This is a matter of annoyance for me but sometimes it can be very upsetting- I have never had a boyfriend or even a guy interested in me. I am only a high school junior, and I know many high school guys (and older) aren’t worth the effort but it still annoys me. I am moderately intelligent, funny, and nice-lookin but I seem to repel males. Sigh. So anyone have similar problems? advice? or just feel free to hit on me, that might make me feel better.
Most guys your age don’t follow what they want, they tend to do the superficial thing and look for the barbies to date. Also, some girls are just plain intimidating to guys who like them in general. [I’d say I fit in this category. Being confident and independent takes its toll on how many guys will ask you out unless they’re just out to tap the booty.]
rockstar -
No advice, just a word from someone who’s been there. I didn’t have a date or a boyfriend until I was 24. Last January. So yes, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It’s just a REALLY long tunnel sometimes.
Since I’m a girl, and it may freak you out, I won’t hit on you. But I know how ya feel, kiddo. Actually, my story is worse. I have had several near-relationships. Yes, I can’t even hang on to guys long enough to actually have a relationship. At least you haven’t been plagued by that. You have never had an attempted relationship, which means you’ve never failed at it! I have never had a real boyfriend, but I have failed at relationships! Maybe when the chance for a relationship comes, I back out. Or maybe I just loath commitment. Yep. That’s it. I no longer mourn not having a boyfriend, because I don’t think I would enjoy having one. Obviously no guys will ask me out, the two or three who ever liked me never even officially did. I’ve never been on an actual date. Guys don’t run after me. I’m just an object of beauty to them! Or I ignore them all. Yes, it is my fault that I have no boyfriend, and I’ve learned to accept it. I actually like the strength it took me to resist relationships that didn’t feel right. So, I’m much better off than you. heh heh. I have a sad life… 
your question shouldn’t be what’s wrong with you. What’s wrong with ME?!?!?
Well, I never had any boys show the slightest bit of interest in me.I thought I was doomed. Now I am in a two-year relationship with the most perfect guy in the world. If I can find a relationship, anybody can. Just give it time.
I take it back. A combination of my intelligence, hideous face and horrid personality repel boys!!! I’m a freak! I’m a troll!
Ok…I really still blame myself, but the other junk doesn’t help the situation any.
Right off the bat, I can’t hit on you… I’m married. (It would also be illegal)
Secondly, I’ve had similar problems. From late elementary to about my 4th year of high school. Completely devastating to a guys self esteem. Apparently the same for gals, it would seem.
Anyway, my advice is to not worry about it. Easier said than done? Perhaps, but it is the best advice I can give you. Focus on building friendships. They are longer lasting, more fun and most importantly, will give you a wickedly solid foundation for future dating practices.
On last thing…
At school dances, look to the far wall. You’ll see a row of guys just standing there. They feel exactly the same way you do and would probably just die if you went up and asked one to dance. 
Ok so you all see Osip and think I am gonna hit on her.
Suckers!
No really, She has to have at LEAST 50 posts before then
so hurry up young lady so this lecherous old fool can flirt with you!
Osip
rockstar, how YOU doin?
Don’t feel bad about it, rockstar. I just turned 19, and I only had my first date last month. I know it can be hard, but you’ll get over it. I never had any girls interested in me in high school (at least that I was aware of). I had plenty of friends that were girls, but none that wanted to get into a relationship. I was the guy they talked to about if a friend of mine would be interested, or if they broke up and needed a shoulder to cry on. sigh I’m still that guy. Though now, I’m starting to come out of the shell to a certain degree. Anyway, don’t worry about it. I’m sure you don’t “repel” males, it only looks that way when you’re feeling kinda down. It can be hard but you’ll find that everything will change for the better when you least expect it.
I seem to have the same effect on girls that you’re talking about rockstar. ::sigh::
I know how you feel, I have similar problems. Except for me I’m moderately intelligent, nice, and funny looking…
Seriously, though, my current line of thought on this is that the nice guys tend to “turtle” (read: hide in their shells) because movies and TV tell us that the nice guys aren’t the ones that are out there blatantly hitting on the girls. Sooner or later, though, we come to the conclusion - albeit usually 5-6 years too late - that this isn’t the way to meet the moderately intelligent, funny, nice-looking girls in the world and then we start hitting on women in our (hopefully) cute and socially inept ways. Don’t worry, one of us will find you eventually. And, heck, maybe you’ll find one that can date you legally… 
rockstar, I had only one bf in high school, and we didn’t get together until we were nearly done with our junior year. I also had a long-term (almost 9 year) relationship that never really made it to the bf-gf stage. It just ended this past April. (I turned 23 last month.)
These experiences taught me two lessons. The first is what silent_rob sorta said: things have a way of happening when you least expect them to. The second lesson is what you think you want is not necessarily what you’ll be happy with.
The second was the one hardest learned.
My advice to you is what dewt’s already said.
I also add my vote (or whatever) to what Dewt said. Don’t expect all of us to be able to dance very well, however.
Me too. I’m there, and I agree with Dewt, even though it hasn’t yet worked out for me. Eventually, I realized that if I connect my happiness to whether or not I have someone in my life, I’m going to be very unhappy for a long long time. So, I ignore the whole subject and try to be happy. Look on the bright side - it’s cheaper this way and you get better grades.
You might want to look closer to home too rockstar. Do you have an older brother or a tough dad who might be scaring away potential suitors? Are there any bad rumors going around about you? Did you rip one in home room and are now forever associated with that event? Is something green hanging off the end of your nose?
If the answer is no to all of these, then there is nothing to worry about. Give if until 3/4 of the way through senior year. By then guys will find their balls and start being brave enough to approach you.
There you go, practical advise from someone who had zero social life in high school.
I never dated in high school - in fact, I was so shy and awkward, I was afraid to talk to all boys and most girls. Then I joined the Navy and suddenly I was in a 50:1 male:female environment - a mad rollercoaster ride for a couple of years, then back to nothing.
I was 29, almost 30, when I met and eloped with my husband - we knew each other 4 weeks, and we’re closing in on our 17th anniversary.
I guess my point is - ya just never know… But don’t let it make you crazy or desperate. Enjoy your life and be open to opportunities - ya just never know…
Thanks everyone. You all are makin me feel a bit better.
(And silent_rob, we can talk later ;))
Don’t be afraid to turn a few away for fear of being alone.
If you find son=meone who always wants to do their thing instead of yours, don’t bother.
If he has no interests in life outside the sitting on the couch watching the crystal cube you’ll be bored to tears in a week.
Above all SMILE.