There’s this adult-oriented comic I flipped through (or saw a preview of) once where the title character tries to engage some guy sitting nearby in outdoor cafe seating in conversation. The other guy asks to be left alone, and the title character replies snottily, something along the lines of “oh, I’m sorry for wanting to be social like a normal human being”.
This thread reminds me of that. I didn’t like the character’s behavior either.
Reading the OP I thought for sure he was recounting a dream or perhaps writing a surreal story.
Between this, Yakuza’s exploits, and the quarry guy there seems to be a strange trend here of bragging about one’s surreal lifestyles.
If this really did happen, I’m not sure why you are so proud. If you stab someone in the back, you have also “won” a game the other person did not willingly participate in, but I can’t imagine why you would be proud about such a thing.
Kozmik,You need to start working toward practically getting a Ph.D. in appropriate public behavior, reading social cues, and adjusting your world view based on overwhelming feedback.
It’s downright creepy that you feel “won”. You created an unpleasant disturbance and bothered someone who may have had good reason for not wanting to engage in conversation.
It would be a good idea for you to stop initiating conversations with strangers. It isn’t working for you.
He accused me of being rude to the elderly man. I admit, I was rude to the elderly man, but only because he was rude to me first.
That’s what happened:
I keep starting to type things, and then have to remind myself this isn’t a pit thread.
Did you also tell him, “The Jerk Store just called, and they’re all out of you!”?
The problem isn’t how the conversation should have went or could have went but how it did have went. Which is very very badly, entirely due to your efforts.
Also, I think I just pulled my grammar groin.
Sooo I shouldn’t post about the time a butch lesbian(are there many straight women wearing all men’s clothes including loafers with shaved heads?) almost verbally raped me then, since posters here don’t respond well to surreal conversations in public.
“Now when I say I eat meat are you catching on to what I mean?”
“Yes and I am still not interested in the least, YOU catch a hint”
At least she didn’t try to shake your hand.
That’s right, it isn’t.
See above. Please keep in mind that we’re in MPSIMS and dial back the “asshole” language.
Thanks,
twickster, MPSIMS moderator
You keep repeating this like it excuses your bad behavior. Do you not get why this is a bad thing?
Yes, he was rude to you. That does not give you a pass to do the same.
Y’know, when I pulled that kind of excuse when I was a kid (“Yeah, I hit him but he hit me first!”) I got yelled at just as much as my brother did. Other people’s poor behavior (and frankly, all we have to go on is your description which I’m taking with a grain of salt) does not give you a free pass to act just as badly or worse. Grow up.
Why was he rude to me, tdn?
Which is why I also admit that I made the wrong response:
How would I know?
I don’t see that he was rude to you, Kozmik.
Look, someone says “I don’t want to talk,” the “to you” is implied. Saying the extra two words or not doesn’t change the meaning at all. He is under no obligation to talk to you. Could he have made polite, if pointless, conversation? Sure. He didn’t want to and I’m going with the majority in thinking you were in the wrong here. You didn’t teach him a lesson, you just increased his stress level for no good reason.
Now that we’ve established what he said, “I don’t want to talk to you.” and what I should have said, “Oh, sorry, I’m getting an estimate and wondered if this place was reasonable.” I want to establish, if possible, that there was more that was implied. How he said it and the way that he said it took me aback, startled me, and would have left me literally speechless. As I mentioned, he had the most condenscending tone I have ever heard in my life. He looked at me as though I was unworthy of being in his presence, which is why I felt uncomfortable. So I made a faux paux? So what? I just wanted to convey to him that I’m getting an estimate and wondering about whether this was a good place or not (this much should have been implied) and leave it at that. He implied that him talking to me was somehow beneath him. What was implied in “I don’t want to talk to you.” is “How dare you even think that you may speak to me.”
I don’t understand this post. I guess that’s why it belongs in this thread.
Clearly not, as you responded to him.
That’s what you inferred, but there’s not a lot of evidence to support that. Regardless, random strangers don’t owe you respect or a conversation, so everything you did after the initial response was out of line.
Honestly we don’t know in what tone it was said. I can imagine one particular way of saying it that would, indeed, be extraordinarily rude.
I’m glad I’m not the only one.