stone, the sly deceiver, in disguises he’d attire,
With artful posts and comments that often did inspire.
Yet, the moderators knew his game and saw through the mire,
As they swung the banhammer high, setting the trolls on fire.
And as the digital battlefield raged, a fierce and endless bout,
The moderators banished Sam Stone, without a single doubt.
They defended their community, their principles devout,
For a troll-free space, where genuine discussions could sprout.
So, let this be a lesson, a tale in cyberspace,
Of the banning of Sam Stone, and the trolls they did erase.
For in the realm of conversation, where honesty we embrace,
We guard against deception, in this online dwelling place.
- ChatGPT
Was that really chatGPT ?
It was. ChatGPT 3.5. The prompt was “create a poem in the style of “jabberwock” about the banning of Sam Stone for being a sock”