I have several types I go for in general. I like pale girls, definitely. A plus when living in the Pacific Northwest, as we all tend to get pasty white here, regardless of ethnicity. I like girls with straight auburn hair, and raven haired buxom lasses. Skinny girls that wear size zero pants generally turn me off, I don’t like being able to see a girl’s hip or rib bones in everyday situations. Women I’ve gone for also tend to wear minimal makeup.
Personality-wise I like them rather geeky and sassy. Interested in world events without being fanatical, politically. Loves Discovery Channel and reading National Geographic. Likes good beer and being a foodie.
I also have a thing for Suicide Girls, but I don’t know if a girl with half sleeves and Betty Page haircut would mesh well with my personality. Like many I adore English accents as well.
My physical ideal in a mate is 5’0 - 5’3" and blonde. However, I’m attracted to all types (though very rarely anyone in the “chunky” range weightwise, possibly because I’m unusually skinny myself) and my fiancee is 5’6" and a brunette (though slender).
Hmm. In terms of looks, I prefer men with darker coloring (hair at the very least). My long-term BF is black-haired and olive skinned, so fits right into this. I don’t think I could ever be attracted to a man with red hair, blond hair, freckles, or light red-toned skin.
Beyond that I just prefer normal-looking guys I guess, with cute faces (you’ve got to have something ‘pretty’, eyes or nice lips). Not super-thin, not fat, not tall (average is best and short is fine, but shorter than me might be weird, I dunno), no crazy hair styles (long hair doesn’t count - I’m talking about mullets or mohawks), no tattoos or piercings, no extreme fashion choices.
Personality is tricky and I think I’m picker than the average. Most people I find nice enough but beyond the surface I could never be friends with them because I just wouldn’t enjoy their company, much less be able to stop (mentally) nitpicking enough for romance.
One thing that is essential is that they be a quiet person. I don’t like people who draw a lot of attention.
My BF is the only man I ever met whose personality I found extremely attractive. Growing up, I felt like every boy’s mother, which is just one reason I didn’t date…
I likes 'em all. I don’t have a specific type per se; in my life, I’ve dated blondes, brunettes and redheads; short to tall; slim to not so slim. Freckles and no freckles.
But if Jane Krakowski showed up at my door wearing nothing but a fur coat and a smile…
My type: intelligent, and he has to have a sophisticated sense of humor, preferably a little on the twisted side. There are different kinds of intelligence, of course, but for me, here’s an example - if he can’t spell? Forget it.
Physically - taller than me (5’6"), large bone structure, fluffy/husky/fat/whatever you wanna call it (I’m a chubby chaser), dark hair (brown or black), nice big hands and a nice healthy ass. Eye color and race are irrelevant. Eyeglasses are a plus. Bald can be very, very sexy, too.
I can remember getting crushes on chubby darkheaded boys as early as kindergarten. I have dated outside of my type (I’ve dated a couple of assless men, for example), but for the most part most of my men have had most or all of the qualities I mentioned in #1. I married a guy with all of those qualities, incidentally.
I think for the most part our types are hardwired into us and there’s not a whole lot we can do about it. We can keep an open mind and give people that aren’t our type a chance, of course, but I don’t think I have any control over what turns my crank.
Anti-type: men shorter than me, men with small body frames (even if they’re fluffy, if their hands are smaller than mine, forget it), blondes, redheads (I’m a redhead and so was my first love, we looked like siblings and it was creepy), skinny guys, and men with tiny asses just squick me out, I don’t care how grab-able they are. A high voice will turn me off, too – I can’t articulate what is “too high” but I know it when I hear it.
I’m neither glad nor upset about having a type. It is what it is
There are only two things the men who attract me have in common - height of no more than average, with a preference for shorter than taller - I’d rather he was shorter than me than over six feet - and stocky rather slim or wiry builds.
In more specific physical terms, I find that a classically “Jewish” look will almost always get a second look from me - dark curly hair, full lips, impressive nose. Put it with average height (5’8" to 5’11"), stocky build, and brown or hazel eyes and it will almost always register on the attractive end of my preference scale. Don’t know when I started noticing this - as long as I can remember noting men’s looks, so at least back to my late teens.
Of course, I married a blond, blue-eyed man with a distinctly Irish look, so my “type” is not limited.
For me to like a girl, she should be smart and slightly eccentric. I like tall girls, but they shouldn’t be taller than me (5’11"). Gray or blue eyes are nice and I’m partial to light brown hair. I prefer introverts to extroverts, and glasses are always a plus. Thin is good, but super skinny not so much. I don’t like it when girls wear too much makeup or are a slave to fashion, although I like creative clothing choice.
My current girlfriend pretty much fits the above criteria. She has gray eyes and light brown hair, is 5’9", wears glasses, and is really into Anime. She says that I’m her type. I’m tall, lean, dark-haired, have eyes the color of cognac, and an aquiline nose. I study Ornithology and am pretty intelligent. So I guess now you get two types in one
Taller than me, but not much. I’m about 5’ 4" Dark, but not swarthy, not hairy. Strong but not body builder, must love to dance, laugh and fix things, like sports, high sex drive, not coy about flirting with other women. I love men who say nice things and make people smile, who’ll pull someone up to dance, be excited, be exciting.
The Forearm Factor seems to be the dealbreaker. Dude must have the right thickness of wrist and forearm - dunno what that’s all about but there it is.
Blonde blue eyed types have a sort of faded look to me, and I’m one myself.
There’s a mental type I’m attracted to, and won’t date anyone who doesn’t fit (because we just won’t get along.) That’s introverted, smart, creative, and geeky.
Then there’s eye candy. My eye candy is skinny tall guys, preferably in a suit. (David Bowie as the Thin White Duke is pretty much the epitome). Actually I’ll drool over pretty much anybody in a suit, male or female. Or even just wearing a waistcoat. Yum. Or in pirate garb (the Captain Morgan ads are pretty much porn to me, especially the one where he swims).
Oddly enough, the only two guys I’ve dated long-term have been stocky and one of them was only a couple of inches taller than me.
I don’t like classically handsome guys like George Clooney or that type. They look boring to me.
But the list of guys I’ll swoon over is long and varied.
Slim, black (or dark brown) hair, firm b-cups, cute face and ‘smiling’ eyes… i know this because this is the type of girl I always end up going after. When we are talking about real relationships that stand a chance - which are often girls I ‘grow’ into - I’m all over the map…something about a click.
If you’re talking pure sexiness, I have a thing for dark hair in men. Dark hair and more delicate features than rugged. I definitely dig the nerd vibe. Ben Affleck with glasses.
I don’t think I’ve had enough relationships to have an official type, and the guys I’ve been into have been all shapes, sizes and colors.
But for pure head-turning instant attraction - dark hair, fastidiously dressed, geek.
While I don’t want to talk about anything remotely relevant to recent events, I will answer the OP’s query. I was attracted to girls with dark if not black hair, and also with a certain foreigness about them, from as early as I remember. There was an Argentinian girl who lived down the street when I was 0-6 years old that I was smitten with. My high school sweetheart fit the mold perfectly too (curly black hair, from Turkey).
If you look at photos of the 3 most serious of my boyfriends (including the one I married) you’ll find they’re all about 5’10", just a tad overweight, with full beards. I was never comfortable with really tall guys, and I don’t find really thin guys appealing. I also don’t like tattoos and body piercings, altho I could probably deal with a guy who wore earrings. I definitely like a man who takes pride in his appearance - that is, clean, combed, with clothing that fits and is in good condition.
On the non-physical side, intelligence and a slightly warped sense of humor are big turn-ons. Drinking, smoking, and drug use are absolute turn-offs. (By drinking, I mean drinking to excess. A glass of wine is no biggie, a six pack of beer is.) Language is a biggie, too. If he feels the need to cuss all the time, I don’t want to be around him.
Tall, extremely thin, jet-black hair, heavy eyebrows, long eyelashes, aquiline nose and 24/7 five-o’clock shadow. Deep, dark eyes. Very tight, well-defined body, long fingers and toes.
Smart, outrageous sense of humor, sexually submissive but adventurous.
Of all my relationships, my current partner is the only one who exactly fits this description. But none of this is carved in stone, and my previous partners had other qualities that I was attracted to.
I had my first sexual fantasy at the age of five. The object of that fantasy was a kid on my street who was very tall and lanky, with dark hair and an aquiline nose. So my taste in men goes that far back, and probably earlier. I have no idea why.
In my experience, the women I think are my “type” are never the ones I actually make a connection with. Your “type” is surprisingly meaningless when it comes to actually finding somebody you actually want to be with.
Smart, eloquent, has something to say. I’m surprised (although I shouldn’t be) how important those things are to me. Being able to simply communicate without it sounding forced is something that, until recently, I assumed everyone could do…
Since I’m male, I think I’m required to add something physical? Okay. Light skin. shrug Not a deal-breaker, but it’s the only real physical quality I can think of.
