Some responses from the last of last week’s thread:
Not really, or at least not with the full set.
Right now the kids are 1, 3, 3, 4, 5, 7, & 9. The 1yo can walk, but not enough for out in big places like a festival. The 5, 7, & 9 yos are mostly self-tending as long as you keep an eye on them so they don’t dart out of sight into the crowd. Which leaves two 3s & a 4. The 4 is a fully capable walker runner and very sweet, but is developmentally delayed and has the self-preservation skills of a 2yo. IOW, none whatsoever. But she is fast.
So Daughter has a 4-place toddler stroller / folding cart that holds the 1, 3, 3, & (barely) the 4 all belted in with 5 point harnesses. The 5, 7, & 9 walk nearby or holding onto the stroller if it’s really crowded or out in say a parking lot.
I cannot imagine the chaos if she put the 4 littles / semi-littles all on leashes and tried to keep the herd under control. Imagine having a chihuahua, 2 hyperactive spaniels, and a mastiff with a severe case of Squirrel! all on leashes. Good luck getting that gaggle to do anything except tie you and them to the nearest tree in a glorious tangle of entwined leashes.
Lots of couples are in that boat regardless of who dies first. The loss of one SS payment and maybe pension when the first dies leaves the second with a severe problem. I watched that happen several times at my condo. Always a financial / logistic tragedy on top of the bereavement after most of a lifetime together. Lotta ways that goes quickly to hell for the survivor.
In your case it sounds like you have a decent state pension but he has no pension, just SS. A scary future to be sure no matter how that plays out.
Separately, Wow, just wow. He’s really wandered into a bad place mentally. I’m sorry you (and he) are dealing with this. I admire your dedication. Weed sounds like the minimum it takes to stay sane.
Using 2yo fermented shrimp sounds like a risky way to make alfredo. 
Good for both of you. Painful, but good.
From this week:
Apparently the ideal guidance is a blood test (kidney function = eGFR specifically) quarterly if on a statin. It’s what I do.
My fasting test instructions are that black coffee is acceptable as are all my normal wake-up meds.
Funny, but when I get my fasting test done first thing in the morning I’m famished by 8am when I can eat. But on a lazy day at home, breakfast often waits until 11am when Her Ladyship has finally deigned to arise, and I suffer no starvation while waiting. What’s up with that? My stomach has some odd habits.