When a young lady looks at your left hand for a ring..

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I went back to school to take some night classes. I’m 32 and married, and this girl is about 22. I’m not going to cheat on my wife, but it feels good to be flirted with, if that’s what it was.

We talked after class about the lesson, and she was very pleasant, smiling and such, but the only thing that stood out was that once when I was talking (I talk with my hands a little) her eyes briefly tracked my left index finger where my wedding ring is.

So, ladies, was she checking me out, looking to see my status, or is my euphoria all for nothing? :smiley:

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She was wondering why your wedding ring was on your index finger.

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There are times I don’t wear my ring. Say, I’m home on a weekend, and run to the store, or usually when I go to the gym I take it off to workout.

Once, in the gym I was having a quick howyadoing with a girl in her 20’s or so. Not a conversation I even started. After a minute she actually grabbed my left hand, saw an obvious ring-spot there and started teasing me about leaving my ring off at the gym so I could flirt with girls, but that she’s too smart for that.

It was all said with a smile but it kind of wierded me out anyway. Yeah, she was checking you out.

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Silly me…Ring finger, I meant. :wink:

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I don’t think it was exactly flirting with you … more checking if you were potential flirting material.

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I only recently learned that men wear wedding rings. My father never wore one and I don’t think he ever had one. Neither he nor I wear jewellery of any sort save a watch if you can call it such.

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When a young lady looks at my left hand for a ring—

She will say “Is that a tattoo? Wow, that’s pretty cool.”

I will reply “Yes it is, my wife and I wanted wedding rings that we never had to take off.”

She will close with “Wow, that’s awesome.”

Regards,
N8 - Who has had this conversation almost daily for the last two years, and it never gets old.

Edit - Yeah, she was sizing you up for a potential flirt fest.

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I do this all the time [look at guys’ hands for wedding rings] and sorry to say, I’m usually not flirting with them. I’m just super nosey so I like to check stuff like that out, it’s just a habit now. I’ll check out your shoes too & your watch. I wonder how many married guys I gave an ego boost to that wasn’t intended…

In fairness though, most men look at my breasts just as unsubtley and I don’t assume they’re gonna start hitting on me. The boobs are there, they glance, no harm no foul.

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In college I was a little older than most of my classmates, and married, due to putting in four years of military service right after high school. I was always surprised at the number of girls that didn’t think to look for a ring.

One great girl that I talked to before class every day finally noticed the ring after about a month, grabbed my hand and exclaimed “Oh shit!”. Then she followed up with “Now I feel better. I thought you hadn’t asked me out because you didn’t like me”.

I guess most 18-19 year olds aren’t yet used to having to check for wedding rings.

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I sure wasn’t. I learned the lesson the hard way. And even with all that, I’m still not very good about thinking to look for a ring.

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I check it out - mainly as a way of immediately sorting the wheat from the chaff, so to speak. I should add, BTW that I’m happily partnered. It’s simply as a matter of habit. It’s not an indication I am flirting with you - but if I see one, there’s no way it would have progressed to that. If I don’t, there’s still no guarantee it would go that way. And as others have said, I’ll also have checked out your shoes, grooming, hands and watch by this point.

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So it seems that the guys say “yes” and the ladies say “no”. There goes my ego boost for the month. :wink:

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Well, it looks like you’re safe to brag to your guy friends, if that’s your thing.

As a happily married woman, it’s been a long time since I looked, but when I did it was a pre-flirt. If I looked now, it might mean I thought you would be good to introduce to one of my single friends. Or I might think you and your wife would be good “couple friends” and invite you to dinner.

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I considered doing this about 15 years ago. I am so glad I don’t have to schedule a voluntary skin graft with my HMO next month. :cool: Best tattoo I never got.

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I’m 26, and I’m still not quite used to it, but I usually remember to, now. A few years ago, I ended up embarrassed a few times as a result of not thinking to look.

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Interesting…I’m not at a point where I’m flirting with guys on purpose, but if I was I don’t think it would occur to me to check for a ring (I’m 25). I just never think about people’s wedding rings; I couldn’t tell you if any of my married friends wear theirs. I think I’d assume that married people wouldn’t carry an interaction any further than their spouses were comfortable with.

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I was coming in to say almost exactly this.

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That is pretty awesome.

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Happily married people, maybe. The other kind however, the kind that will have absolutely no compunction about sucking you into the middle of the unholy and unhappy shitstorm that is their life, will be losing their rings and chatting you up six ways to Sunday because they no longer care what their spouse is comfortable with. Caveat emptor.

That sounded a little more cynical than I had intended.

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I always check for wedding rings before flirting. 25, male by the way. It was a $700 lesson to figure this out but boy did it stick.