I AM a bigger girl (65lbs lighter than i was in april…but still not ‘skinny’)! BUT…having said that…i dont just want a guy who will ‘accept me even though i’m fat’! What a crock of shit! I want some guy who is actually going to look past the exterior at the interior and fall in love with who i am, not what i am! Regardless of what size i am.
I once dated a guy who only liked ‘bigger’ women. When i was with him, he made me feel great about myself…i thought life was great! To me, he was attractive, had a wonderful personality and a great heart. He DJ’s in a night club, and was always getting ribbed by other guys at work about having ‘fat’ girl friends. He use to respond by saying…‘well…you like big boobs…you like blonds…i like chubby girls’ (he actually got very offended when i would say i am fat) So yes, dating him was great, and he is still a friend…BUT …and here is the kicker…i use to think that because he was with me ‘regardless’ of how big i was…that he truely cared about ME! I was wrong! I found out that a girl that he was engaged to before him and i dated told him that she wanted to lose some weight before they got married…his response…‘dont even think of it…you lose weight, and there wont be a wedding’. After we broke up, we stayed friends, and now that i have lost a lot of weight…well…i really see the true colors! I was so excited about a new pair of jeans i was able to buy at ‘regular size’ clothing store. We met for coffee one day…and i said ‘hey…i got new jeans…you like them?’…his response…‘i have to say…you’re cute…but they would have looked better on you in a size 26…you’re just not as attractive as you were’!
I say BULL!!! YOU ASS! (Yes…he’s still my friend, so i can call him and ass…and i did) I AM STILL THE SAME PERSON!
So…yes, I want someone who is OK with my size…but I want someone who will be ok with WHATEVER size i am…my heart is still the same, who i am is still the same…just love me for me…
Actually, regarding MODE magazine, I think it went away. There is a new magazine, though, Grace, you can see the site for it at http://www.gracestyle.com/
It has different sizes of women in it. I like that magazine a lot. The last issue had a photo of Mia Tyler in it, and sheez louize, she looked so good.
To the OP: nothing wrong with dating big girls. Some guys like skinny girls, some guys like big girls, some guys like squirrels, some guys like guys, some guys like anything with legs. All a matter of personal preference.
My preference, incidentally, is bunnies. One in particular. I am, however, open to, ah, male suggestion if it meets the favor of said bunny.
I like girls. I like girls with a sharp sense of humor, with a sense of self-respect. I like girls who are highly intelligent. And, I like girls over 38.
Very skinny girls unnerve me, that’s just how I am wired. So-called big girls are unspeakably alluring to me. But I gotta tell ya, it doesn’t matter in the end what size, shade, tone, heft, color, whatever. If you haven’t got it between the ears, IMHO, you haven’t got it.
And, you’ve got it, Cinnamon Girl.
As for the OP’er, love yourself. You love yourself, men will adore you. You’ll be beating them off with a stick. Then again, maybe that’s your thing.
Just for cuauhtemoc and Turbo Dog’s information, I am the bunny 'Punha is referring to.
And no, I’m not a real bunny otherwise it’d be really hard to type this post to clarify things cuz I don’t think most bunnies are up on their typing skills.
It’s all about what works for you. I’m 5’1" and a size 3. I don’t diet and I drink a lot of beer. My body just wants to be that size. I get comments from other women like “You’re so skinny, I wish I had your body.” I find this offensive. I’m not so superficial that I try to be thin, I just let my body be what it is. My sister is 5’3" and a size 12-14. She is the most beautiful woman I know. A few years back she started dieting and went down to a size 8. It just wasn’t right on her. I actually complimented her on gaining weight. IMHO, it’s not worth being attractive to others if you’re uncomfortable.
