I’m with you, Duke, I don’t pull those stunts anymore.
Take the thing you fear most, do it, and the courage comes afterward.
When I first started the “bar games”, I was a lot like some of the people on SDMB with confidence problems. I sometimes even bought into the whole “nice guys don’t get chicks, only assholes get chicks” routine.
As an aside:
Just do it. Hang yer balls out and go. If you get rejected, there will be another woman around later who may be interested. After a while, rejection loses its sting because the ones who actually like you make up for it. Rejection is the cost of finding a good woman.
I’m not married, but I believe nice guys get nice women if they work at it. Assholes just attract women who are attracted to assholes. Who wants that?!
Those are my insights into the thoughts of some guys at bars…
From a former “player” who was always a “nice guy” at heart, and now doesn’t mind the label “nice guy”,